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This post may sounds very stupid to some people but lets see where it goes.

I've started uni in september and I'm already 2 months in (exams are in January). I live very far away from home (6 hour drive).

At the beginning I didn't really have any problems whatsoever, I didn't miss home as much in fact it was the total opposite. I was really happy that I could be independent and work for my ambitions and meet my flatmates etc. Eventually I found out that I don't really feel connected to my flatmates, I mean we go out and chill as a flat (hard with the COVID situation). In my entire life I only had my college group friends that I've felt connected to because we've done things outside of college and one of them became my best friend (we share a lot of things) - so you get the point I feel a bit lonely.

When I was depressed around mid November that I didn't even revise the notes I created, my flatmate noticed something was off and asked me what was wrong and I told him about how I was behind with revision etc. we had a talk and eventually I felt better and I've started to learn more and effectively.

The problem is, I feel like something is missing... I don't know why but I really miss home (can't go home because I need to revise for my exams and that means I'll be missing out on christmas this year). For some reason I've had these times were I had flashbacks about the times I enjoyed and really wish I could go back to the past and live those moments again and that I wish I never had such a stressful life with uni.

My question is, has anyone else experienced something similar? right now I just feel like I want to cry because I don't even have friends that are like me (or my best friend), I really wish I could go back and re-live college again because I enjoyed every moment of it. Do you think I'm over exaggerating? Do you think I would eventually get over it at some point? I'm not going to lie, I do have a lot to do like exams, apply for EU settlement, find a place to rent for 2nd year etc.

Thanks in advance
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Yesss haha....Im in first year too and also have the exact same stuff to do(have to literally catch up on ALL my work this term before Jan exams cuz I just havent been able to work lool😂, apply for EU settlement, somehow quickly get on with asking flatmates to live w me next year(gonna be a tad awkward at this point ngl😬😂), and apply to a load of SW/internship stuff as well.....

Cant you go back home and study there though? I also live outside the UK but I'm doing that.....
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(Original post by Anonymous)
This post may sounds very stupid to some people but lets see where it goes.

I've started uni in september and I'm already 2 months in (exams are in January). I live very far away from home (6 hour drive).

At the beginning I didn't really have any problems whatsoever, I didn't miss home as much in fact it was the total opposite. I was really happy that I could be independent and work for my ambitions and meet my flatmates etc. Eventually I found out that I don't really feel connected to my flatmates, I mean we go out and chill as a flat (hard with the COVID situation). In my entire life I only had my college group friends that I've felt connected to because we've done things outside of college and one of them became my best friend (we share a lot of things) - so you get the point I feel a bit lonely.

When I was depressed around mid November that I didn't even revise the notes I created, my flatmate noticed something was off and asked me what was wrong and I told him about how I was behind with revision etc. we had a talk and eventually I felt better and I've started to learn more and effectively.

The problem is, I feel like something is missing... I don't know why but I really miss home (can't go home because I need to revise for my exams and that means I'll be missing out on christmas this year). For some reason I've had these times were I had flashbacks about the times I enjoyed and really wish I could go back to the past and live those moments again and that I wish I never had such a stressful life with uni.

My question is, has anyone else experienced something similar? right now I just feel like I want to cry because I don't even have friends that are like me (or my best friend), I really wish I could go back and re-live college again because I enjoyed every moment of it. Do you think I'm over exaggerating? Do you think I would eventually get over it at some point? I'm not going to lie, I do have a lot to do like exams, apply for EU settlement, find a place to rent for 2nd year etc.

Thanks in advance
I feel you lmao, I’m so far behind too and struggling. I’m at home but like I wish i wish in Birmingham on campus because it would be easier. Idk I feel like you will get over it but at the same time you need to go home and have that feeling of normality back I suppose.
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Yesss haha....Im in first year too and also have the exact same stuff to do(have to literally catch up on ALL my work this term before Jan exams cuz I just havent been able to work lool😂, apply for EU settlement, somehow quickly get on with asking flatmates to live w me next year(gonna be a tad awkward at this point ngl😬😂), and apply to a load of SW/internship stuff as well.....

Cant you go back home and study there though? I also live outside the UK but I'm doing that.....
I can't go back home
It would take me £500 just to go back home (a taxi driver my family relies on)
I would use public transport however my mom is worried with the COVID situation
even if I was home, I wouldn't be able to revise because my sister runs 2 corner shops and it's too stressful just to think about it.
I sometimes wish my best friend went to the same uni as me, I feel like it would make a change (I do stay in contact with him and still talk to him quite often, he's a good friend to talk about problems)
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I feel you lmao, I’m so far behind too and struggling. I’m at home but like I wish i wish in Birmingham on campus because it would be easier. Idk I feel like you will get over it but at the same time you need to go home and have that feeling of normality back I suppose.
How far is it? because I feel like the distance makes it even worse for me
and did you feel any different once you got home?
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How far is it? because I feel like the distance makes it even worse for me
and did you feel any different once you got home?
I never went to campus so I wouldn’t know how it feels. The uni is far like 2hours but I feel like I’d do more work at uni than at home
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