Boyfriend wants to split our anniversary meal?

And so he gets to enjoy his wonderful dinner with his lovely girlfriend plus a gift and something else memorable to him that I got him. There, we're both happy.

‘we’re honest with you’

When i posted this i didn’t think i’d get 20 me who have never had a girlfriend in their life reply though?

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it’s always been a difficult subject for us. I’m not into stingy people who want to count money and split everything 50/50. It might work for some of you but for me that kind of person turns me off as i’m very giving with money. So when he’s mentioned ‘times that i said i’d pay and i didn’t’ it’s been really difficult to overcome that and that’s lead to some insecurity from me when he does want to split.

hey you have no idea what i’ve spent on him or others or anything about my life. but You’re getting rude on a student room forum Lmao

Women died fighting for equality. You can’t take the bits of equality that suit you and bin the rest.

I’m a student. My boyf is a student. We take it in turns to pay on a day to day basis, but for a more expensive occasion then either one of us might ‘gift’ the meal if the other isn’t bothered about a gift - or we’d split the bill. Neither of us are particularly materialistic, we prefer to spend the money we have on travel or shared experiences.

We prefer to have a relationship built on love, equality and mutual respect, it makes me cringe a bit to think that some females still want to be a bit of a pampered princess in this day and age.

this gives me gold digger vibes. similarly you get to have a wonderful dinner with your lovely boyfriend plus a gift. what does it matter who pays? you said you’re not one of those people who counts every penny you’ve spent on someone and are very giving but you’ve also said you’ve spent a lot of money on him and how we have no idea how much you’ve spent on him which makes me think you are that type of person to some extent

hi guys
I’m 22 and my bf is 25. I currently earn more mone than him but we are both on graduate jobs. It’s our 2 year anniversary next week and we are going to this fancy place in london. He asked me what i wanted and i said some makeup and these Designer earrings which were kind of pricey (£150)! I got him something if a similar value but more suited to his interests hehe.

He has said that he didn’t realise the restaurant was so expensive and that he may not be able to afford it (it’s 60pp) so asked if we could split. Obviously i don’t mind splitting meals but as this was our anniversary i’d think he was going to treat me on this special occasion. It’s not that i need him to pay desperately but if he did that would be really sweet and a kind gesture on this special occasion.

Am i overreacting for thinking he perhaps could have saved up a bit for this month or put some money aside for this? I’m obviously going to split the bill with him but part of me just assumed he’d be an old fashioned gentleman 😞

Erm I'm a different person, I'm not the OP lol. People confuse gold digging with being hypergamous. But I've noticed it's only called golddigging to someone who can't afford it.

Depends on who suggested the restaurant. But wouldn't it be silly of him to suggest or agree going to a restaurant he can't afford and agreeing to buy something he can't afford?

With OP's entitled attitude which I can assume played a part in picking which restaurant they went to, not really.

gifts, the cost of them and meals out in fancy restaurants is meaningless. This relationship is not going to last. You sound very shallow and interested in gesture and show. That isn't what love is about.

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it’s always been a difficult subject for us. I’m not into stingy people who want to count money and split everything 50/50. It might work for some of you but for me that kind of person turns me off as i’m very giving with money. So when he’s mentioned ‘times that i said i’d pay and i didn’t’ it’s been really difficult to overcome that and that’s lead to some insecurity from me when he does want to split.

If we assumed that she picked the restaurant then why agree to go a restaurant you can't afford. If you can't communicate this to your partner then you shouldn't cry about it later if you did nothing to stop it.

maybe OP begged to go to said restaurant and wouldn’t agree to anywhere else?

It can be healthy if they both have the same values but I wouldn't say that their relationship is unhealthy it's seems to me that they both need some communication. You're making this into a bigger deal than it is.

She only wanted him to pay for dinner, you're acting like shes draining the life and money out of her boyfriend. We don't know her relationship or them personally so I can't fully talk about who they are as a person.

i don’t feel that i do but he knows my love languages and that is being spoiled - whether that be with words or affection etc. So i thought he’d pick up the bill