I attract girls but dont do anything/know how to do anything in clubs!!!

rather delete than de anon...anon for obvious reasons

went clubbing last night

lots and lots of girls staring at me...a few gave faint smiles....
i dont do anything..
i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

one girl came over and started dancing with me on the dance floor and i danced with her in a very slightly raunchy way..but then after a few songs her friend just took her to another part of the club....music was too loud to talk and i never know how to talk/flirt with girls..

issue is also cos i always get told that im a good lookin guy and ppl comment bout how i get lots of girls.....

its seriously annoying me...to the point i wish that i was a (i know i sound shallow) ugly guy so that i didnt even get girls' initial interest so i wasnt wondering what i am now!!! :mad:

Reply 1

libertine861

2

just say hello, if they respond, great, if they don't, it's no big deal. It's not exactly a rejection, you can always say you thought they were someone else if they get assey about it. If their smiling at you in the first place though, it's unlikely that their not going to respond.

Reply 2

cadaeibfeceh

17

maybe if a girl comes over to you to dance, you dance a song or two, get her talking, buy her a drink and just talk to her...maybe get her number then ask her out?

so says the 16 year old who's never been clubbing or even to a teenage party :p:

Reply 3

libertine861

2

Anonymous

i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

would you consider it needy and desperate if they approached you? it's only needy and desperate if you use some cheesy chat up line or if you slobbering all over them. If somebody is indicating through their body language that their interested in you, then say hello. It's a simple way to break the ice. A safe way as well.

Reply 4

Inter-Company

vomit on them...........

Reply 5

sparkyworton

cadaeibfeceh

maybe if a girl comes over to you to dance, you dance a song or two, get her talking, buy her a drink and just talk to her...maybe get her number then ask her out?

so says the 16 year old who's never been clubbing or even to a teenage party :p:

this sounds like a flawless plan!

personally im jealous as I never seem to notice any girls looking at me at parties and the such :frown:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

libertine861

would you consider it needy and desperate if they approached you? it's only needy and desperate if you use some cheesy chat up line or if you slobbering all over them. If somebody is indicating through their body language that their interested in you, then say hello. It's a simple way to break the ice. A safe way as well.

i just dont know what to say to these girls and stuff..im ultra confident on the outside but not very on the inside..thankfully for myself...i disguise it well tho

i also find it a tad weird...i turned 18 2 weeks ago...and been clubbin a fair bit...i find it weird how u everyone just speaks to people in clubs..when in any other environment u would never speak to strangers

Reply 7

libertine861

2

Anonymous

i just dont know what to say to these girls and stuff..im ultra confident on the outside but not very on the inside..thankfully for myself...i disguise it well tho

i also find it a tad weird...i turned 18 2 weeks ago...and been clubbin a fair bit...i find it weird how u everyone just speaks to people in clubs..when in any other environment u would never speak to strangers

I've told you what to say, say hello. Chances are they will say hello back and then a conversation can begin. Just play it by ear. You don't spend all night worrying about what you are going to talk to your mates about do you? so why should it be any different with a girl?

well most people in clubs are drunk so they loose their inhibitions about talking to strangers and alot of people go to clubs to pull. You're never going to pull if you don't interact with anyone.

Reply 8

tazarooni89

20

What the hell man... at least you attract them :s-smilie:

"My wallet's too small for my fifties, and my diamond shoes are too tight!"

Reply 9

Inter-Company

loafer

Drogue let you out of IB&C then.. :p:

sshhhhh he doesn't know yet :ninja:

Reply 10

Erik.

14

meet people in easier/ more suitable places than clubs?

Reply 11

Death

Just get a little tipsy before going to the club. It makes approaching girls sooo much easier. But be VERY careful you don't over do it with the booze. Otherwise you'll just do and say things that, albeit seem cool and attractive to you at that moment, will not have the same effect on a girl you like. After you've done that a few times it might help you diminish your approach anxiety (which everyone has to some extent).

Reply 12

onthejubileeline

If a girl is smiling at you, and looks like she'd like it if you approached her (and you find her attractive)...

APPROACH HER!

Seriously, there's nothing needy about mutual attraction. If there was, where would babies come from??

Reply 13

SmilerNuts

15

If you wanna get the girls, you have to be prepared to put your ego on the line.

Reply 14

Cj-Tj

15

GRIND GRIND GRIND!!

