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I am very obese, I am not going to deny that. I may not look it but I am 21 stone. Yes, I hear your shocked intakes of breath. 21 stone.
The thing is in order to be the "correct" weight for my height I need to lose 10 stone which is, quite frankly, ridiculous. I eat alot and it just seems like everytime I think about my weight I get down and I've come to the conclusion there is no point worrying about it since there is no way I could loose enough weight to be normal.
I do eat alot, today I've had two packets of crisps, a sandwich, an apple, a biscuit and chicken with potatoes. I don't eat as much as I used to and I know I should cut out the crisps but they are so damned addictive. I eat them and it's like I don't remember eating them. When I was at my worst I could go through a 24 multi-pack in an hour but I haven't done that since I was about 13.
It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great. Not to mention the whole being gay thing when all the gay guys I know are either fat and ugly or skinny. I just want to meet a guy who is big but not old or ugly.
My weight gets in my way all the time but I use my winning
personality to get over it. If it wasn't for that I don't know what I'd do, I'd certainly be alot more depressed and I'm sure I wouldn't have the friends I do who don't seem bothered by my weight. I've always thought my ability to poke fun at myself is really useful when you are overweight.
I don't think it's really anything psychological, I don't comfort eat and although I've had alot of feck-ups in my life I'm a very well rounded person and I never let my problems get to me.
I don't really know where this is going. But I was just wondering if anyone is in the same situation or has any advice for me. I felt it was about time I had a thread in Health & Relationships.
The thing is in order to be the "correct" weight for my height I need to lose 10 stone which is, quite frankly, ridiculous. I eat alot and it just seems like everytime I think about my weight I get down and I've come to the conclusion there is no point worrying about it since there is no way I could loose enough weight to be normal.
I do eat alot, today I've had two packets of crisps, a sandwich, an apple, a biscuit and chicken with potatoes. I don't eat as much as I used to and I know I should cut out the crisps but they are so damned addictive. I eat them and it's like I don't remember eating them. When I was at my worst I could go through a 24 multi-pack in an hour but I haven't done that since I was about 13.
It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great. Not to mention the whole being gay thing when all the gay guys I know are either fat and ugly or skinny. I just want to meet a guy who is big but not old or ugly.
My weight gets in my way all the time but I use my winning
personality to get over it. If it wasn't for that I don't know what I'd do, I'd certainly be alot more depressed and I'm sure I wouldn't have the friends I do who don't seem bothered by my weight. I've always thought my ability to poke fun at myself is really useful when you are overweight. I don't think it's really anything psychological, I don't comfort eat and although I've had alot of feck-ups in my life I'm a very well rounded person and I never let my problems get to me.
I don't really know where this is going. But I was just wondering if anyone is in the same situation or has any advice for me. I felt it was about time I had a thread in Health & Relationships.
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If you really want to change then just go for it, don't worry about what other people may be thinking, it's your body and your health. To be honest, it doesn't sound like you eat that much, try cutting down on crisps (I know it seems hard at first, but trust me, you won't miss them once you've stopped).
Norfolkadam
It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great.
I feel your pain
Don't have any advice, though. I'm stuck in the same predicament myself.... Ah well, lets just be fat together
yo man, chin up.
What to do is, go for a little jog in the night or something if you dont want to during the day e.g. due to being embarrassed. Cut out the junk food, drink more water, eat stuff like pasta/tuna instead of the crap you eat.
You'll lose weight in no time mate, once you get to like 17/18 stone then start doing more and more exercise. You will lose the first few stones pretty easily if you cut out the junk in your diet and start exercising.
What to do is, go for a little jog in the night or something if you dont want to during the day e.g. due to being embarrassed. Cut out the junk food, drink more water, eat stuff like pasta/tuna instead of the crap you eat.
You'll lose weight in no time mate, once you get to like 17/18 stone then start doing more and more exercise. You will lose the first few stones pretty easily if you cut out the junk in your diet and start exercising.
Your description of what you are eating now doesn't sound like much actually, unless it's absolutely massive portions.
