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A woman started off really liking me, we even kissed after first date.
But she then ghosted me (didn't reply to my messages)
She then later seemed to have blocked me on wattsapp because I can no longer see her 'last seen' status.
What did I do?
Did I scare her?
But she then ghosted me (didn't reply to my messages)
She then later seemed to have blocked me on wattsapp because I can no longer see her 'last seen' status.
What did I do?
Did I scare her?
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#2
(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
A woman started off really liking me, we even kissed after first date.
But she then ghosted me (didn't reply to my messages)
She then later seemed to have blocked me on wattsapp because I can no longer see her 'last seen' status.
What did I do?
Did I scare her?
A woman started off really liking me, we even kissed after first date.
But she then ghosted me (didn't reply to my messages)
She then later seemed to have blocked me on wattsapp because I can no longer see her 'last seen' status.
What did I do?
Did I scare her?
Just move on and keep trying until you find something that works out.
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#3
Yeah you've likely freaked her out in some way and she has felt her children aren't safe.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
Yeah you've likely freaked her out in some way and she has felt her children aren't safe.
Yeah you've likely freaked her out in some way and she has felt her children aren't safe.
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(Original post by fallen_acorns)
you don't need to do anything. That's dating, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If anything her rudeness in just cutting contact outright and blocking you should make you less likely to do anything.
Just move on and keep trying until you find something that works out.
you don't need to do anything. That's dating, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If anything her rudeness in just cutting contact outright and blocking you should make you less likely to do anything.
Just move on and keep trying until you find something that works out.
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#6
I don't understand how you'd expect anyone on TSR to know what she's thinking but there's not much you can do regardless
Not sure why her having children is relevant, either
Not sure why her having children is relevant, either
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#7
(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
Really?
Really?
I've had friends hook up with mums a couple of time casually, then they suddenly as you say, actively block all contact, and it's often because they sobered up/had time to reflect and clocked the person is a risk to their children/parenting (it doesn't have to be sinister, being an irresponsible party animal is enough often)
Some mums also have a habit of asking the police to check out anyone they start dating and the police will often help.
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#8
It was slightly impolite of her not to explain her reasons, but ultimately she's not obliged to.
Second guessing her motivation, or asking a load of rando's online, isn't going to bring you much comfort.
It just didn't work out this time and it was no fault of either of you.
Second guessing her motivation, or asking a load of rando's online, isn't going to bring you much comfort.
It just didn't work out this time and it was no fault of either of you.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
I cant say 100% tbh, but yes, that's entirely possible and happens often.
I've had friends hook up with mums a couple of time casually, then they suddenly as you say, actively block all contact, and it's often because they sobered up/had time to reflect and clocked the person is a risk to their children/parenting (it doesn't have to be sinister, being an irresponsible party animal is enough often)
Some mums also have a habit of asking the police to check out anyone they start dating and the police will often help.
I cant say 100% tbh, but yes, that's entirely possible and happens often.
I've had friends hook up with mums a couple of time casually, then they suddenly as you say, actively block all contact, and it's often because they sobered up/had time to reflect and clocked the person is a risk to their children/parenting (it doesn't have to be sinister, being an irresponsible party animal is enough often)
Some mums also have a habit of asking the police to check out anyone they start dating and the police will often help.
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#10
I think you should just move on. This sort of thing is quite common actually so don't get too worked up over it. She's just probably looking for something else and there's no point you spending any more time on this matter.
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#11
What does the fact she has kids have to do with it?
You went on one date, kissed, and now she’s blocked you.
She either changed her mind or the date didn’t go as well as you think it did...
You went on one date, kissed, and now she’s blocked you.
She either changed her mind or the date didn’t go as well as you think it did...
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(Original post by GabiAbi84)
What does the fact she has kids have to do with it?
You went on one date, kissed, and now she’s blocked you.
She either changed her mind or the date didn’t go as well as you think it did...
What does the fact she has kids have to do with it?
You went on one date, kissed, and now she’s blocked you.
She either changed her mind or the date didn’t go as well as you think it did...
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#13
(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
Striderhort seems to believe it's because she may have been frightened for her children regarding me for some reason
Striderhort seems to believe it's because she may have been frightened for her children regarding me for some reason
no one on here is going to know.
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(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
But I did nothing wrong
But I did nothing wrong
Obviously she’s not interested in continuing-whether that’s to do with you or her is nothing anyone here knows.
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(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
I don't see why that would be the reason,. and you cannot just randomly phone Police to ask about someone
I don't see why that would be the reason,. and you cannot just randomly phone Police to ask about someone
No, you can't randomly ask, but parents and guardians CAN formally ask to be told about incidents of domestic/sexual violence, look up Sarah's Law ect, and again I totally know mums that have had bad experiences that make use of these services to try and avoid them again.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
Well do you think it was something else? I'm not trying to imply you were creeping on their kids or anything btw but parents absolutely do make these kinda choices at times and you don't know about their past experiences.
No, you can't randomly ask, but parents and guardians CAN formally ask to be told about incidents of domestic/sexual violence, look up Sarah's Law ect, and again I totally know mums that have had bad experiences that make use of these services to try and avoid them again.
Well do you think it was something else? I'm not trying to imply you were creeping on their kids or anything btw but parents absolutely do make these kinda choices at times and you don't know about their past experiences.
No, you can't randomly ask, but parents and guardians CAN formally ask to be told about incidents of domestic/sexual violence, look up Sarah's Law ect, and again I totally know mums that have had bad experiences that make use of these services to try and avoid them again.
But I don't understand why she would ghost then block.
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(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
I don't know. All I know is that I'm no threat and certainly no paedophile.
But I don't understand why she would ghost then block.
I don't know. All I know is that I'm no threat and certainly no paedophile.
But I don't understand why she would ghost then block.
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(Original post by GabiAbi84)
Because she doesn’t want to see you again.
Because she doesn’t want to see you again.
Why block and ghost?
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(Original post by Jakesmithyi)
I don't know. All I know is that I'm no threat and certainly no paedophile.
But I don't understand why she would ghost then block.
I don't know. All I know is that I'm no threat and certainly no paedophile.
But I don't understand why she would ghost then block.
You might be very accepting of her reasons, but in her experience others might not be. It's a bit rude not to explain if you've become a bit intimate, but that's her decision.
You don't need to have done anything wrong, she just doesn't want to continue with the relationship. You have not failed. You have succeeded, you met someone nice and had a good time. Mission accomplished.
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