They come over, smile whatever, you SMILE BACK. Simple. They dance close to you, you get closer to them, they've shown interest in you, if you dont show any interest back then of course they will bugger off, the same ego thing about not wanting to be rejected is how they feel, if not more so. Guys are supposed to take it and laugh it off, girls tend to take it more personally. Once you've got their interest and have either pulled them or now that things are going well, ask if they want a drink and go to a bar or area where you can chat. Personally I dont do much talking at all on the dance floor, nobody can hear you and you end up shouting at them. Not good. Chat with them, flirt, have fun, then get them back on the dance floor or back to your place for a good evening. If you have confidence issues, drink a bit. Not too much, maybe a couple of pints, you dont want to make a cock of yourself on first impressions.

Reply 15

anix

Dance but don't be overly sleezy - let her lead the way with the dancing style as you don't want to be the "creepy drunk guy from the club"!
Buying a girl a drink is always a winner - believe me! Chat to her, make her laugh, have fun and take it from there!

Reply 16

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

rather delete than de anon...anon for obvious reasons

went clubbing last night

lots and lots of girls staring at me...a few gave faint smiles....
i dont do anything..
i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

one girl came over and started dancing with me on the dance floor and i danced with her in a very slightly raunchy way..but then after a few songs her friend just took her to another part of the club....music was too loud to talk and i never know how to talk/flirt with girls..

issue is also cos i always get told that im a good lookin guy and ppl comment bout how i get lots of girls.....

its seriously annoying me...to the point i wish that i was a (i know i sound shallow) ugly guy so that i didnt even get girls' initial interest so i wasnt wondering what i am now!!! :mad:

If you were an ugly guy you'd be even more miserable and find it harder to approach girls you dumb cuck, lol. Just be grateful you are good looking so at least you have some hopes of getting a girl. I mean who in their right mind would prefer to be ugly ? It's always better to be good looking.
Eg, it's like a Slim girl saying she wishes she was Fat or girls with small bums wasting thousands of pounds or risking having serious medical problems to make their bottoms look enormous, Their stupid people. They should be grateful for what God gave them

Reply 17

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

rather delete than de anon...anon for obvious reasons

went clubbing last night

lots and lots of girls staring at me...a few gave faint smiles....
i dont do anything..
i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

one girl came over and started dancing with me on the dance floor and i danced with her in a very slightly raunchy way..but then after a few songs her friend just took her to another part of the club....music was too loud to talk and i never know how to talk/flirt with girls..

issue is also cos i always get told that im a good lookin guy and ppl comment bout how i get lots of girls.....

its seriously annoying me...to the point i wish that i was a (i know i sound shallow) ugly guy so that i didnt even get girls' initial interest so i wasnt wondering what i am now!!! :mad:

This is a much better idea, your the man so you must get some balls and approach the girl as it's easier to do that in a club or a bar rather than any where else like on the street or at work. If your good looking it's easy to approach girls on the street but being good looking doesn't guarantee the girl will want to give her number so ask for both the number or her facebook name but I'm sure every woman would prefer to be approached on the street or anywhere else by a good looking man instead of an ugly or unattractive man.
Don't wait around expecting women to come to you. Lazy, stupid men do that and even when women do approach them first their still too dumb to ask for the girls number which is why they end up staying single.
Most men are jerks especially when their surrounded by their mates so most girls don't want to be humiliated by approaching men first and even if the man is on his own it's not easy for girls to do this. Of course girls should try it if they want a boyfriend but they don't have to. It is the man's job to approach and another man on tsr who regularly boasts they have more success when they wait for girls to approach them first is a lie because it never resulted in a second date let alone a girlfriend and there still single many years later

Reply 18

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

rather delete than de anon...anon for obvious reasons

went clubbing last night

lots and lots of girls staring at me...a few gave faint smiles....
i dont do anything..
i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

one girl came over and started dancing with me on the dance floor and i danced with her in a very slightly raunchy way..but then after a few songs her friend just took her to another part of the club....music was too loud to talk and i never know how to talk/flirt with girls..

issue is also cos i always get told that im a good lookin guy and ppl comment bout how i get lots of girls.....

its seriously annoying me...to the point i wish that i was a (i know i sound shallow) ugly guy so that i didnt even get girls' initial interest so i wasnt wondering what i am now!!! :mad:

