Weight loss seems pointless.

It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great.

i was in the same boat, used to weigh about 22 stone, and i'm now down to 16 and for it i feel so much better.
dont go by your bmi or whatever, mine says i should be 15 stone (im 6'7 and i look fine) but it depends on your body shape

i made a few changes to my lifestyle, i now eat lots more fruit and veg, cut down on portion sizes and i've cut out most fizzy drinks and always drink water with the odd cup of tea. Over the summer i joined the gym and just started exercising more, going on bike rides, playing sports and the weight has gradually gone.

its not something that happens over night, or over a period of a month, you've just got to stick at it. i've had my fair share of bad days where i know i ate too much, but if you have more good days rather than bad then you'll be on the right track

Have you been to the GP?

This is the kind of post I want to be writing in a few years time.

How long did it take you to go down from 22 to what you are now and how quick was the immediate weight loss?

I am very obese, I am not going to deny that. I may not look it but I am 21 stone. Yes, I hear your shocked intakes of breath. 21 stone.

The thing is in order to be the "correct" weight for my height I need to lose 10 stone which is, quite frankly, ridiculous. I eat alot and it just seems like everytime I think about my weight I get down and I've come to the conclusion there is no point worrying about it since there is no way I could loose enough weight to be normal.

I do eat alot, today I've had two packets of crisps, a sandwich, an apple, a biscuit and chicken with potatoes. I don't eat as much as I used to and I know I should cut out the crisps but they are so damned addictive. I eat them and it's like I don't remember eating them. When I was at my worst I could go through a 24 multi-pack in an hour but I haven't done that since I was about 13.

It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great. Not to mention the whole being gay thing when all the gay guys I know are either fat and ugly or skinny. I just want to meet a guy who is big but not old or ugly.

My weight gets in my way all the time but I use my winning personality to get over it. If it wasn't for that I don't know what I'd do, I'd certainly be alot more depressed and I'm sure I wouldn't have the friends I do who don't seem bothered by my weight. I've always thought my ability to poke fun at myself is really useful when you are overweight.

I don't think it's really anything psychological, I don't comfort eat and although I've had alot of feck-ups in my life I'm a very well rounded person and I never let my problems get to me.

I don't really know where this is going. But I was just wondering if anyone is in the same situation or has any advice for me. I felt it was about time I had a thread in Health & Relationships.

Hi Adam. I know exactly what you mean about the gym (I assume the one at college), it's always fully of body-builders and arrogant bastards, I gave up on because I just didn't enjoy it.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. It's how you feel about yourself. Don't beat yourself up about things, it's not worth it and in the end it will only end up in the vicious circle like you said. If I have any advice for you it would be to try and cut things like the crisps out. Whoever does the shopping at home make sure they don't buy them, don't take any money to college (even though you need like £10 to buy anything decent ) just brink a drink and sandwich or something. and try to get involved in a sport. Even if it's not physically demanding you will feel the difference. Maybe swimming? or Golf? It'd be a start. Combine that with an upbeat attitude and you will win!

What you do you drink? you don't seem to eat that much! a friend of mine was drinking loads of fizzy sugary drinks and beer and as soon as he cut them out and just drank water of 100% fruit juice and smoothies his weight dropped a lot! Also fruit and veg fill you up, but have the bonus of being healthier than pizza! Good luck!