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    Well it is a very very long story if I was to tell you from the start but basically in short:-

    My mum and dad divorced when I was 10, my mum remarried just before I was 11 to an absolute thug. So I spent the next four years being hit/being dragged by my hair etc etc, well in March things came to a head when he violently punched me for telling him to not laugh at me, so my mum finally got a backbone and intervened he then tried to strangle her (lips went blue and everything) but then they made up (aka she fell for all the bull again) and then two weeks later there was another major fight, I did a runner to my dads and my mum refused to come, a few hours later I had a phonecall with my mum screaming that he had a knife at her throat and he was saying to me that he was going to slit her throat and then cut her body to pieces for me to find when I went back and at that point I called the police and went to court and he got sent to jail etc etc

    well I have just finally managed to get myself back on track when around half an hour a go I got a phone call from him and now I am in pieces again, I honestly dont know what to do! I have a restraining order against him so he broke the law but he didnt say anything wrong at all and was just asking about my mum constantly, so I cant really do much can I?

    Im really scared because I have also just found out her livces 10 minutes away from my school and I refuse to move schools as it is an amazing school and I wont let him ruin my life.

    Help!
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    If he has broken the restraining order then report it to the police and he should get sent to prison again, simple as. It doesn't matter what he said he shouldn't be contacting you. Don't fall for the bull like your mum did, if he's asking about her he's probably going to try and weasel himself in with her again. Report it to the police.
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    Tell him to mind his own business and threaten to call the police again if he contacts you.
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    (Original post by paneity)
    If he has broken the restraining order then report it to the police and he should get sent to prison again, simple as. It doesn't matter what he said he shouldn't be contacting you. Don't fall for the bull like your mum did, if he's asking about her he's probably going to try and weasel himself in with her again. Report it to the police.
    Agreed.
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    He has broke his restraining order so let the police know ASAP, that call could have been to test you, find out you still live there etc.
    Maybe ring your phone provider and get an alternative number. Do not accept calls from him-put the phone down if he calls.
    Let your Dad know what is going on.
    Does he know what school you go to?
    If you see him or worry at all then call the police. Do not be put into fear by him but also don;t let your gaurd down.
    I would advise you to post your thread on this wesbite and ask for their advice-they are police officers:
    http://www.ukpoliceonline.co.uk/

    But make sure you call the police and let them know he broke the restraining order, this will let him know your not taking any s-hit, let the police know he could mean business and lets people who need t know what is going on.
    Good luck
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    I'm really sorry this had to happen to you.

    I don't understand people like you mother who stay with such people, and let them do this to their children, and do nothing! How could you mother do that to you? And put your and her life in danger? Why? It's just beyond absurdity.

    Go to the police. Do whatever it takes to get that man out of your life and in jail. This person is clearly ill, and beyond your or your mother's help. Only a proffesional can help. He's a dangerous man.
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    She stayed with him because she was so utterly brain washed, she had no idea what he was doing, she was vulnerable before he got on the scene and he manipulated her to the point where she was telling me I deserved everything I got...


    Thanks for the advice everyone x
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    Could you let us know what your gona do?
    And please keep us posted.
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    I am going to email a teacher from my school, coz of everything that has happened one of the specialised teachers at my school gave me there email address in case he did get in touch so I will see what he wants to do

    I dont want to tell my mum atm as she is very ill in hospital

    will update soon
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    You have not mentioned that your informing the police of his contact-that is a very serioud matter.
    One phone call can mean a lot of things.
    Please post on the police forum i provided earlier.
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    I would really advise you to call the police and tell them that he broke the restraining order. People like him are 100% sure to contact you again, and it may not be by phone if he knows where you live. This is how accidents happen; you need to be strong and preventive in life, don't play russian roulette.

    People like him don't deserve pity.
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    tell the police. my aunt+cousins had a restraining order against their dad who went a bit awoll after the divorce, and not telling the police when he breached it or did something freaky to the rest of the family meant he kept getting away with stuff, getting closer and closer and doing weirder/scarier/crazier stuff until they finally got the police involved when he stalked my aunt to her new house and smashed her car in :s i'm not saying that ex-husband will do something really bad if you don't report it, but it's best to be safe and any breach of his restraining order is somethng you need to report. it's for your own safety and your best interests.
 
 
 
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