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    Hey, please keep anon or delete.

    Not sure if this is the right place but it's the only place I can be anon.

    I've been at uni for two weeks now and am in my first week of lectures.

    I haven't made any friends, one or two on my course and that's it. They're both living at home though and commute to uni every day so they don't tend to go out here a lot at night or anything. I had a boring freshers week - went out twice and it wasn't great.

    I hate my flat. One of my flatmates just sits in the lounge smoking weed so the whole place stinks. My toaster, kettle and two glasses have both been missing all day, my plates and knives and forks have all been used and not washed or put away. I keep all my things seperately in a cupboard as I like to use them, wash them and put them away. I don't use anybody elses things and I've told them, politely, not to use mine.

    The flats an absolute dump and the two lads expect me to clean it 'because I'm a girl'. I refuse to clean somebody elses mess, especially when they tell me to do so!

    I miss home so much and want to quit uni altogether I'm really not enjoying it and haven't been able to stop crying tonight.

    I want to quit but I'm worried I won't be accepted somewhere else next year (I'd reapply to a uni closer to home and commute each day). Do you think there's any chance I could transfer unis so early on into the course?

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    Give it a chance. I know I might sound harsh but two weeks is nothing. Try to talk to more people on your course; they'll probably have similar interests to you. Also, tell them boys to stick it. Don't clean up anyone elses mess.
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    Try changing accom? To be honest I don't think that's fair - how they're treating you.
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    maybe talk to someone about moving flats? you can even request an all female flat, not that that was the main problem but i know some people who have done it. DO NOT QUIT, every day of freshers week, and every day really, has the opportunity of being amazing and you meeting your new best friend!
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    Do give it a proper shot - it's what I made myself do when I wanted to drop out of university. I did drop out in the end, after about two months, but I'm glad that I took the time to make sure it was the right decision. However, if you still feel sure that you want to leave after you've given it some time, then don't be afraid to do just that: it won't harm your chances, as universities know that people often make mistakes the first time around. As I've just pointed out in a different thread - I dropped out of Newport Uni, and am just about to start a different degree at Oxford. I know it's only an anecdote, but dropping out has proved to be one of the best things I ever did.

    In the meantime - don't clean up anyone else's mess, and try to socialise with people outside of your flat (or even move flats, if you can). It's never too late to join societies, for example - or just be brave and start talking to the person sitting next to you in one of your classes/lectures. It doesn't have to be anything profound - but if it breaks the ice, then you know you have a friendly face to sit with next time.

    Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

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    Christ, that's horrible :eek: :hugs:

    Don't you have a Hall Warden/Steward? Complain to them about it, and see if you can be moved into some other halls.

    Join some societies, trust me, you meet loads of people that way
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    Definitely try and get relocated into a single sex flat. That'll give you another chance to make friends. Try and see someone from welfare - they should provide support.
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    Seriously don't stand for it, move acommodation, or just go to a different uni. if your gunna live in hell for a year, uni's never gunna make it up to you.

    sorry if this impedes on your anon, but what uni are you at?

    don't wanna apply there if you get those kindsa people...
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    (Original post by yoshifumu)
    don't wanna apply there if you get those kindsa people...
    All unis have *********.
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    I'm sorry to hear you've been put with such ass holes.... but the whole moving to uni thing is a huuge change and many people are very homesick the first part but once they have made friends and have settled into a routine they're fine. I agree with what other people have said - try to get different accommodation and try joining clubs etc.

    I hope you feel better soon
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    agree, you shouldn't have to put up with that! don't really know what to say ...other than

    good luck.
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    Sounds kinda like my first two weeks, I didnt really make any freinds untill around two months into my course and I dislike clubbing (due to adverse musical taste) so that ruled out 98% of all freshers activitities and "meeting people". I know it sounds harsh but if your flatmates mess you about give em the finger and suggest a place to stick it. That may sound like a trite thing to say but it does work. Im not saying you start off with that kinda response you need to be initially more diplomatic but dont let them walk all over you. If you dont want this dude to smoke weed in your flat then go rat on him to the landlord theres no reason why you should put up with that.
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    what uni is this?? ... and you can always ask for a change of rooms
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    i think you should try ang change accomodation. if not, then tell your flat mates nhow you feel, and be blunt about it
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    Yes, give it a few more weeks, but make sure you're certain it's the right decision, I hate halls too but Im not leaving just yet.
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    ahhh babe, please dont quit. there will always be people like that so i wouldnt worry too much. but i guess if they are making life hard then you should report them or something!.

    As for transferring uni i think you CAN do it if they accept you. or you can re apply via ucas whilst at your current uni. if you quit now and re apply them you dont have to pay your fees. hope it helps babe,
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    I'm going home this weekend - thank God - and will give next week a try and see how it goes. I can't handle being here much longer, I'm going insane! I actually feel like talking to myself at times as it seems I'm the only person I can have a conversation with. My kettle has been put back but the toaster and the glasses are still missing

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    Yes, give it a few more weeks, but make sure you're certain it's the right decision, I hate halls too but Im not leaving just yet.
    Which halls? I'm in Liverpool too.
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    get some support, speak to a welfare officer / rep / whoever is meant to be looking after you settling in (i assume there must be someone) this isn;t how your first week at uni should go down and it sounds like your flatmates have completely failed to consider you whatsoever, someone needs to kick their arses into gera, be it you or someone else
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    I feel it for you OP, the only advice i can give is that you should join in with the herb toking.. hell you could even hotbox the whole flat!
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    Smile. Try this.

    Go find someone in your course and talk to them, ask if you mind you tagging along with them the next time they go out because your having a rough time... You have to remember that you wont find the people you like for a week or two more yet... ATM everyone will be lumped with people theyve found and spoken to.

    Second of all, Change your accomodation, it sounds like a mismatch of people which isnt going to be easy to fix, but in the mean time; talk to them...

    Good luck...
 
 
 
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