I got my friend into alot of trouble. What do i do now

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I got my friend into a lot of trouble, most of it is my fault but I didn't force her to do anything.
She's never been in trouble before and responded by putting the blame solely on me. Wich as much as I understand, is really making life worse for me in terms of what other people think of me. eg. teachers, parents and other friends
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we are going to need some context.

you say you got your friend in trouble, so did she actually do anything deliberately or did you trick her?

what sort of trouble?

you’re making it sound like you’ve dragged your friend into something and therefore it would be your fault? we need some context
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we are going to need some context.

you say you got your friend in trouble, so did she actually do anything deliberately or did you trick her?

what sort of trouble?

you’re making it sound like you’ve dragged your friend into something and therefore it would be your fault? we need some context
i brought vodka into school and let her join in drinking. She is claiming i peer pressured her into it. When she knows she was the first one to drink that evening.
The others involved are all telling the truth and saying its not all my fault, they did choose to drink, no one forced them. She isn't and now I'm suspended for bullying as well as drinking
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i brought vodka into school and let her join in drinking. She is claiming i peer pressured her into it. When she knows she was the first one to drink that evening.
The others involved are all telling the truth and saying its not all my fault, they did choose to drink, no one forced them. She isn't and now I'm suspended for bullying as well as drinking
did you peer pressure her or did she drink off her own back?

you’re going to be in the most trouble as you supplied the alcohol in school, so therefore you are bound to receive the harshest punishment.
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did you peer pressure her or did she drink off her own back?

you’re going to be in the most trouble as you supplied the alcohol in school, so therefore you are bound to receive the harshest punishment.
i understand getting the worst punishment. but she 100% drank on her own accord as i said, "are you sure we should?" and she replied "**** it" and drank
I'm just unsure whether to tell the school this as bullying will now be on my school record. or just to leave it and not create any more drama
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i understand getting the worst punishment. but she 100% drank on her own accord as i said, "are you sure we should?" and she replied "**** it" and drank
I'm just unsure whether to tell the school this as bullying will now be on my school record. or just to leave it and not create any more drama
if you and your friends know that she drank first with no pressure, then it wouldn’t hurt to bring it up. just say you accept that you were wrong to supply alcohol, but feel as though “bullying” is an unfair claim seeing as she was not peer pressured.
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if you and your friends know that she drank first with no pressure, then it wouldn’t hurt to bring it up. just say you accept that you were wrong to supply alcohol, but feel as though “bullying” is an unfair claim seeing as she was not peer pressured.
so i shoule bring it up when i go back to school or is it too late and will be seen as making excuses?
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so i shoule bring it up when i go back to school or is it too late and will be seen as making excuses?
up to you, can’t hurt to try. it would be beneficial to have “eye witnesses” so if you get your friends to make a statement saying that she was not peer pressured.
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How did you 'get' your friend in trouble?

It seems like it was their own conscious choice to indulge, your played part was bringing the alcohol to school. You can't be at fault for bullying here, and I wouldn't accept it. She's just trying to dodge as much heat as possible, whereas others have owned it. She seems like a *****y friend.
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Don't schools provide evidence for this sort of thing before making a claim? Or is it guilty till proven innocent?
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I got my friend into a lot of trouble, most of it is my fault but I didn't force her to do anything.
She's never been in trouble before and responded by putting the blame solely on me. Wich as much as I understand, is really making life worse for me in terms of what other people think of me. eg. teachers, parents and other friends
shame on you.

not necessarily for bringing it to school, but for getting caught!

How were you caught?

I smoked a few cigarettes at school in my time, a friend of mine used to a carry a knife to school everyday too. No one got caught.
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shame on you.

not necessarily for bringing it to school, but for getting caught!

How were you caught?

I smoked a few cigarettes at school in my time, a friend of mine used to a carry a knife to school everyday too. No one got caught.
someone told on us as we wouldnt let them join in cos we thought if they did then they would snitch. oops
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How did you 'get' your friend in trouble?

It seems like it was their own conscious choice to indulge, your played part was bringing the alcohol to school. You can't be at fault for bullying here, and I wouldn't accept it. She's just trying to dodge as much heat as possible, whereas others have owned it. She seems like a *****y friend.
a ik but shes pretty much never been in trouble before this
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Don't schools provide evidence for this sort of thing before making a claim? Or is it guilty till proven innocent?
they knew the whole story from the girl telling before we even got there and we couldn't lie as too many people were involved and each story would be different as they kept us separate before talking to us and questioning us
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Clear your own name if you aren't at fault
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up to you, can’t hurt to try. it would be beneficial to have “eye witnesses” so if you get your friends to make a statement saying that she was not peer pressure
that seems fair, thank you
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Clear your own name if you aren't at fault
but i kinda definitley am for bringing in vodka to school
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Using peer pressure as a defence is lame. You were both at fault and nobody forced the alcohol down her throat.
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but i kinda definitley am for bringing in vodka to school
Ah then you are a bit stupid. Why would you take it to school?
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Ah then you are a bit stupid. Why would you take it to school?
aha thanks. We all do. Honestly its a bit ridiculous but everyone drinks and smokes on a Saturday evening. its this whole party thing as we cant go home or go to party outside of school
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