What you've eaten today sounds small!
i was in the same boat, used to weigh about 22 stone, and i'm now down to 16 and for it i feel so much better.
dont go by your bmi or whatever, mine says i should be 15 stone (im 6'7 and i look fine) but it depends on your body shape
i made a few changes to my lifestyle, i now eat lots more fruit and veg, cut down on portion sizes and i've cut out most fizzy drinks and always drink water with the odd cup of tea. Over the summer i joined the gym and just started exercising more, going on bike rides, playing sports and the weight has gradually gone.
its not something that happens over night, or over a period of a month, you've just got to stick at it. i've had my fair share of bad days where i know i ate too much, but if you have more good days rather than bad then you'll be on the right track
dont go by your bmi or whatever, mine says i should be 15 stone (im 6'7 and i look fine) but it depends on your body shape
i made a few changes to my lifestyle, i now eat lots more fruit and veg, cut down on portion sizes and i've cut out most fizzy drinks and always drink water with the odd cup of tea. Over the summer i joined the gym and just started exercising more, going on bike rides, playing sports and the weight has gradually gone.
its not something that happens over night, or over a period of a month, you've just got to stick at it. i've had my fair share of bad days where i know i ate too much, but if you have more good days rather than bad then you'll be on the right track
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i was in the same boat, used to weigh about 22 stone, and i'm now down to 16 and for it i feel so much better.
dont go by your bmi or whatever, mine says i should be 15 stone (im 6'7 and i look fine) but it depends on your body shape
i made a few changes to my lifestyle, i now eat lots more fruit and veg, cut down on portion sizes and i've cut out most fizzy drinks and always drink water with the odd cup of tea. Over the summer i joined the gym and just started exercising more, going on bike rides, playing sports and the weight has gradually gone.
its not something that happens over night, or over a period of a month, you've just got to stick at it. i've had my fair share of bad days where i know i ate too much, but if you have more good days rather than bad then you'll be on the right track
dont go by your bmi or whatever, mine says i should be 15 stone (im 6'7 and i look fine) but it depends on your body shape
i made a few changes to my lifestyle, i now eat lots more fruit and veg, cut down on portion sizes and i've cut out most fizzy drinks and always drink water with the odd cup of tea. Over the summer i joined the gym and just started exercising more, going on bike rides, playing sports and the weight has gradually gone.
its not something that happens over night, or over a period of a month, you've just got to stick at it. i've had my fair share of bad days where i know i ate too much, but if you have more good days rather than bad then you'll be on the right track
This is the kind of post I want to be writing in a few years time.
How long did it take you to go down from 22 to what you are now and how quick was the immediate weight loss?
Have you been to the GP?
same here. I need to lose 4 stone to get to the higher end of normal, and it's just never going to happen. I can't even remember being the weight I'm supposed to be. My main issue is that I'm one of those instant gratification types. I want to do diet like made for 2 weeks and drop a dress size, I hat all this slow and steady rubbish. I've lost some before and then put it straight back on, which makes it even harder to find the motivation. I bought a ross trainer, used it twice, but because i wasn't instantly feeling the benefits I gave up on that too. *hugs*
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Have you been to the GP?
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Norfolkadam
This is the kind of post I want to be writing in a few years time.
How long did it take you to go down from 22 to what you are now and how quick was the immediate weight loss?
How long did it take you to go down from 22 to what you are now and how quick was the immediate weight loss?
I started to eat more healthily towards the end of last year and i was down to about 18 stone in june/july so thats about 8 months.
initially i lost a couple of stone, but then i hit a plateau and stayed around the same for a while and that's when i started to exercise more, join the gym etc
lifestyle change.
aesthetic reasons aside, it's extremely unhealthy to be 21 stone.
aesthetic reasons aside, it's extremely unhealthy to be 21 stone.
have you considered a stomach band or bypass surgery? the first being the safer option.
Norfolkadam
I am very obese, I am not going to deny that. I may not look it but I am 21 stone. Yes, I hear your shocked intakes of breath. 21 stone.
