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So I recently got into a relationship but I don't want to show affection. When my bf shows affection I cringe and move away is that bad? I should be affectionate like my bf but I'm not I just want to talk with him instead of doing those mushy things like hugging.
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sounds like you'd make better friends than a couole
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well say to him that you want to take it slow and that you want to learn things first about each other
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You’re better off as friends.
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If you’re cringing at the sight of affection this relationship is clearly in the very early stages, one might say it’s not even a relationship but a very poorly developed friendship.
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How on earth did you get into a relationship but not want to show affection? lol
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Is your reaction & personality the same with family members or close friends (male and female)?
If not, this could be a warning sign that you are not sexually attracted to him or consider him too lacking in reserve/emotionally needy.
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Maybe you need to form an emotional bond before you get comfortable with affection or anything of a sexual nature..
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Yeah tbh I think we should stay friends actually but I don't know how to tell him since I just accepted to date him
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Yeah tbh I think we should stay friends actually but I don't know how to tell him since I just accepted to date him
I feel so bad tho like I’m so dumb bec he’s so nice and I’m so ****
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I feel so bad tho like I’m so dumb bec he’s so nice and I’m so ****
Hi there.
It is alright.
It seems that you did not really like him. As you said you just accepted to date.
Maybe that is why you cringe when he shows affection to you.
Maybe if you liked him from the get go, you would be more at ease with him.
Just tell him the truth; I am sure he will understand.
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I can’t stand being friends with people who don’t show affection. That’s the whole point of a relationship, to me, if there no is affection there is no relationship.
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If you want to take it slow, then take it slow. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about that, no means no until you're comfortable.
Do you see yourself possibly being affectionate in the future? Do you see a romantic future with him? Are you romantically attracted to him?
If not, then I would probably reconsider, but relationships arent a fast thing.
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Are you asexual? Maybe you just like having platonic relationships and friendships rather than physical ones.
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Are you asexual? Maybe you just like having platonic relationships and friendships rather than physical ones.
Asexual is a possibility, but you can still have a romantic relationship and be romantic and affectionate.
Do you mean Aromantic??
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Asexual is a possibility, but you can still have a romantic relationship and be romantic and affectionate.
Do you mean Aromantic??
No idea. Some people don't like having sex and just wanna be close and cuddle and ****. Each their own.
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No idea. Some people don't like having sex and just wanna be close and cuddle and ****. Each their own.
No romantic attraction = Aromantic
No sexual attraction = Asexual
You can have romantic attraction and touch and stuff, but you have no sexual desires towards anyone.
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No romantic attraction = Aromantic
No sexual attraction = Asexual
You can have romantic attraction and touch and stuff, but you have no sexual desires towards anyone.
Yeah, some people are more romantic and/or sexual than others, some not so. Each have their own individual preferences and criteria.
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So I recently got into a relationship but I don't want to show affection. When my bf shows affection I cringe and move away is that bad? I should be affectionate like my bf but I'm not I just want to talk with him instead of doing those mushy things like hugging.
Well, this is weird... But usually, when you get in a relationship, you wouldn't cringe about it, unless it's a friend relationship. I cannot decide things for you, but I think its better to tell him how you really feel about showing affection, and try to solve things out...?
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