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so one of my friends is black and she sometimes makes jokes about me being white like “oh that’s white people food” or “shut up white chocolate” and we just laugh it off. i do not make the same jokes back as it could be seen as racist and i do not want to be racist in any way!

yesterday i was speaking about my grades and she randomly interrupted me and said “nobody cares you white ...” (she swore but i won’t type it here haha)

my other friend asked why she had to bring race into it, and she basically went on a rant saying that she hates white people for being racist.

i have never once been racist and neither has my other friend. we asked her if she hates us and she just said “well yeah, you’re white”

we laughed it off and everything is ok now. im just wondering if i said something wrong to make her say this? i find what she said quite hurtful seeing as we have never been racist? am i wrong and selfish to feel this way?

i really don’t want to offend or upset anyone so if someone has any advice or anything i would really appreciate it!
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No, sounds like she's just been spending too much time on Twitter, if she keeps being a cretin though, you may need to get rid.
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(Original post by baby.bear)
so one of my friends is black and she sometimes makes jokes about me being white like “oh that’s white people food” or “shut up white chocolate” and we just laugh it off. i do not make the same jokes back as it could be seen as racist and i do not want to be racist in any way!

yesterday i was speaking about my grades and she randomly interrupted me and said “nobody cares you white ...” (she swore but i won’t type it here haha)

my other friend asked why she had to bring race into it, and she basically went on a rant saying that she hates white people for being racist.

i have never once been racist and neither has my other friend. we asked her if she hates us and she just said “well yeah, you’re white”

we laughed it off and everything is ok now. im just wondering if i said something wrong to make her say this? i find what she said quite hurtful seeing as we have never been racist? am i wrong and selfish to feel this way?

i really don’t want to offend or upset anyone so if someone has any advice or anything i would really appreciate it!
shes rude. Ditch her and move on.
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She admits to hating you because you're white. Why are you guys friends again?
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She’s not a good friend - she has literally admitted to hating you simply because of your race, which is something you have no choice in.

I would distance myself.
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No, sounds like she's just been spending too much time on Twitter, if she keeps being a cretin though, you may need to get rid.
im not too sure what’s on Twitter haha but I’m assuming you mean all the jokes against white people that started on there??
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you've done anything wrong! it's just rude tbh
maybe tell them you don't like it - they might just think you find it funny ..? who knows idk why tho
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How old is she? :confused:
She sounds unpleasant.
But might be an immature attention seeker with an outrageous sense of humour.
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(Original post by Sabertooth)
She admits to hating you because you're white. Why are you guys friends again?
(Original post by Mesopotamian.)
She’s not a good friend - she has literally admitted to hating you simply because of your race, which is something you don’t choose.

I would distance myself.
yeah this is what I’m thinking! ive never done or said anything to make her hate me and she says it’s simply because of my race. it’s just an awkward situation to be in i guess
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im not too sure what’s on Twitter haha but I’m assuming you mean all the jokes against white people that started on there??
Yes, essentially and critical race theory.
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Hating someone on the basis of their race. There is a word for that...
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you've done anything wrong! it's just rude tbh
maybe tell them you don't like it - they might just think you find it funny ..? who knows idk why tho
we mentioned that we don’t see why she would hate us because of our skin colour but she just told us she isn’t racist because she’s black and we are white so idek ahah
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How old is she? :confused:
She sounds unpleasant.
But might be an immature attention seeker with an outrageous sense of humour.
she’s 18. she’s always been quite loud and obnoxious but never said anything like this before
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Yes, essentially and critical race theory.
ah okay!!
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we mentioned that we don’t see why she would hate us because of our skin colour but she just told us she isn’t racist because she’s black and we are white so idek ahah
she doesn't like you bc of your skin colour but she says she isn't racist wtf
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she doesn't like you bc of your skin colour but she says she isn't racist wtf
yeah this is where I’m confused!

i don’t want to say something wrong but i thought racism was discrimination due to someone’s race. so her hating me for being white is racist? but she claims she can’t be because “you can’t oppress the oppressor” so idk
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we mentioned that we don’t see why she would hate us because of our skin colour but she just told us she isn’t racist because she’s black and we are white so idek ahah
Complete rubbish, I hate this mindset.
How about people stop discriminating others for features they cannot control, and start judging people on things which are in their control for example personality and behaviour.
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yeah this is where I’m confused!

i don’t want to say something wrong but i thought racism was discrimination due to someone’s race. so her hating me for being white is racist? but she claims she can’t be because “you can’t oppress the oppressor” so idk
omg pls ditch her
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Complete rubbish, I hate this mindset.
How about people stop discriminating others for features they cannot control, and start judging people on things which are in their control for example personality and behaviour.
i agree! she told me that she “can’t oppress the oppressor” but i thought racism was just discrimination because of someone’s race? i could be wrong so i should probably research more!
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yeah this is where I’m confused!

i don’t want to say something wrong but i thought racism was discrimination due to someone’s race. so her hating me for being white is racist? but she claims she can’t be because “you can’t oppress the oppressor” so idk
There is individual racism and systematic. White people do not face systematic but what your friend is saying is by definition, racist. Making it individual.
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