The thing is in order to be the "correct" weight for my height I need to lose 10 stone which is, quite frankly, ridiculous. I eat alot and it just seems like everytime I think about my weight I get down and I've come to the conclusion there is no point worrying about it since there is no way I could loose enough weight to be normal.
I do eat alot, today I've had two packets of crisps, a sandwich, an apple, a biscuit and chicken with potatoes. I don't eat as much as I used to and I know I should cut out the crisps but they are so damned addictive. I eat them and it's like I don't remember eating them. When I was at my worst I could go through a 24 multi-pack in an hour but I haven't done that since I was about 13.
It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great. Not to mention the whole being gay thing when all the gay guys I know are either fat and ugly or skinny. I just want to meet a guy who is big but not old or ugly.
My weight gets in my way all the time but I use my winning personality to get over it. If it wasn't for that I don't know what I'd do, I'd certainly be alot more depressed and I'm sure I wouldn't have the friends I do who don't seem bothered by my weight. I've always thought my ability to poke fun at myself is really useful when you are overweight.
I don't think it's really anything psychological, I don't comfort eat and although I've had alot of feck-ups in my life I'm a very well rounded person and I never let my problems get to me.
I don't really know where this is going. But I was just wondering if anyone is in the same situation or has any advice for me. I felt it was about time I had a thread in Health & Relationships.
The thing is in order to be the "correct" weight for my height I need to lose 10 stone which is, quite frankly, ridiculous. I eat alot and it just seems like everytime I think about my weight I get down and I've come to the conclusion there is no point worrying about it since there is no way I could loose enough weight to be normal.
I do eat alot, today I've had two packets of crisps, a sandwich, an apple, a biscuit and chicken with potatoes. I don't eat as much as I used to and I know I should cut out the crisps but they are so damned addictive. I eat them and it's like I don't remember eating them. When I was at my worst I could go through a 24 multi-pack in an hour but I haven't done that since I was about 13.
It's a bit of a vicious circle, because I'm so large excersize is humiliating and when I did go to the gym I used to feel really intimidated by all the bodybuilders and skinny kids. I want to be alot thinner. I love the Indie scene and all the clothes that are made for that are only for small sizes, you can't get vintage gear in XXL so I end up wearing shirts and jumpers, which I like but don't make me feel great. Not to mention the whole being gay thing when all the gay guys I know are either fat and ugly or skinny. I just want to meet a guy who is big but not old or ugly.
My weight gets in my way all the time but I use my winning
personality to get over it. If it wasn't for that I don't know what I'd do, I'd certainly be alot more depressed and I'm sure I wouldn't have the friends I do who don't seem bothered by my weight. I've always thought my ability to poke fun at myself is really useful when you are overweight. I don't think it's really anything psychological, I don't comfort eat and although I've had alot of feck-ups in my life I'm a very well rounded person and I never let my problems get to me.
I don't really know where this is going. But I was just wondering if anyone is in the same situation or has any advice for me. I felt it was about time I had a thread in Health & Relationships.
Hi Adam. I know exactly what you mean about the gym (I assume the one at college), it's always fully of body-builders and arrogant bastards, I gave up on because I just didn't enjoy it.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. It's how you feel about yourself. Don't beat yourself up about things, it's not worth it and in the end it will only end up in the vicious circle like you said. If I have any advice for you it would be to try and cut things like the crisps out. Whoever does the shopping at home make sure they don't buy them, don't take any money to college (even though you need like £10 to buy anything decent
) just brink a drink and sandwich or something. and try to get involved in a sport. Even if it's not physically demanding you will feel the difference. Maybe swimming? or Golf? It'd be a start. Combine that with an upbeat attitude and you will win! 
aww dude, keep your head up...i think the main thing to get your head around is the fact that weight loss is never ever going to be a quick fix thing...i can sympathise with you though, i used to be at my worst 16 stone...i lost loads of weight (the wrong way) and got down to my slimmest at 12 stone...this was 2 years ago now though..and im now back up to 14.5 stone....but i seem to carry it well due to my build and height....still working on it though, and each time that you realise youve lost a bit of weight, you really do get a kick out of it...and that great feeling makes you want to carry on.