Just approach the girl, be direct and straight to the point asking for the number straight away by saying
what's your number, Don't ask can I have your number ?
If you struggle with what to talk about Then you can say I'll see you later or call you tomorrow then you can walk away to hang out with your friends and she can spend more time with hers. So at least you got something and didn't leave empty handed. Ring her phone in front of her so you know it's the right number and so she will instantly receive yours. And you won't have the situation of the friend dragging her away without getting a contact number first. Don't you just hate the friends who drag them away from you ? But men do that too. So always best to ask for the number straight away or facebook details. You don't need to dance with her or have a long conversation the first time you meet someone, you can do all that the next time you meet on a date depending on where you take her

Reply 19

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

rather delete than de anon...anon for obvious reasons

went clubbing last night

lots and lots of girls staring at me...a few gave faint smiles....
i dont do anything..
i consider approaching them needy and desperate....and dont want to be turned down cos its a huge ego thing....

one girl came over and started dancing with me on the dance floor and i danced with her in a very slightly raunchy way..but then after a few songs her friend just took her to another part of the club....music was too loud to talk and i never know how to talk/flirt with girls..

issue is also cos i always get told that im a good lookin guy and ppl comment bout how i get lots of girls.....

its seriously annoying me...to the point i wish that i was a (i know i sound shallow) ugly guy so that i didnt even get girls' initial interest so i wasnt wondering what i am now!!! :mad:

Here's another thing I discovered 2 months ago now which I tell everyone only because they're always complaining they can't get a girlfriend / boyfriend or need to make extra money and these apps can get people both of these things.
It's called Bigo Live
You download it on your phone and register. It only takes 3 minutes. It's so easy and you can record from your phone or laptop, computer
You can become a broadcaster or just watch other broadcasters on it. It's not a dating site but so many people have met their partners on it or break up on it because the men not the girls are asking out other people on it. Or when one couple break up the next day their asking out someone else on it.

There's so much drama or arguments on it but that's what makes it interesting but the best thing is you get 1,000 coins a day just for watching other people which you can only use to send gifts to other people but if your a broadcaster you can use those coins for yourself. I'm not a broadcaster but I might consider being one one day. I just watch people but men still send messages and their phone number to my private inbox to ask me out because I put my real picture up but i never expexted to get asked out so much just from having a real pic up and not a fake pic but also I have earned 38,000 coins so far and 7 diamonds.
You have to click on a yellow button then click all the claim buttons after watching for one hour. Then you click on daily check in button to get free diamonds.

It's a great app and you can make thousands if your a broadcaster if people send you gifts.
If anybody wants a partner this can be an easy way to find one. I saw a fat ugly older woman who's 45 on it just recording herself on her phone shopping in supermarket and a few men were texting her to hurry up and finish and to come back home. She asked why and they text so you can take your jacket off. It was so funny. But these men were asking for her number or snapchat number or sending her their number and texting call me back.

But its mainly younger people who use it and only a few old people. But it's best to only send or give your number in yours or their private in box on the app. You can ask out girls privately on there too but ill give you a few warnings, a lot of those girls are crazy, and you get banned for small things like smoking on screen, nudity which means showing your bare feet, a man showing his bare chest ( as a man I became friends with on it called Dan has been banned twice now but he just makes another account using different email address ) and you get banned for twerking. You can dance in a normal way but not do that. Some people hide their face or wear half mouth mask but it's best to put your real picture on screen or show your face whether your ugly or good looking so people can ask you out or you ask them.

This is also also great way to show girls in the club or anywhere you meet them as it's also good talking point and they might want to do it too then it's easier to ask them out on that. You can only show them if you download it first. You can watch people together, have also good laugh at the different broadcasters then you will never run out of interesting things to talk about. If you can't hear in a club or bar bring headphones so you can share it with the girl then you can bond over talking about that.

Bigo Live is good for drama, arguments, meeting new friends, etc but another app called Live.Me is good for making more money by people sending you gifts if your a broadcaster.
Another nice person I talk to on Live.Me is called Mark.S.V he draws and does art on it so anyone who wants to try that app too just type his name in the search section and click follow to get notifications when he's broadcasting live.

Or if anyone wants to see what Bigo Live is about first just type Rockel French on You Tube because he is on Bigo too but uploads his video's to You Tube aswell. He was the most hated man on Bigo for a while because people didn't understand his videos but now most people like him.

You can still use tsr and those other apps at the same time as they provide for completely different needs and tsr is good for getting advice, advice, etc, etc

I attract girls but dont do anything/know how to do anything in clubs!!!

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