Kinda cheated on m boyfriend - will he forgive me?

break up. you’re a cheater and a terrible person.

Hi there.
You say you do not want to break up with your boyfriend.
But you do not feel satisfied with him sexually.
Are you sure he could be able to improve?
If yes then help him improve then.
But you should tell him that you cheated on him because of that. Because that would be unfair and mean if you decided to hide it from. I am sure if your boyfriend cheated on you, you would want to know it.
So tell him the truth so that he can decide whether to continue to be with you or not.

So a back story hopefully I’m not too TMI...im 20 and lost my virginity last year to a guy i was talking to. To be honest I knew we wouldn’t last but there was sexual chemistry there so I did it, pretty soon after we ended it. It was my first time, but he was more experienced and knew what he was doing, it felt good.

Fast forward a couple months and I got into my first relationship. My bf was a virgin and so I’m the first person that hes slept with. I loved him and we weren’t sexual for a few months, but once we were I noticed that the spark just wasn’t there and I’m never physically satisfied. Our intimate life is so boring.

I did love him and didn’t want to end it on that basis, but one night i was so desperate that I ended up sleeping with the first guy..(we live in the same apartment block for uni)

Now i dont know what to do, I instantly regretted it. But if I tell my boyfriend, he’ll dump me for sure and I’ll also be known as the cheat at uni. My own friends will abandon me. The night with this guy meant nothing I obviously was just sexually frustrated and needed to relieve it.

What can I do?

So a back story hopefully I’m not too TMI...im 20 and lost my virginity last year to a guy i was talking to. To be honest I knew we wouldn’t last but there was sexual chemistry there so I did it, pretty soon after we ended it. It was my first time, but he was more experienced and knew what he was doing, it felt good.

Fast forward a couple months and I got into my first relationship. My bf was a virgin and so I’m the first person that hes slept with. I loved him and we weren’t sexual for a few months, but once we were I noticed that the spark just wasn’t there and I’m never physically satisfied. Our intimate life is so boring.

I did love him and didn’t want to end it on that basis, but one night i was so desperate that I ended up sleeping with the first guy..(we live in the same apartment block for uni)

Now i dont know what to do, I instantly regretted it. But if I tell my boyfriend, he’ll dump me for sure and I’ll also be known as the cheat at uni. My own friends will abandon me. The night with this guy meant nothing I obviously was just sexually frustrated and needed to relieve it.

What can I do?

“Kinda cheated”? Girl, you didn’t just kiss another guy, you had sex with him. That’s not kinda cheated, that’s straight up cheated.

The two of you sound incompatible.
I doubt the relationship will survive the pandemic or be happy.

But I don't think that you cheated.
Nor even "kinda cheated" unless there was financial cheating involved or you lied/were directly dishonest.
I don't expect commitment or sexual exclusivity from a guy until he has put a wedding ring on my finger, made those promises in wedding vows and signed an official marriage certificate.

Not really it didnt mean anything :/

Not really it didnt mean anything :/

even if it didn’t mean anything to you, you literally slept another guy behind your boyfriends back. i’m 99% sure that counts as cheating.

even if it didn’t mean anything to you, you literally slept another guy behind your boyfriends back. i’m 99% sure that counts as cheating.

Yes but either way, i cant tell him or he’ll dump me

you owe it to him to tell him what happened. how he will take it, i don’t know but he deserves to know if his girlfriend cheated on him with another guy.

NO i cant lose him!!!

NO i cant lose him!!!