i can also sympathise with you on the whole 'being gay' thing...i know what its like on the scene...every guy seems to be slim..REALLY slim..or muscled and toned...dont worry about it,..use it as inspiration and a goal to work towards...you'll be fine...JUST KEEP AT IT....remember its a lifestlye change as well as a nutritional change...good luck.
i can also sympathise with you on the whole 'being gay' thing...i know what its like on the scene...every guy seems to be slim..REALLY slim..or muscled and toned...dont worry about it,..use it as inspiration and a goal to work towards...you'll be fine...JUST KEEP AT IT....remember its a lifestlye change as well as a nutritional change...good luck.
I used to be in the same predicament, although not quite to the same extent as you. I do feel your pain about wanting to lose 7 stone in a month but it isn't going to happen. The way I got down a stone or two was getting a different attitude to food, missing puddings after supper is a good one, even though they taste sooo nice. I went running at night because it's cool and people aren't out as much, so not for embarrassment but for practical reasons of overheating. Because of your large frame I wouldn't do high impact things like running yet, if you can, go biking, walking swimming or anything which is low impact. Also getting your friends involved in sports helps keeps you motivated as you can play with them.
What you do you drink? you don't seem to eat that much! a friend of mine was drinking loads of fizzy sugary drinks and beer and as soon as he cut them out and just drank water of 100% fruit juice and smoothies his weight dropped a lot! Also fruit and veg fill you up, but have the bonus of being healthier than pizza! Good luck!
Good luck!I think a stomach band is a little extreme, and your doctor can give you advice on losing weight but basically all they will do is give you a really strict diet sheet or give you weight loss pills which I think are a load of rubbish!
How about trying a slimming group, it's a little daunting at first but i joined slimming world in may and have lost 2 stone since then.
How about trying a slimming group, it's a little daunting at first but i joined slimming world in may and have lost 2 stone since then.
Fellas
Hi Adam. I know exactly what you mean about the gym (I assume the one at college), it's always fully of body-builders and arrogant bastards, I gave up on because I just didn't enjoy it.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. It's how you feel about yourself. Don't beat yourself up about things, it's not worth it and in the end it will only end up in the vicious circle like you said. If I have any advice for you it would be to try and cut things like the crisps out. Whoever does the shopping at home make sure they don't buy them, don't take any money to college (even though you need like £10 to buy anything decent) just brink a drink and sandwich or something. and try to get involved in a sport. Even if it's not physically demanding you will feel the difference. Maybe swimming? or Golf? It'd be a start. Combine that with an upbeat attitude and you will win!
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. It's how you feel about yourself. Don't beat yourself up about things, it's not worth it and in the end it will only end up in the vicious circle like you said. If I have any advice for you it would be to try and cut things like the crisps out. Whoever does the shopping at home make sure they don't buy them, don't take any money to college (even though you need like £10 to buy anything decent
) just brink a drink and sandwich or something. and try to get involved in a sport. Even if it's not physically demanding you will feel the difference. Maybe swimming? or Golf? It'd be a start. Combine that with an upbeat attitude and you will win! Aw thanks for the kind words. The gym at college is a joke, it's just there for the people who do PE to show off and be cliquey about.
On a different note well done for getting in to LSE. Such a good university.
Adarah
What you do you drink? you don't seem to eat that much! a friend of mine was drinking loads of fizzy sugary drinks and beer and as soon as he cut them out and just drank water of 100% fruit juice and smoothies his weight dropped a lot! Also fruit and veg fill you up, but have the bonus of being healthier than pizza! Good luck!
Good luck!I do mainly drink alot of herbal tea, coffee, water and Diet Coke. My diet isn't really as bad as some skinny people I know but I need to cut out the crisps, I need to cut out the Rustlers burgers and cut out the cheese products. I also need to eat more fruit but I do eat quite alot of vegetables.
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