The Student Room Group

My Boyfriend

I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has done so many things so far that has truly broken me, I just heal from the one thing and start trusting him again then he just does something all over again. We have been together for 1y7months now. Everything he has done:
1. (within 2 months of dating) - Went to a party with his dad at their family friends place - he left me all alone for long and I could not find him , finally I found him behind a closed door with their family friends daughter, long story short, he explained what happened and they did not do anything - I do believe him but the trust has been torn away a little after that, plus, I will never truly know the real truth even though I do believe him.
2. We were at this very same girls birthday party, I HAD to sleep by my house and he HAD to sleep by his own house as he was asked by his mother to, we took an uber home (first me then him) , next day I find out he lied and actually went all the way back to that house where the party was and slept over there 9he used the excuse that his dad wanted him to come back and party further with him) - at he end of the ay the truth came out and his dad did not ask him to - it was all his own decision.
3. I saw on his Facebook search bar that he had been searching "prostitutes and free sex in his area" while he was house sitting someone's house.
4. Found that he had tried to search PORN of his EX.
5. He always gives girls the attention they are looking for - whether I am infront of them seeing it with my own eyes or not.
6. (happened yesterday) - He went onto my laptop while I was in the shower, and deliberately went to look for the NAKED pics of MY OWN FRIEND (I am a photographer and did a boudoir photoshoot for her) and still actually took pics of it. He deleted it straight after saying he realized how wrong and ****ed up it is.

I feel so stuck. I know I should not be dealing with this **** and not be with him anymore, but then I start thinking is it really that bad? He is being a typical man that just wanted to see someone naked, because as soon as men here "naked women" they don't think any further than their noses, whether it's their girlfriend or not. I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I truly don't know.

he IS a really goof person, truly! it's almost just like he doesn't have a damn brain, he doesn't think AT ALL when it comes to these kind of things, the consequences do not go through his head. Is it worth seeing the good in him and trying to fix all of this or am I being stupid? :frown:
From what you have described, I don't think there is any good in this guy. You deserve much better than him.
Original post by macme
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has done so many things so far that has truly broken me, I just heal from the one thing and start trusting him again then he just does something all over again. We have been together for 1y7months now. Everything he has done:
1. (within 2 months of dating) - Went to a party with his dad at their family friends place - he left me all alone for long and I could not find him , finally I found him behind a closed door with their family friends daughter, long story short, he explained what happened and they did not do anything - I do believe him but the trust has been torn away a little after that, plus, I will never truly know the real truth even though I do believe him.
2. We were at this very same girls birthday party, I HAD to sleep by my house and he HAD to sleep by his own house as he was asked by his mother to, we took an uber home (first me then him) , next day I find out he lied and actually went all the way back to that house where the party was and slept over there 9he used the excuse that his dad wanted him to come back and party further with him) - at he end of the ay the truth came out and his dad did not ask him to - it was all his own decision.
3. I saw on his Facebook search bar that he had been searching "prostitutes and free sex in his area" while he was house sitting someone's house.
4. Found that he had tried to search PORN of his EX.
5. He always gives girls the attention they are looking for - whether I am infront of them seeing it with my own eyes or not.
6. (happened yesterday) - He went onto my laptop while I was in the shower, and deliberately went to look for the NAKED pics of MY OWN FRIEND (I am a photographer and did a boudoir photoshoot for her) and still actually took pics of it. He deleted it straight after saying he realized how wrong and ****ed up it is.

I feel so stuck. I know I should not be dealing with this **** and not be with him anymore, but then I start thinking is it really that bad? He is being a typical man that just wanted to see someone naked, because as soon as men here "naked women" they don't think any further than their noses, whether it's their girlfriend or not. I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I truly don't know.

he IS a really goof person, truly! it's almost just like he doesn't have a damn brain, he doesn't think AT ALL when it comes to these kind of things, the consequences do not go through his head. Is it worth seeing the good in him and trying to fix all of this or am I being stupid? :frown:

