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So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
They won't know the details or pity you, they will just be more aware of situations that might upset you, and for the next detention (!) might make sure there's a female teacher, for example.
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(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
It's a safeguarding concern, especially if you're under the age of 16. She has a duty to report it I think. Other teachers knowing won't mean that they pity you, it'll mean they can put things in place to support you and make you feel more comfortable. You did well by talking to your teacher
It's a safeguarding concern, especially if you're under the age of 16. She has a duty to report it I think. Other teachers knowing won't mean that they pity you, it'll mean they can put things in place to support you and make you feel more comfortable. You did well by talking to your teacher
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(Original post by Anonymous)
telling other teachers isn't reporting it though...
telling other teachers isn't reporting it though...
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(Original post by threeportdrift)
She's only going to tell the lead teacher responsible for safeguarding in your school, she's legally obliged to do that. But that's as far as it goes in specific detail. If anything needs to be passed on to other teachers, then it is passed on without the details, ie other teachers you work with might be told they should watch out for signs you are upset, or having a panic attack etc, but not why, and they know not to ask/need to know why.
They won't know the details or pity you, they will just be more aware of situations that might upset you, and for the next detention (!) might make sure there's a female teacher, for example.
She's only going to tell the lead teacher responsible for safeguarding in your school, she's legally obliged to do that. But that's as far as it goes in specific detail. If anything needs to be passed on to other teachers, then it is passed on without the details, ie other teachers you work with might be told they should watch out for signs you are upset, or having a panic attack etc, but not why, and they know not to ask/need to know why.
They won't know the details or pity you, they will just be more aware of situations that might upset you, and for the next detention (!) might make sure there's a female teacher, for example.
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(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
It depends how many in total e.g. how many are senior leaders/designated safeguarding (especially if it's a large school/academy).
It depends how many in total e.g. how many are senior leaders/designated safeguarding (especially if it's a large school/academy).
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(Original post by Anonymous)
reporting to social services would make more sense
reporting to social services would make more sense
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(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
It may be that they do but they have to follow policy first which would be to report it to the school safeguarding teacher/team. Depends on age etc. too. Should be reported to the police. If OP is over 16 or 18, I can't remember which, then it's up to OP to decide and consent to report it further.
It may be that they do but they have to follow policy first which would be to report it to the school safeguarding teacher/team. Depends on age etc. too. Should be reported to the police. If OP is over 16 or 18, I can't remember which, then it's up to OP to decide and consent to report it further.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am 16 so is the teacher in the wrong because she didn’t ask what I wanted?
I am 16 so is the teacher in the wrong because she didn’t ask what I wanted?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am 16 so is the teacher in the wrong because she didn’t ask what I wanted?
I am 16 so is the teacher in the wrong because she didn’t ask what I wanted?
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(Original post by shebk)
Did the male teacher sexual assault you?
Did the male teacher sexual assault you?
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(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
No they still have a duty of care to report it to the safeguarding team. I can't remember whether it is over 16 or 18 where they would have to get your consent to report it further (e.g. the police/social services). If you're worried then ask your teacher
No they still have a duty of care to report it to the safeguarding team. I can't remember whether it is over 16 or 18 where they would have to get your consent to report it further (e.g. the police/social services). If you're worried then ask your teacher
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I’m quite sure she’s told my maths teacher because normally he makes jokes with me but today he was just looking at me funny like in a sad way and asked me if I was alright??
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m quite sure she’s told my maths teacher because normally he makes jokes with me but today he was just looking at me funny like in a sad way and asked me if I was alright??
I’m quite sure she’s told my maths teacher because normally he makes jokes with me but today he was just looking at me funny like in a sad way and asked me if I was alright??
Every school has one central safeguarding lead, but large schools may have one or two assistants. Everything goes through the safeguarding lead, and they are the person that gathers all reports and can see if there is any pattern around a specific student, member of staff, activity etc.
The safeguarding lead then makes a decision as to whether anyone else needs some sort of informing, ie social services, the police, or even in the staff room. If for example a student has disclosed an issue that means they are struggling in class, and are breaking down at times, having panic attacks etc, then the safeguarding lead is likely to tell the relevant teaching staff for that student that there is an issue that might create those behaviours. They don't say anything about the cause, and staff know not to ask, but they are told about the possible effects so they can be alert to the situation.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
So I told my teacher after school about an old sexual assault and about going therapy and she was really sweet and listened and everything. The only reason I told her was to ask her whether she thinks I should go therapy on top of a levels as I know it will be a lot to take mentally and I don’t think I’m ready. She said I should try. I told her I thought I was getting better apart from a panic attack I had in year 8 from having detention with a male teacher. She told me she has to make the other teachers aware of this and she’s going to log it into the system ?!!!
I’m so scared because I don’t want other teachers to know. I feel betrayed because I didn’t want this. I don’t want to be pitied by my teachers or for them to treat me differently. I don’t want them to know. She told me not to worry.
The teacher in a way is doing the right thing, but in the wrong way. I think she just wants to make sure you don't end up in a situation where you become frightened around a male staff and wants to ensure that there is always a female staff to safe guard you. I believe if you spoke to her maybe you could arrange a way for her to keep your mind at piece, knowing others are there for you but not being explicit on what happened.
I think it would advantage you for others knowing to keep an eye out for you but not exactly why, putting it on the system doesn't seem necessary as it goes against your privacy and is rather unethical in general from the schools side, they shouldn't publicize personal information and you could definitely argue your way out of this one.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Oh no no, he was just doing detention with me
Oh no no, he was just doing detention with me
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(Original post by shebk)
Who sexually assaulted you?
Who sexually assaulted you?
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