At what age did your strict parents let your boyfriend stay the night/in your room(

Watch
Anonymous #1
#1
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#1
I mean I’m 18 now. They are still really strict and my friends think that’s weird. They let me have a boyfriend but to socialise on dates and in open areas of the house. They know I’m contraception which is a bit weird. It’s embarrassing.
0
reply
Anonymous #2
#2
Report 1 month ago
#2
My parents never let my boyfriend even come in to my room, let alone stay the night! Also, I’m 23 when I was 18, my bfs parents took us abroad (without my parents) and his fam also paid for the entire trip. Despite all of their gratitude, my parents forced his parents to book 2 separate rooms for us!! Some parents are just like that... they live in a fantasy thinking we are their babies forever.
0
reply
Anonymous #3
#3
Report 1 month ago
#3
Never luv❤️
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#4
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#4
(Original post by Anonymous)
My parents never let my boyfriend even come in to my room, let alone stay the night! Also, I’m 23 when I was 18, my bfs parents took us abroad (without my parents) and his fam also paid for the entire trip. Despite all of their gratitude, my parents forced his parents to book 2 separate rooms for us!! Some parents are just like that... they live in a fantasy thinking we are their babies forever.
I can understand that they don’t WANT US to have sex. I get it. However, we have done it. Unfortunately in not very nice settings. I’m so embarrassed by the fact that they don’t let us have a normal relationship, especially being 18. He is 20. His mum is more relaxed about it but the thing is because his mum knows my parents views she makes us sleep separately at his. I just find it all strange. All my friends are loved up and I’m still being treated like I’m 12. I just feel like I’m not going to get anywhere in the relationship. He’s even said it isn’t working out at the moment because of little things like this.
0
reply
Anonymous #4
#5
Report 1 month ago
#5
(Original post by Anonymous)
My parents never let my boyfriend even come in to my room, let alone stay the night! Also, I’m 23 when I was 18, my bfs parents took us abroad (without my parents) and his fam also paid for the entire trip. Despite all of their gratitude, my parents forced his parents to book 2 separate rooms for us!! Some parents are just like that... they live in a fantasy thinking we are their babies forever.
Wait did u guys actually sleep in separate rooms tho??
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#6
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#6
(Original post by Anonymous)
Wait did u guys actually sleep in separate rooms tho??
A couple of times at his recently, but never at mine. And I don’t think it’ll ever happen at mine because they’d find it “weird”
0
reply
vix.xvi
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#7
Report 1 month ago
#7
talk to ur parents abt how u feel
0
reply
londonmyst
Badges: 18
Rep:
?
#8
Report 1 month ago
#8
Never.
When I was living with parents, I had enough common sense to keep my private life private and never let them know if I had a bf.
0
reply
Anonymous #2
#9
Report 1 month ago
#9
(Original post by Anonymous)
Wait did u guys actually sleep in separate rooms tho??
Yeah, because his parents felt obliged to respect their views
0
reply
abi_nicholls
Badges: 7
Rep:
?
#10
Report 1 month ago
#10
(Original post by Anonymous)
I mean I’m 18 now. They are still really strict and my friends think that’s weird. They let me have a boyfriend but to socialise on dates and in open areas of the house. They know I’m contraception which is a bit weird. It’s embarrassing.
I was 18, at first he had to stay in a separate room. This only happened a couple of times before they decided he could stay in my room, I think they were less strict because I only had a single bed at the time so he had to stay on the floor.
0
reply
Anonymous #2
#11
Report 1 month ago
#11
(Original post by Anonymous)
I can understand that they don’t WANT US to have sex. I get it. However, we have done it. Unfortunately in not very nice settings. I’m so embarrassed by the fact that they don’t let us have a normal relationship, especially being 18. He is 20. His mum is more relaxed about it but the thing is because his mum knows my parents views she makes us sleep separately at his. I just find it all strange. All my friends are loved up and I’m still being treated like I’m 12. I just feel like I’m not going to get anywhere in the relationship. He’s even said it isn’t working out at the moment because of little things like this.
I’m sorry to hear that I know what you mean, I always had a great feeling of shame whenever I did anything sexual (still sometimes do now) because of how my parents have raised me. I can’t even kiss my boyfriend infront of any kind of parents. I hope that one day they’ll understand how fked up their parenting was. I had to lose my virginity in a forest for Christ sake! I would have preferred a comfy bed by all means. I still can’t talk to them about anything like that, and it’s all their fault. In the end, you just have to do what you can, this is your life now, they are no longer responsible for you in that way. I know that conversation cannot be discussed with all parents (such as mine), so just don’t! I was lucky cause I went straight to university, and never really came back to my parents house apart from Xmas / bdays and al that. So you just have to plan ahead, especially if you think they are never going to change their mind.
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Back
to top
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Have you experienced financial difficulties as a student due to Covid-19?

Yes, I have really struggled financially (20)
13.42%
I have experienced some financial difficulties (41)
27.52%
I haven't experienced any financial difficulties and things have stayed the same (61)
40.94%
I have had better financial opportunities as a result of the pandemic (23)
15.44%
I've had another experience (let us know in the thread!) (4)
2.68%

Watched Threads

View All
Latest
My Feed