Oh honey, this is awful. Don't kid urself, he's ****ed up and u deserve better. It seems he's not loyal, get out of this relationship, it's not good for u, it'll cause u stress and upset u, not to mention he outright lied to u.
He does not deserve u , I hope things work out for u :redface:
Bloody get rid of him rn. You don’t deserve this. Also that’s really ****ed up, the whole thing
Reply 4
run
Reply 5
That is not a typical man or a good person. Get rid.
Girl, it's so much more than just wanting to look at naked women. Number 2 was already the red flag you needed to end it with him, a good boyfriend will never lie to you and will be honest.
Original post by macme
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has done so many things so far that has truly broken me, I just heal from the one thing and start trusting him again then he just does something all over again. We have been together for 1y7months now. Everything he has done:
1. (within 2 months of dating) - Went to a party with his dad at their family friends place - he left me all alone for long and I could not find him , finally I found him behind a closed door with their family friends daughter, long story short, he explained what happened and they did not do anything - I do believe him but the trust has been torn away a little after that, plus, I will never truly know the real truth even though I do believe him.
2. We were at this very same girls birthday party, I HAD to sleep by my house and he HAD to sleep by his own house as he was asked by his mother to, we took an uber home (first me then him) , next day I find out he lied and actually went all the way back to that house where the party was and slept over there 9he used the excuse that his dad wanted him to come back and party further with him) - at he end of the ay the truth came out and his dad did not ask him to - it was all his own decision.
3. I saw on his Facebook search bar that he had been searching "prostitutes and free sex in his area" while he was house sitting someone's house.
4. Found that he had tried to search PORN of his EX.
5. He always gives girls the attention they are looking for - whether I am infront of them seeing it with my own eyes or not.
6. (happened yesterday) - He went onto my laptop while I was in the shower, and deliberately went to look for the NAKED pics of MY OWN FRIEND (I am a photographer and did a boudoir photoshoot for her) and still actually took pics of it. He deleted it straight after saying he realized how wrong and ****ed up it is.

I feel so stuck. I know I should not be dealing with this **** and not be with him anymore, but then I start thinking is it really that bad? He is being a typical man that just wanted to see someone naked, because as soon as men here "naked women" they don't think any further than their noses, whether it's their girlfriend or not. I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I truly don't know.

he IS a really goof person, truly! it's almost just like he doesn't have a damn brain, he doesn't think AT ALL when it comes to these kind of things, the consequences do not go through his head. Is it worth seeing the good in him and trying to fix all of this or am I being stupid? :frown:

What good in him? End it now.
Original post by macme
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has done so many things so far that has truly broken me, I just heal from the one thing and start trusting him again then he just does something all over again. We have been together for 1y7months now. Everything he has done:
1. (within 2 months of dating) - Went to a party with his dad at their family friends place - he left me all alone for long and I could not find him , finally I found him behind a closed door with their family friends daughter, long story short, he explained what happened and they did not do anything - I do believe him but the trust has been torn away a little after that, plus, I will never truly know the real truth even though I do believe him.
2. We were at this very same girls birthday party, I HAD to sleep by my house and he HAD to sleep by his own house as he was asked by his mother to, we took an uber home (first me then him) , next day I find out he lied and actually went all the way back to that house where the party was and slept over there 9he used the excuse that his dad wanted him to come back and party further with him) - at he end of the ay the truth came out and his dad did not ask him to - it was all his own decision.
3. I saw on his Facebook search bar that he had been searching "prostitutes and free sex in his area" while he was house sitting someone's house.
4. Found that he had tried to search PORN of his EX.
5. He always gives girls the attention they are looking for - whether I am infront of them seeing it with my own eyes or not.
6. (happened yesterday) - He went onto my laptop while I was in the shower, and deliberately went to look for the NAKED pics of MY OWN FRIEND (I am a photographer and did a boudoir photoshoot for her) and still actually took pics of it. He deleted it straight after saying he realized how wrong and ****ed up it is.

I feel so stuck. I know I should not be dealing with this **** and not be with him anymore, but then I start thinking is it really that bad? He is being a typical man that just wanted to see someone naked, because as soon as men here "naked women" they don't think any further than their noses, whether it's their girlfriend or not. I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I truly don't know.

he IS a really goof person, truly! it's almost just like he doesn't have a damn brain, he doesn't think AT ALL when it comes to these kind of things, the consequences do not go through his head. Is it worth seeing the good in him and trying to fix all of this or am I being stupid? :frown:

ditch him babes
Eject! Eject! Eject!

Quick Reply

Latest

Trending

Trending