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Its because I've recently gotten out of a toxic relationship. My ex used to always compare my body, and tell me that he'd rather I have thick thighs bigger boobs and etc.. So I started comparing myself a lot. I just cant help it. I used to be very confident of my looks, but now whenever I see anyone I just compare myself to them, and I don't even realize it. What do I do? I feel like I need someones opinion.
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Are you healthy, reasonably happy with your appearance or wanting to change your body shape?
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Are you healthy, reasonably happy with your appearance or wanting to change your body shape?
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
Are you healthy, reasonably happy with your appearance or wanting to change your body shape?
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
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Your ex boyfriend should not have brought you down. A partner should love you for who you are and only bring you up. What he said should not encourage you to compare yourself!
As long as you are healthy and happy then that is what matters x
I edited this because I did not read that he was your ex but I'm glad he is your ex and not your current partner!!
As long as you are healthy and happy then that is what matters x
I edited this because I did not read that he was your ex but I'm glad he is your ex and not your current partner!!
Last edited by ellasimmons24; 1 month ago
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Your ex is in the past and I'm sure it's difficult to move forward after comments like that, but try to just focus on yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to love yourself more; avoid social media if that has also played a part in your growing insecurities.
Like others have said, if you feel content then that's all that matters. I'm sure you're just fine
Like others have said, if you feel content then that's all that matters. I'm sure you're just fine
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this makes me so sad 
its a good thing that you left your ex and his toxic views. Focus on yourself and work on your inner self as that is the true beauty. Everytime you think something negative say 3 different positives about yourself and learn to love your insecurities. If you ever need someone to talk to pm me 
its a good thing that you left your ex and his toxic views. Focus on yourself and work on your inner self as that is the true beauty. Everytime you think something negative say 3 different positives about yourself and learn to love your insecurities. If you ever need someone to talk to pm me 
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Are you healthy, reasonably happy with your appearance or wanting to change your body shape?
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
Are you healthy, reasonably happy with your appearance or wanting to change your body shape?
Your ex's opinion is irrelevant, it is what you want that matters.
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(Original post by ellasimmons24)
Your ex boyfriend should not have brought you down. A partner should love you for who you are and only bring you up. What he said should not encourage you to compare yourself!
As long as you are healthy and happy then that is what matters x
I edited this because I did not read that he was your ex but I'm glad he is your ex and not your current partner!!
Your ex boyfriend should not have brought you down. A partner should love you for who you are and only bring you up. What he said should not encourage you to compare yourself!
As long as you are healthy and happy then that is what matters x
I edited this because I did not read that he was your ex but I'm glad he is your ex and not your current partner!!
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(Original post by TJ1997)
Your ex is in the past and I'm sure it's difficult to move forward after comments like that, but try to just focus on yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to love yourself more; avoid social media if that has also played a part in your growing insecurities.
Like others have said, if you feel content then that's all that matters. I'm sure you're just fine
Your ex is in the past and I'm sure it's difficult to move forward after comments like that, but try to just focus on yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to love yourself more; avoid social media if that has also played a part in your growing insecurities.
Like others have said, if you feel content then that's all that matters. I'm sure you're just fine
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(Original post by ruru06)
this makes me so sad its a good thing that you left your ex and his toxic views. Focus on yourself and work on your inner self as that is the true beauty. Everytime you think something negative say 3 different positives about yourself and learn to love your insecurities. If you ever need someone to talk to pm me
this makes me so sad
its a good thing that you left your ex and his toxic views. Focus on yourself and work on your inner self as that is the true beauty. Everytime you think something negative say 3 different positives about yourself and learn to love your insecurities. If you ever need someone to talk to pm me
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Yeh im working on myself <3 and I'm so glad I left him too, our rs was ver toxic. Alright noted, I'll try doing that next time i feel bad ab myself!
Yeh im working on myself <3 and I'm so glad I left him too, our rs was ver toxic. Alright noted, I'll try doing that next time i feel bad ab myself!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Yeh I know, the whole rs was doomed from the beginning. Thank you! I'm trying not to compare myself. I hate comparing myself....I'm hoping by time I start loving my body..
Yeh I know, the whole rs was doomed from the beginning. Thank you! I'm trying not to compare myself. I hate comparing myself....I'm hoping by time I start loving my body..
It's great that you are trying! Keep going x
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know if I'm healthy or happy with how I look right now. Which is why I have this need to just ask someone if how I look is good. If I could post some pics here I would.
I don't know if I'm healthy or happy with how I look right now. Which is why I have this need to just ask someone if how I look is good. If I could post some pics here I would.
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It sounds like your ex was trying to make you feel insecure so that he could control you. Work on building up your self-esteem again and don’t allow that toxic bleep to live inside your head from now on. You’re perfect the way you are.
