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New girl reminds me of lot of my ex, I feel really uncomfortable when I see my friends hit on her (my stomach drops and I get nervous at the thought). I know I'm being irrational, but can someone give me some advice?
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I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex 
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(Original post by DepressedLife)
I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex
I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex
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(Original post by DepressedLife)
I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex
I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex
not the other type of expose haha
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I'm not sure if there's much you can do - you can't really help an instinctive response like that.
If getting to know her works, great - if not you may just have to avoid her depending on how uncomfortable this makes you.
If getting to know her works, great - if not you may just have to avoid her depending on how uncomfortable this makes you.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Thanks for the advice, yeah I've also been advised to expose myself to this person by other friends, so I think that's what I'll do. They look similar and are from the same country so I think my brain just makes the connection.
Thanks for the advice, yeah I've also been advised to expose myself to this person by other friends, so I think that's what I'll do. They look similar and are from the same country so I think my brain just makes the connection.
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(Original post by DepressedLife)
Hopefully it isn’t her stalking you ahaha
Hopefully it isn’t her stalking you ahaha
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(Original post by Anonymous)
haha people from her country tend to look/act similar, she's Dutch. They're almost all blonde, 5 foot 6 - 5 foot 10, bubbly and speak English in an American accent
haha people from her country tend to look/act similar, she's Dutch. They're almost all blonde, 5 foot 6 - 5 foot 10, bubbly and speak English in an American accent
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(Original post by becausethenight)
I'm not sure if there's much you can do - you can't really help an instinctive response like that.
If getting to know her works, great - if not you may just have to avoid her depending on how uncomfortable this makes you.
I'm not sure if there's much you can do - you can't really help an instinctive response like that.
If getting to know her works, great - if not you may just have to avoid her depending on how uncomfortable this makes you.
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hahaha thanks!!
(Original post by DepressedLife)
I don’t know any Dutch people lol but good luck :3
I don’t know any Dutch people lol but good luck :3
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm going to try getting to know her but if that doesn't work then yeah, maybe I'll avoid them. It's crazy, from a logical perspective, I know it's silly. One of my friends does like her and he is trying to make a move. I defo won't be but just the thought of my mate getting with her feels pretty ****
I'm going to try getting to know her but if that doesn't work then yeah, maybe I'll avoid them. It's crazy, from a logical perspective, I know it's silly. One of my friends does like her and he is trying to make a move. I defo won't be but just the thought of my mate getting with her feels pretty ****
It sounds like you maybe do have quite a lot of baggage with this ex, though - have you talked to anyone about it?
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(Original post by becausethenight)
Sometimes all you can really do is go "for personal reasons, it's not a good idea for me to do this" and move on, yeah. Illogical or not, it is what is is - we're not very rational creatures!
It sounds like you maybe do have quite a lot of baggage with this ex, though - have you talked to anyone about it?
Sometimes all you can really do is go "for personal reasons, it's not a good idea for me to do this" and move on, yeah. Illogical or not, it is what is is - we're not very rational creatures!
It sounds like you maybe do have quite a lot of baggage with this ex, though - have you talked to anyone about it?
Regarding my ex, yeah I got hurt pretty bad, I have briefly, but not in too much detail..
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(Original post by Anonymous)
100% do not planto hit on this person because it would be really unhealthy. At the moment, she is just in the friendship circle, but I can see her and my friend dating in the future.
Regarding my ex, yeah I got hurt pretty bad, I have briefly, but not in too much detail..
100% do not planto hit on this person because it would be really unhealthy. At the moment, she is just in the friendship circle, but I can see her and my friend dating in the future.
Regarding my ex, yeah I got hurt pretty bad, I have briefly, but not in too much detail..
Would it be worth maybe exploring counselling or something around that, or an in depth chat with a friend?
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