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I was thinking of asking my housemate out. However, I think she might say that we should invite our other housemates. I just want it to be me and her, so if she does suggest inviting the other housemates, should I tell her that I want it to be only the two of us?
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well obviously. tell her the truth. i'm asking you out... ON A DATE. can't get anymore simpler than that
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Before you do anything, are you really interested in something long term, because if you wind up breaking up, that will be really awkward for you and your housemates.
Also, is there any indication that she's into you? Because if she isn't, more of the aforementioned awkwardness.
Also, is there any indication that she's into you? Because if she isn't, more of the aforementioned awkwardness.
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It better to be reasonably sure that a housemate is up for it when you ask them out as if not it’s quite uncomfortable thereafter. Why not go out with a group of friends and see if you can get off with her.
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Before you do anything, are you really interested in something long term, because if you wind up breaking up, that will be really awkward for you and your housemates.
Also, is there any indication that she's into you? Because if she isn't, more of the aforementioned awkwardness.
Before you do anything, are you really interested in something long term, because if you wind up breaking up, that will be really awkward for you and your housemates.
Also, is there any indication that she's into you? Because if she isn't, more of the aforementioned awkwardness.
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I'd also be very leery trying to date a flatmate right now, esp since if and when it goes wrong neither of you will really have much option to get away from each other. Worst case yr flatmates kick one of both of you out y'know?
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It better to be reasonably sure that a housemate is up for it when you ask them out as if not it’s quite uncomfortable thereafter. Why not go out with a group of friends and see if you can get off with her.
It better to be reasonably sure that a housemate is up for it when you ask them out as if not it’s quite uncomfortable thereafter. Why not go out with a group of friends and see if you can get off with her.
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(Original post by candydiva)
Wat kind of advice is this? It's much harder to "get off" with a girl when she's out with a group of friends than if u can get her on her own...surely u know this basic fact by now?
Wat kind of advice is this? It's much harder to "get off" with a girl when she's out with a group of friends than if u can get her on her own...surely u know this basic fact by now?
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Dude (I assume u r a dude)... I don't agree. I agree that being in the group provides more oppo in some ways for socially connecting but it totally restricts romantic/sexual potential at that moment.
When I go out with a group of girlfriends there is for sure gonna be cockblocking. If one girl likes some dude while we r all having a good time there is no way she is gonna leave the group that moment to do anything with him. She may xchange numbers but even this is less likely if we r all looking and laughing while he approaches her and let's be real how many times will a girl leave a group specifically to initiate an approach? Talk about unicorns! S-times being in a group of girls socializing... it's like a group of hyenas....
When I go out with a group of girlfriends there is for sure gonna be cockblocking. If one girl likes some dude while we r all having a good time there is no way she is gonna leave the group that moment to do anything with him. She may xchange numbers but even this is less likely if we r all looking and laughing while he approaches her and let's be real how many times will a girl leave a group specifically to initiate an approach? Talk about unicorns! S-times being in a group of girls socializing... it's like a group of hyenas....
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(Original post by candydiva)
Dude (I assume u r a dude)... I don't agree. I agree that being in the group provides more oppo in some ways for socially connecting but it totally restricts romantic/sexual potential at that moment.
When I go out with a group of girlfriends there is for sure gonna be cockblocking. If one girl likes some dude while we r all having a good time there is no way she is gonna leave the group that moment to do anything with him. She may xchange numbers but even this is less likely if we r all looking and laughing while he approaches her and let's be real how many times will a girl leave a group specifically to initiate an approach? Talk about unicorns! S-times being in a group of girls socializing... it's like a group of hyenas....
Dude (I assume u r a dude)... I don't agree. I agree that being in the group provides more oppo in some ways for socially connecting but it totally restricts romantic/sexual potential at that moment.
When I go out with a group of girlfriends there is for sure gonna be cockblocking. If one girl likes some dude while we r all having a good time there is no way she is gonna leave the group that moment to do anything with him. She may xchange numbers but even this is less likely if we r all looking and laughing while he approaches her and let's be real how many times will a girl leave a group specifically to initiate an approach? Talk about unicorns! S-times being in a group of girls socializing... it's like a group of hyenas....
If I don't have the wit or charm to open doors with their friends and get a playful vibe going, then am i even trying?
Remember we're talking about someone and a group they already kinda know. I'll grant it's a different matter marching up a strange group and making a play like that.
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*shakes head sadly* Plenty of people actually respond better in groups, it creates a different dynamic and trying to go straight for 'time alone' can absolutely backfire. If you can socialise well in the group their friends might do all the hard work for you. (or they might not)
*shakes head sadly* Plenty of people actually respond better in groups, it creates a different dynamic and trying to go straight for 'time alone' can absolutely backfire. If you can socialise well in the group their friends might do all the hard work for you. (or they might not)
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Mate, it is hard to form a connection with the girl when other people are around. Hanging out with a group of friends changes the entire situation and dynamics.
Mate, it is hard to form a connection with the girl when other people are around. Hanging out with a group of friends changes the entire situation and dynamics.
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be VERY careful. don’t scare her away. Why not be friends for a little longer and see where it leads? she might even make the first move. Please don’t make her feel awkward she might end up moving out. Just remain friends but maybe sit with her more often just don’t be creepy
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