I'm currently in my first term at university. At the time of writing I can hear a party going on next door I wasn't invited to. It's a big party. I have tried to be friendly with my flat mates and course mates but I can't seem to make a connection and I find I spend most of my nights at university alone. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. The majority of my college (Oxford) are private school and I'm through and through state educated. I don't feel like it's fair to solely attribute it to that though. I have long term friends at home and a girlfriend who goes to a separate university. But no one here. How do I sort this? It feels embarrassing to even write let alone talk to someone about. Simply putting myself out there just doesn't seem to work.