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it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
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(Original post by Anonymous)
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
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Love isn't a feeling. Love is a choice. Attraction. Those butterflies. Try to imagine two 80 year old folks feeling that after being married for 60 years.
You love someone because you choose to put their welfare first.
You love someone because you choose to put their welfare first.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
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(Original post by Anonymous)
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
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(Original post by ThatOldGuy)
Love isn't a feeling. Love is a choice. Attraction. Those butterflies. Try to imagine two 80 year old folks feeling that after being married for 60 years.
You love someone because you choose to put their welfare first.
Love isn't a feeling. Love is a choice. Attraction. Those butterflies. Try to imagine two 80 year old folks feeling that after being married for 60 years.
You love someone because you choose to put their welfare first.
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(Original post by Ghostlady)
People can fall out of love with someone they spent so long with because they forget how to talk to each other sometimes. Maybe the intimacy falls by the wayside and people feel they cant speak to their partner about it. Perhaps the partner has had a trauma of somekind in their life and become all closed up, or angry.
People can fall out of love with someone they spent so long with because they forget how to talk to each other sometimes. Maybe the intimacy falls by the wayside and people feel they cant speak to their partner about it. Perhaps the partner has had a trauma of somekind in their life and become all closed up, or angry.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
i hope this never happens
i hope this never happens
Enjoy things for what they are right now. If you spend too much time worrying, you will work your way up into a load of 'what if's' which isnt good for a relationship. He loves you, you love him, thats all that matters
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(Original post by Ghostlady)
A lot of couples dont
Enjoy things for what they are right now. If you spend too much time worrying, you will work your way up into a load of 'what if's' which isnt good for a relationship. He loves you, you love him, thats all that matters
A lot of couples dont
Enjoy things for what they are right now. If you spend too much time worrying, you will work your way up into a load of 'what if's' which isnt good for a relationship. He loves you, you love him, thats all that matters
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No point worrying until it happens
Things can happen in life - unemployment, kids, new jobs, bereavements etc and people can change. If you're happy now, enjoy that and work to keep it, that's all you can do.
Things can happen in life - unemployment, kids, new jobs, bereavements etc and people can change. If you're happy now, enjoy that and work to keep it, that's all you can do.
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It scares me how easily people fall in love. Or indeed believe that love is a thing.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
sorry what do you mean a lot of couples don’t? they don’t what?
sorry what do you mean a lot of couples don’t? they don’t what?
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How long the average relationship lasts for the age group of 16- to 18-years-old is close to the figure Fogarty cited for 15- and 16-year-olds. According to the National Institutes of Health, teenagers 16 years old to 18 years old have relationships that last 1.8 years.
https://dating.lovetoknow.com/relati...p-lasts-by-age
That's a 1.8 year average. It will be a bell shaped distribution curve with a long tail to the right because a small proportion of relationships started at the age of 17 last till death do them part.
It's fine that you have the ambition to stay with him forever.
Personally I think that having the ambition that you will have an as content and fulfilling life as you can is an ambition that should have top priority in your life. If achieving this ambition means that you stay with one partner forever, so be it. If it means leaving your partner when your relationship has run its' course, or you discover that your partner is not the sort of person that will help you to achieve contentment or fulfillment, then so be that eventuality too.
https://dating.lovetoknow.com/relati...p-lasts-by-age
That's a 1.8 year average. It will be a bell shaped distribution curve with a long tail to the right because a small proportion of relationships started at the age of 17 last till death do them part.
It's fine that you have the ambition to stay with him forever.
Personally I think that having the ambition that you will have an as content and fulfilling life as you can is an ambition that should have top priority in your life. If achieving this ambition means that you stay with one partner forever, so be it. If it means leaving your partner when your relationship has run its' course, or you discover that your partner is not the sort of person that will help you to achieve contentment or fulfillment, then so be that eventuality too.
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I do think the worrying will only affect the relationship more and can lead to thinking of other things that could be an issue, when in fact there is no issue at all. Worrying about the realtionship all the the time will end up having trust issues. It will end up thinking irrationally '' whats he up to?'' '' why isnt he back yet'', ''is he spending too much time on his phone, doesnt he like me any more?'' you get the gist.
In answer to your original post your 17 do you ever really know if you are in love. Well, if you find him sexually attractive, love his personality, trust him completely, and dont want to be overly obsessive wanting him in your presence 24hours a day and have a life that also doesnt revolve your boyfriend all the time, then your on to a good thing
In answer to your original post your 17 do you ever really know if you are in love. Well, if you find him sexually attractive, love his personality, trust him completely, and dont want to be overly obsessive wanting him in your presence 24hours a day and have a life that also doesnt revolve your boyfriend all the time, then your on to a good thing
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(Original post by Anonymous)
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
it scares me how easily people can fall out of love. idk if i love my boyfriend, i’m 17, do people this young ever actually fully know? i really want a future with him, so much, but it scares me when i see things like ‘i’ve fell out of love with my boyfriend of 10 years’. like how tf does that even happen. i want to stay growing with this same boy forever and i never want to lose feelings for him, but as an overthinker i second guess my love for him all the time even though we’ve come out strong after everything
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