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(Original post by anonymous)
its because i've recently gotten out of a toxic relationship. My ex used to always compare my body, and tell me that he'd rather i have thick thighs bigger boobs and etc.. So i started comparing myself a lot. I just cant help it. I used to be very confident of my looks, but now whenever i see anyone i just compare myself to them, and i don't even realize it. What do i do? I feel like i need someones opinion.
its because i've recently gotten out of a toxic relationship. My ex used to always compare my body, and tell me that he'd rather i have thick thighs bigger boobs and etc.. So i started comparing myself a lot. I just cant help it. I used to be very confident of my looks, but now whenever i see anyone i just compare myself to them, and i don't even realize it. What do i do? I feel like i need someones opinion.
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You’re probably very beautiful but even if you’re ugly you got to remember that every human being will die eventually, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do exercise or eat healthy, but it does mean that you shouldn’t be so worried and compare yourself to other mortal beings.
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Y does any person ever tolerate negging of their body parts by anyone with whom they r in a supposed "rel"?!
It is so incredibly immature and insecure. I don't engage in a rel with any person who makes such targeted and hurtful comments. We all have things we like and don't like and that's life and we don't need this undermining toxicity injected into daily life by s'one who is supposed to be loving and supporting.
I am gonna be blunt... if dude says ur boobs r too X (doesn't matter, small, big, dark watever) I'm like yeah dude so how dumb does that make u, that u can see that's how I am but u claim to want a rel.... with someone who isn't suitable for u like mee.....ok so go find the one who is... byeeee.... [block, ghost, delete].... and no, don't come back and plead u didn't mean it, wasn't so serious etc. I am not ur learning ground for how to deal with ppl and I won't help u overcome at least a decade of underdevelopment in ur emotions and respect when u have no empathy.....
Yeah I must be grumpy this morning... this rlly is why I can't do guys under 30, at the least....
It is so incredibly immature and insecure. I don't engage in a rel with any person who makes such targeted and hurtful comments. We all have things we like and don't like and that's life and we don't need this undermining toxicity injected into daily life by s'one who is supposed to be loving and supporting.
I am gonna be blunt... if dude says ur boobs r too X (doesn't matter, small, big, dark watever) I'm like yeah dude so how dumb does that make u, that u can see that's how I am but u claim to want a rel.... with someone who isn't suitable for u like mee.....ok so go find the one who is... byeeee.... [block, ghost, delete].... and no, don't come back and plead u didn't mean it, wasn't so serious etc. I am not ur learning ground for how to deal with ppl and I won't help u overcome at least a decade of underdevelopment in ur emotions and respect when u have no empathy.....
Yeah I must be grumpy this morning... this rlly is why I can't do guys under 30, at the least....
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(Original post by candydiva)
Y does any person ever tolerate negging of their body parts by anyone with whom they r in a supposed "rel"?!
It is so incredibly immature and insecure. I don't engage in a rel with any person who makes such targeted and hurtful comments. We all have things we like and don't like and that's life and we don't need this undermining toxicity injected into daily life by s'one who is supposed to be loving and supporting.
I am gonna be blunt... if dude says ur boobs r too X (doesn't matter, small, big, dark watever) I'm like yeah dude so how dumb does that make u, that u can see that's how I am but u claim to want a rel.... with someone who isn't suitable for u like mee.....ok so go find the one who is... byeeee.... [block, ghost, delete].... and no, don't come back and plead u didn't mean it, wasn't so serious etc. I am not ur learning ground for how to deal with ppl and I won't help u overcome at least a decade of underdevelopment in ur emotions and respect when u have no empathy.....
Yeah I must be grumpy this morning... this rlly is why I can't do guys under 30, at the least....
Y does any person ever tolerate negging of their body parts by anyone with whom they r in a supposed "rel"?!
It is so incredibly immature and insecure. I don't engage in a rel with any person who makes such targeted and hurtful comments. We all have things we like and don't like and that's life and we don't need this undermining toxicity injected into daily life by s'one who is supposed to be loving and supporting.
I am gonna be blunt... if dude says ur boobs r too X (doesn't matter, small, big, dark watever) I'm like yeah dude so how dumb does that make u, that u can see that's how I am but u claim to want a rel.... with someone who isn't suitable for u like mee.....ok so go find the one who is... byeeee.... [block, ghost, delete].... and no, don't come back and plead u didn't mean it, wasn't so serious etc. I am not ur learning ground for how to deal with ppl and I won't help u overcome at least a decade of underdevelopment in ur emotions and respect when u have no empathy.....
Yeah I must be grumpy this morning... this rlly is why I can't do guys under 30, at the least....
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(Original post by Mustafa0605)
You’re probably very beautiful but even if you’re ugly you got to remember that every human being will die eventually, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do exercise or eat healthy, but it does mean that you shouldn’t be so worried and compare yourself to other mortal beings.
You’re probably very beautiful but even if you’re ugly you got to remember that every human being will die eventually, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do exercise or eat healthy, but it does mean that you shouldn’t be so worried and compare yourself to other mortal beings.
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