Was I, among 150 of my peers, sexually assaulted at age 11?

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aaronsnortsket
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Let me set the backstory first. I go to a strict traditional grammar (selective) school and this happened throughout years 7 and 8 (grades 6 and 7). This happened 6 years ago now and I still attend the same school and only recently did it occur to me how ****ed this was.



In the winter our school would make us play rugby in the rain and snow and would actively encourage us to get very muddy and dirty. It was then compulsory for us to shower in our communal showers. Sounds pretty normal, right?



But when we would go back to the shower our pe department would enforce a strict naked policy in the shower. If any student got changed too quickly who they suspected hadn’t showered they would ask them to strip down and shower immediately. Similarly, students who went into the shower in their boxers were told off and made to strip down. The teachers would actively hang around the showers to ‘ensure we had showered’. They would have an unobstructed view of our whole naked prepubescent year group and would actively converse with us as we got changed.



This shower arrangement stopped when the head of the pe department at the time mysteriously left to Malaysia after this debacle. This coincided with another pedophilia instance at our school where a teacher (not in the PE department) was caught red handed with child pornography on his school laptop.



I would love to hear your thoughts and whether perhaps this is more normal than I think it is. Please and thank you.
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That isn’t normal at all. No adult should be making you strip down naked. Yes they should encourage showering but they choose to do that in their underwear they’re allowed to and no teacher should say otherwise. They shouldn’t be watching or interacting with you or anyone else as you change either. It’s just inappropriate and wrong.
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the teachers have to supervise the students. showers are dangerous places. you could easily slip over or have an allergic reaction to shower gel or something.
the teacher would be the one in trouble if something happened while they were down the corridor.
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Considering you've made a new account with one post, I'd say that this is a troll. In this case you've not been sexually assaulted but completely stupid
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I remember our school having to police showers to an extent and it seemed mostly down to teenage boys being gross and trying to dodge it or muck about. Pretty sure for several things like camps and stuff staff and students showered together and no one made a big deal over it.
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I am not going to call you a troll. That wouldn't be a fair conclusion to make.

However, there are some similarities in https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=6804048 how this post is written and this post.

IMO: Being forced to shower naked is very dodgy. At my school boys normally woar boxers in the shower. And we (girls) where not dirrectly supervised in the showers.
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(Original post by glassalice)
IMO: Being forced to shower naked is very dodgy. At my school boys normally woar boxers in the shower. And we (girls) where not dirrectly supervised in the showers.
At my school this 'wearing clothes in the shower' thing would have been seen as bizarre, both in schools and other changing areas.

Not saying either is right or wrong, possibly a change over time.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
At my school this 'wearing clothes in the shower' thing would have been seen as bizarre, both in schools and other changing areas.

Not saying either is right or wrong, possibly a change over time.
aaronsnortsket how long ago did this happen?
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We were made to get changed and shower in front of other kids and the teachers in swimming in year 6. I don't see the problem with what you are describing, sounds pretty normal to me.
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Despite the fact that I skipped most of my P.E lessons anyway, I would feel immensely uncomfortable showering in front of my peers, let alone adults (especially naked). This doesn't count as sexual assault but it doesn't sound right to me.
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Smh this is just society normalising sin. Starting with innocent children, and institutionalising sexually deviant cultures into society and schools to the point that people can't even see what's seriously wrong with it. Now I'm glad I didn't go to boarding and private schools and that I'm not in top uni societies and fraternities because otherwise I'd end up so screwed up I wouldn't even know how screwed up I was. Hazing and pedophilia and homoerotic deviancy. SMH.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
At my school this 'wearing clothes in the shower' thing would have been seen as bizarre, both in schools and other changing areas.

Not saying either is right or wrong, possibly a change over time.
Showers after football or other sport were naked when I was at school. There were some boys/young men who were very embarrassed and would be in the shower for as short a period as possible, some treated it in a matter of fact way, and some who verged on exhibitionists. I wonder if those who had injuries stopping them participating for a while or those who timed their music lessons to be at the same time were avoiding this as well. However, teachers were usually not about and just went to their staff room or somewhere, probably to do some lesson preparation.
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Showering is very important for hygiene, and if you stink at school you are more likely to be bullied, so I can understand a teacher insisting you shower. Showering in underwear I can understand as long as you have spare underwear to change in to. What I can't understand is a teacher actually watching you shower.

I wouldn't say you were sexually assault though, as you weren't.
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What I can't understand is a teacher actually watching you shower.
Well they might need a shower too? Just depends on your schools arrangements, we had a proper Victorian style sports annex and it was a miracle it had ladies changing and shower areas let alone separate student and staff ones.

Not to mention that teenage boys generally need keeping an eye on in school.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
Well they might need a shower too? Just depends on your schools arrangements, we had a proper Victorian style sports annex and it was a miracle it had ladies changing and shower areas let alone separate student and staff ones.

Not to mention that teenage boys generally need keeping an eye on in school.
Teachers never showered with the pupils at my school, even those who then took non-PE lessons. They waited until the pupils had left for their next lesson.
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