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(Original post by londonmyst)
Here are my top 25 dating deal-breakers:

13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
21) Strictly no scorpios.
I can get most of those.

Why wouldn't you date someone from the STEM fields? I'd have thought those fairly intelligent sorts of guys with a lot of earning potential and career prospects would be attractive.

Do you mean someone with a PhD or currently studying for one? Again I thought that would be pretty desirable.

So you wouldn't date someone if they were born between October 22nd and November 23rd (or whatever the dates are)?
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Why wouldn't you date someone from the STEM fields? I'd have thought those fairly intelligent sorts of guys with a lot of earning potential and career prospects would be attractive.

Do you mean someone with a PhD or currently studying for one? Again I thought that would be pretty desirable.

So you wouldn't date someone if they were born between October 22nd and November 23rd (or whatever the dates are)?
The more physical distance I can put between myself and the stem lot (grads, students & those type of academics) the happier I am.
Its always been that way since I was a young toddler.
Similar thing with PhDs, both the students and those who have successfully completed their studies.
My parents enjoy collecting doctorates, along with lots of vicious pals whose super inflated egos are much larger than all the letters & qualifications after their names. I do everything I can to avoid them all.

No, no dates with any guys whose birthdays are between Oct 23- Nov 21.
I'm also cautious of those with birthdates that fall within the 'Cusp of Revolution'.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
No, no dates with any guys whose birthdays are between Oct 23- Nov 21.
I'm also cautious of those with birthdates that fall within the 'Cusp of Revolution'.
And I thought my standards were unreasonable....
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(Original post by Anonymous)
And I thought my standards were unreasonable....
they are very reasonable and very rational!
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I've been single for 2 years now. I would like to be in a relationship again. I've had a few interactions with girls within the last year and a half or so, those I've met through friends and at concerts, but mostly through online dating. I do wonder if I'm expecting too much of women though, and maybe my standards are too high.

I guess these are my standards/values:

Communication
Ambitious
Wants children eventually
Similar interests to me
Physically - 'little extra meat" (not too skinny, not too fat), and shorter than me

Communication:
I want someone who can hold a conversation. It's really attractive to me to have deep and meaningful conversations. Not everybodys glued to their phones but I don't want to be waiting over 2 days for a reply to texts either. I used to get really frustrated with people (girls and friends) taking ages to reply but I'm getting better with that.

Ambitious: I'm really ambitious and I want to see that in someone. That can manifest in many ways. They may want to get an education, succeed in their career, charity work, etc. I just can't be with someone with no long term goals.

Wants children eventually:
Perhaps a big one. I do want children one day. That being said, I certainly don't want to rush it. I wouldn't want to bring children into the world if I wasn't mentally, emotionally or financially able to.

Similar interests to me:
I love music (metal) and going to live gigs (pandemic permitting), playing in my band, pro wrestling, retro gaming, exercise/fitness (powerlifting), cooking (I'm vegetarian), philosophy and psychology.. It'd be nice to find someone with at least some similar interests. I think it's important for someone to have their own interests too.

Physically:
I guess I find the 'bottom heavy' girls the most attractive (thighs, bum, hips). I don't really have a preference for eye or hair colour/style, or anything like that. It's hard to quantify, but there has to be some physical attraction. I'm about 5'9-10 so average height I guess. I'm no bodybuilder but no overweight couch potato.. Just somewhere in the middle, with a bit of a belly. I have glasses, long hair and a beard. Which is like marmite I'll admit.

What are your thoughts?
In recent weeks there have been a few females looking for that type of person, especially for a partner who was ambitious. Cant say about the physical side but they gave the impression they were major catches. In some ways I like the llist and not unreasonable but in other ways and for someone who isnt having them fall over him, then maybe you should just do less list and more dating. Once you get experience and have managed a degree of competence then you may refine your list into ones that really meet your criteria. GL.
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Just like what the other people have said, I don’t think they’re unreasonable and what a lot of people are also looking for.
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In recent weeks there have been a few females looking for that type of person, especially for a partner who was ambitious. Cant say about the physical side but they gave the impression they were major catches. In some ways I like the llist and not unreasonable but in other ways and for someone who isnt having them fall over him, then maybe you should just do less list and more dating. Once you get experience and have managed a degree of competence then you may refine your list into ones that really meet your criteria. GL.
I guess. The question is how to meet them! It's almost impossible to get out there and meet people in real life now, what with the pandemic. I work with pretty much only men and I work from home, so that's out. I've asked a few of my friends to try and set me up, but thats not working. Ideally I'd meet someone at a gig but I guess I've just got to wait
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(Original post by londonmyst)
My father is noisy militant atheist and my mother a very conservative catholic, she was disinherited & almost got beaten to death by her ultra-traditionalist family.
Some female friends will only date guys with postgrads or doctorates.

Here are my top 25 dating deal-breakers:

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots or theonomy supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family value is everything types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) No guys that require daily medication.
19) No pacifists or anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups.
20) No immigration lawyers, aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants.
21) Strictly no scorpios.
22) No guys that want multiple children.
23) No fans of: David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
24) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media.
25) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
This list is either a troll or .....

Please say you're kidding?

I mean what's wrong with being a mummas boi?
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This list is either a troll or .....

Please say you're kidding?

I mean what's wrong with being a mummas boi?
No, not trolling or joking.
I am not attracted by guys who are 'family is everything' types, that have enthusiasm for extended families or are in the habit of bringing their mummy on dates.

Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:
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No, not trolling or joking.
I am not attracted by guys who are 'family is everything' types, that have enthusiasm for extended families or are in the habit of bringing their mummy on dates.

Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:
Being a mummas boi xD
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I mean what's wrong with being a mummas boi?
I guess it's at the extreme end when it becomes an issue. Like a 30 year old guy who still lives with his mum, she does all his laundry, cooking etc. A bit like Principal Skinner from The Simpsons.

But yeah I don't see what's wrong with generally having a close and loving relationship with your mother, like I do
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Just is
what in that list don't you have?
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I've been single for 2 years now. I would like to be in a relationship again. I've had a few interactions with girls within the last year and a half or so, those I've met through friends and at concerts, but mostly through online dating. I do wonder if I'm expecting too much of women though, and maybe my standards are too high.

I guess these are my standards/values:

Communication
Ambitious
Wants children eventually
Similar interests to me
Physically - 'little extra meat" (not too skinny, not too fat), and shorter than me

Communication:
I want someone who can hold a conversation. It's really attractive to me to have deep and meaningful conversations. Not everybodys glued to their phones but I don't want to be waiting over 2 days for a reply to texts either. I used to get really frustrated with people (girls and friends) taking ages to reply but I'm getting better with that.

Ambitious: I'm really ambitious and I want to see that in someone. That can manifest in many ways. They may want to get an education, succeed in their career, charity work, etc. I just can't be with someone with no long term goals.

Wants children eventually:
Perhaps a big one. I do want children one day. That being said, I certainly don't want to rush it. I wouldn't want to bring children into the world if I wasn't mentally, emotionally or financially able to.

Similar interests to me:
I love music (metal) and going to live gigs (pandemic permitting), playing in my band, pro wrestling, retro gaming, exercise/fitness (powerlifting), cooking (I'm vegetarian), philosophy and psychology.. It'd be nice to find someone with at least some similar interests. I think it's important for someone to have their own interests too.

Physically:
I guess I find the 'bottom heavy' girls the most attractive (thighs, bum, hips). I don't really have a preference for eye or hair colour/style, or anything like that. It's hard to quantify, but there has to be some physical attraction. I'm about 5'9-10 so average height I guess. I'm no bodybuilder but no overweight couch potato.. Just somewhere in the middle, with a bit of a belly. I have glasses, long hair and a beard. Which is like marmite I'll admit.

What are your thoughts?
How old are you 🤣
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How old are you 🤣
Why is that a question tho? he didnt really ask for anything outlandish...
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My father is noisy militant atheist and my mother a very conservative catholic, she was disinherited & almost got beaten to death by her ultra-traditionalist family.
Some female friends will only date guys with postgrads or doctorates.

Here are my top 25 dating deal-breakers:

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots or theonomy supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family value is everything types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) No guys that require daily medication.
19) No pacifists or anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups.
20) No immigration lawyers, aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants.
21) Strictly no scorpios.
22) No guys that want multiple children.
23) No fans of: David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
24) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media.
25) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
XD Good luck, you've narrowed it down to like 4 people in the British Isles and maybe a dozen on the mainland. Or would that dozen qualify as immigrants?
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XD Good luck
Thanks.
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I've been single for 2 years now. I would like to be in a relationship again. I've had a few interactions with girls within the last year and a half or so, those I've met through friends and at concerts, but mostly through online dating. I do wonder if I'm expecting too much of women though, and maybe my standards are too high.

I guess these are my standards/values:

Communication
Ambitious
Wants children eventually
Similar interests to me
Physically - 'little extra meat" (not too skinny, not too fat), and shorter than me

Communication:
I want someone who can hold a conversation. It's really attractive to me to have deep and meaningful conversations. Not everybodys glued to their phones but I don't want to be waiting over 2 days for a reply to texts either. I used to get really frustrated with people (girls and friends) taking ages to reply but I'm getting better with that.

Ambitious: I'm really ambitious and I want to see that in someone. That can manifest in many ways. They may want to get an education, succeed in their career, charity work, etc. I just can't be with someone with no long term goals.

Wants children eventually:
Perhaps a big one. I do want children one day. That being said, I certainly don't want to rush it. I wouldn't want to bring children into the world if I wasn't mentally, emotionally or financially able to.

Similar interests to me:
I love music (metal) and going to live gigs (pandemic permitting), playing in my band, pro wrestling, retro gaming, exercise/fitness (powerlifting), cooking (I'm vegetarian), philosophy and psychology.. It'd be nice to find someone with at least some similar interests. I think it's important for someone to have their own interests too.

Physically:
I guess I find the 'bottom heavy' girls the most attractive (thighs, bum, hips). I don't really have a preference for eye or hair colour/style, or anything like that. It's hard to quantify, but there has to be some physical attraction. I'm about 5'9-10 so average height I guess. I'm no bodybuilder but no overweight couch potato.. Just somewhere in the middle, with a bit of a belly. I have glasses, long hair and a beard. Which is like marmite I'll admit.

What are your thoughts?
Personally, I don't think those goals are a stretch. To be honest many of the goals you stated are what I would want too. However, it will be incredibly hard to find those types in modern society.
Just a question- what is your current career and where did you get your degree from?
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All of these seem like basic expectations for a relationship. None are unreasonable.
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what in that list don't you have?
Can’t have kids 🤙🏼
Other than that not much

I’m a powerlifter, try to eat vegy when I can, rock and metal music is top tier
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However, it will be incredibly hard to find those types in modern society.
Nonsense!
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