He's sending me mixed signals!

I'd really like a guy's perspective on this one, it's so confusing! I have a guy friend who for months has been really flirty in a jokey way and recently the playfights have escalated to the point where he's using any excuse to touch me. He's a very confident person and messes about with everyone but he's particularly bad with me!

He doesn't mind getting really close - in a way I definitely would feel uncomfortable getting with any other friends, but at the same time I feel scared of getting touchy-feely with him, because I bet he'd yell gross and push me away lol. He's so moody as well - he's usually very dismissive if I suggest doing something, or if I turn up unexpectedly, but will be really keen again if it's planned by him.

I don't know where to go with this one. It's like he finds it great fun to push the boundaries but I'm not allowed to do the same to him! Normally with a guy I'd just go for it when we're cuddled up like that but I guess I'm not getting all the right signals this time so it's scary. And it's weird too because I'm so much more experienced than he is (another thing he loves taking the **** out of...) and I don't want to ruin the fun banter we have going on by doing something he'd be uncomfortable with...

So should I just let him lead this one? I wish I could talk to him about it but we've been joking about it for so long that it's a bit impossible :o:

would any guy be comfortable flirting so much with a girl they didn't like? Or is this his perverted way of getting to know me better do you reckon? Haha I need help pleasee :biggrin:

Reply 1

quintsy

17

It sounds like it could be him gradually trying to build up to getting closer to you, but as you've said that you're considerably more experienced, he might be worried that if you're in charge things might go a little too quickly for him. Give him some time and see what happens; I'm sure there is something there though :biggrin:

Reply 2

sparkyworton

suuuuuuseh

It sounds like it could be him gradually trying to build up to getting closer to you, but as you've said that you're considerably more experienced, he might be worried that if you're in charge things might go a little too quickly for him. Give him some time and see what happens; I'm sure there is something there though :biggrin:

this is either true or maybe he is trying to mess with you in a very "Tony Stonem" kinda way. I'm guessing this because you say he is very confident and messes about with everyone that if he truly liked you he would have made a move by now. either that or he is just nervous its hard to say

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

sparkyworton

this is either true or maybe he is trying to mess with you in a very "Tony Stonem" kinda way. I'm guessing this because you say he is very confident and messes about with everyone that if he truly liked you he would have made a move by now. either that or he is just nervous its hard to say

Maybe if we were 17 you'd have a point, but we're both adults :p:

I don't think he's ever been as close to a girl before...there still are rumours that he might be gay! This doesn't help the confusion lol.

Reply 4

sparkyworton

Anonymous

Maybe if we were 17 you'd have a point, but we're both adults :p:

I don't think he's ever been as close to a girl before...there still are rumours that he might be gay! This doesn't help the confusion lol.

either that was a very good guess or you looked at my profile :p:

so you can blame me for my point of view.

on topic EEEEK this seems to be getting more confusing every second. i can see why you are confused and sorry I have no help since I don't know how adults think I can only guess :p:

Reply 5

shizzam125

1

he will like u .............its a story iv been through ....i was the man !

He's sending me mixed signals!

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