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I volenteer at a charity shop for DofE, there's this old dude, like 80+ at least, he always there when i go on saturdays. He's nice and sweet, but he creeps me out. He says stuff like "i missed you" and he even gave me his number and address. He wants me to do the same, i really dont want to. Can i let him down gently or flat out say no? Im so awkward i usually just say yes to what he says. He hasn't done anything bad, he speaks slowly and he is nice, he did stroke my hair once tho. what do i dooooo
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Oh gosh. Maybe you remind him of a grandchild or something 
I think you should let him down gently..
I’m not quite sure
I think you should let him down gently..
I’m not quite sure
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Just say that you're really thankful for his offer but you can't accept older people's numbers. Or say something like I would love to but I don't think it's a good idea.
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sh*t...I'm sure he won't manage to harm you or if he did you can overpower him. Can you talk to the manager there to have a word with him?
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(Original post by gracieee16)
Just say that you're really thankful for his offer but you can't accept older people's numbers. Or say something like I would love to but I don't think it's a good idea.
Just say that you're really thankful for his offer but you can't accept older people's numbers. Or say something like I would love to but I don't think it's a good idea.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
nah mate this old codger was tryin to get his freak on
nah mate this old codger was tryin to get his freak on
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He is probably extremely lonely.
Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position, he may be deceptively strong.
Assert your boundaries, don't feel compelled to do things you aren't comfortable with. The fairest thing you can do for him is to make it clear that you don't want to go to his house.
Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position, he may be deceptively strong.
Assert your boundaries, don't feel compelled to do things you aren't comfortable with. The fairest thing you can do for him is to make it clear that you don't want to go to his house.
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Ur doing Dofe - very nice!
hmmm, he seems a bit off ngl. I would not tell him ur number and address - it's better that way and it would keep u safe just in case he's dodgy.....
Maybe say I would love to but I don't think its such a good idea to or smth like that.
Maybe tell someone else who works at the charity shop about it? - they may be able to help.
Im sorry if this isn't much help - I've never been in a position like this before so idk much.
hmmm, he seems a bit off ngl. I would not tell him ur number and address - it's better that way and it would keep u safe just in case he's dodgy.....
Maybe say I would love to but I don't think its such a good idea to or smth like that.
Maybe tell someone else who works at the charity shop about it? - they may be able to help.
Im sorry if this isn't much help - I've never been in a position like this before so idk much.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
That sounds good, ill probably say something along those lines. Whatever happens it'll probably be fine, i dont have to volenteer forever. Thanks btw
That sounds good, ill probably say something along those lines. Whatever happens it'll probably be fine, i dont have to volenteer forever. Thanks btw
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You should talk to a manager if it escalates. I would talk to someone now honestly.
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remember that the Duke himself is an old codger... probably older than the one you have attracted 
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(Original post by glassalice)
He is probably extremely lonely.
Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position, he may be deceptively strong.
Assert your boundaries, don't feel compelled to do things you aren't comfortable with. The fairest thing you can do for him is to make it clear that you don't want to go to his house.
He is probably extremely lonely.
Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position, he may be deceptively strong.
Assert your boundaries, don't feel compelled to do things you aren't comfortable with. The fairest thing you can do for him is to make it clear that you don't want to go to his house.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Yeah, defo, ill try my best to assert boundaries, but like u said i don't wanna be mean cus he does seem lonely and kinda nice. Got a whole week to think it all thru, anxiety will keep reminding me xD
Yeah, defo, ill try my best to assert boundaries, but like u said i don't wanna be mean cus he does seem lonely and kinda nice. Got a whole week to think it all thru, anxiety will keep reminding me xD
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