Boyfriend wants by butt to be bigger

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Hi, I showed my boyfriend my butt on video call as we were having a mutual *ahem* you know...

He then said 'pancake', referring to my butt.

A few days later he says on call that someones butt could do with some squats, referring to my butt again. After I ignored him, he said he was only joking but I know he didn't mean it. He's said previously before that he says 'I'm joking' to supposedly avoid pressuring me.

I'm happy as I am, I just don't know how to feel about this at all. Even though I don't care at the moment, I have a feeling it will take a toll on me in the future.

Is this body shaming? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi, I showed my boyfriend my butt on video call as we were having a mutual *ahem* you know...

He then said 'pancake', referring to my butt.

A few days later he says on call that someones butt could do with some squats, referring to my butt again. After I ignored him, he said he was only joking but I know he didn't mean it. He's said previously before that he says 'I'm joking' to supposedly avoid pressuring me.

I'm happy as I am, I just don't know how to feel about this at all. Even though I don't care at the moment, I have a feeling it will take a toll on me in the future.

Is this body shaming? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me?
How rude.
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He can take his insults and stick them where the sun don't shine.

And dressing up insults as jokes doesn't make them excusable.

Tell him that you have no interest in sharing time with someone that insults you.
Then draw a line in the sand. Allow him an average of 4 insults per year. Any more than that and he's out.
Nobody's perfect. And we can all say stupid things that we shouldn't from time to time. But making a habit of it is unacceptable.

There's no way on Earth that you should tolerate being insulted regularly by anyone. Regardless of how funny their insults are.

Set high standards. Set high standards for your own behaviour. And high standards in what you are willing to accept from other people.

I've been in situations where someone I've been with has had a running joke at my expense. Which is OK the first couple of times in one evening. My general rule has been:
1st time ignore it or laugh along with it
2nd time no reaction
3rd time tell them that that's enough, preferably in a polite but assertive way
4th time tell them that their behaviour is not acceptable, again in a polite and assertive way
5th time walk straight out. And do something more productive with my time than to spend it with an annoyingly insulting person.
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Babe, you can do better.
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Darlin’, get rid.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi, I showed my boyfriend my butt on video call as we were having a mutual *ahem* you know...

He then said 'pancake', referring to my butt.

A few days later he says on call that someones butt could do with some squats, referring to my butt again. After I ignored him, he said he was only joking but I know he didn't mean it.
Insult him back by commenting on the size of his **** and then say you were only joking
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Honestly.

I’m a knob.

When he said that I personally would’ve said ‘I may have a pancake butt but I’m happy with that, but are you happy with how poor of a job you and your small **** energy does?’
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Bless you. Get rid. Easier said than done.
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deary me he sounds lush !!!

talk to him about it and how u think it's not a nice comment to make
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get rid

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give him a taste of his own medicine and body shame a body part
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Honestly.

I’m a knob.

When he said that I personally would’ve said ‘I may have a pancake butt but I’m happy with that, but are you happy with how poor of a job you and your small **** energy does?’
What's the point of getting into toxic battles? It's better to just dump the guy and find someone better.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi, I showed my boyfriend my butt on video call as we were having a mutual *ahem* you know...

He then said 'pancake', referring to my butt.

A few days later he says on call that someones butt could do with some squats, referring to my butt again. After I ignored him, he said he was only joking but I know he didn't mean it. He's said previously before that he says 'I'm joking' to supposedly avoid pressuring me.

I'm happy as I am, I just don't know how to feel about this at all. Even though I don't care at the moment, I have a feeling it will take a toll on me in the future.

Is this body shaming? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me?
So hit the gym.

If you care for someone do stuff for them. Plus, it's a good hobby to pick up, healthy, productive.
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What's the point of getting into toxic battles? It's better to just dump the guy and find someone better.
Because sometimes, just sometimes, some people need knocking a peg or two because they don’t learn otherwise.

To be plain, what’s her just leaving him going to do? Not much to his ego, he would just move onto the next and be the same idiot. He maybe needs to know how it feels, and have him understand that what he’s saying is wrong or he’ll never learn.
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You better start hitting the gym then
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi, I showed my boyfriend my butt on video call as we were having a mutual *ahem* you know...

He then said 'pancake', referring to my butt.

A few days later he says on call that someones butt could do with some squats, referring to my butt again. After I ignored him, he said he was only joking but I know he didn't mean it. He's said previously before that he says 'I'm joking' to supposedly avoid pressuring me.

I'm happy as I am, I just don't know how to feel about this at all. Even though I don't care at the moment, I have a feeling it will take a toll on me in the future.

Is this body shaming? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me?
You should tell him to get his butt bigger!
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So hit the gym.

If you care for someone do stuff for them. Plus, it's a good hobby to pick up, healthy, productive.
next if he says her boobs are too small are you gonna tell her to get surgery for him? 🤡

you dont need to change anythin about yourself for him op.
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next if he says her boobs are too small are you gonna tell her to get surgery for him? 🤡

you dont need to change anythin about yourself for him op.
No, nice straw man. What else you got? Or just don't reply, someone who equates hitting the gym with surgery can't possible come up with anything worthwhile.

I never said need to. But in a relationship you can do things. Why not this.
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tell him you do not like testicles the size of grapes
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Tell him you want his **** to get bigger 👍


I'm a tits man for sure. I notice the last couple years big arses have been the new thing but I don't let porn cue the type of women I'm into 👍 like the woman could look like a dog but have a big fake arse and she's considered hot. Someone running porn sites or social media must have this weird fetish and is ascribing it to society. Ugh.
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Although my previous girlfriend had a small bum, I never really told her due to the respect of our relationship. So by him telling you that, he doesn’t respect you at all & he’s probably interested in different girls.
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Get a bigger butt..

Then use that big booty to push him out of a window, that way that shuts a cockhead up and you make it look like an accident

Boom how to get away with... erm 101 :rolleyes:

Seriously, just ignore him, he's probably too bored of dealing with his own insecurities or is too bored in general, If it bothers you so much just leave him.
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