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Am i shallow?
Ok basically i met someone online and i'm meeting them tomorrow. Now before you all go off on one about meeting people online i have done this before and my last boyfriend of a year i met online so i know what i'm doing.
I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks, we get on so so well and are into the same things as each other, it's really rare for me to find someone i click with so well. The thing is though, he's nice looking but fairly 'lean', and i don't really go for men on the skinny side, or maybe it's because i'm not used to it. He's good looking, but i guess not 'gorgeous' on the looks front and for some reason that puts me off a little - i don't feel physically attracted to him by his pictures. Everything else is great, but i feel awful because of these and feel like such a shallow cow for feeling put off by what he looks like, because in reality i can only go by pictures and he's certainly not ugly.
Obviously as i met him online i may be suprised etc and physical attraction probably won't show until meeting but do you think it's really something that should matter at this stage? Looks are important to me i guess but the reason why my last relationship fell apart was because we had nothing in common, not because he wasn't 'good looking enough' and in reality what i am looking for is someone i can relate to, and i can certainly relate to this guy.
Just advice really
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I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks, we get on so so well and are into the same things as each other, it's really rare for me to find someone i click with so well. The thing is though, he's nice looking but fairly 'lean', and i don't really go for men on the skinny side, or maybe it's because i'm not used to it. He's good looking, but i guess not 'gorgeous' on the looks front and for some reason that puts me off a little - i don't feel physically attracted to him by his pictures. Everything else is great, but i feel awful because of these and feel like such a shallow cow for feeling put off by what he looks like, because in reality i can only go by pictures and he's certainly not ugly.
Obviously as i met him online i may be suprised etc and physical attraction probably won't show until meeting but do you think it's really something that should matter at this stage? Looks are important to me i guess but the reason why my last relationship fell apart was because we had nothing in common, not because he wasn't 'good looking enough' and in reality what i am looking for is someone i can relate to, and i can certainly relate to this guy.
Just advice really
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well ... looks are important to a certain degree, but as long as you've not pretty much written off this guy for his looks, then its not shallow!!
This guy could be the most amazing person ever, give him a chance!
You never know, the physical attraction could grow from mental attraction!!!
This guy could be the most amazing person ever, give him a chance!
You never know, the physical attraction could grow from mental attraction!!!
I don't think it's "shallow" to expect to be physically attracted to someone you're planning on dating/having a relationship with/whatever. If you don't, what makes it more than a general friendship?
Anyways, my advice would be to go meet up with him anyways. You might find that in the flesh, you think he's insanely hot, or you might find that you're still not attracted to him but you end up with a new friend anyways
Either way, can't be too bad!
Anyways, my advice would be to go meet up with him anyways. You might find that in the flesh, you think he's insanely hot, or you might find that you're still not attracted to him but you end up with a new friend anyways
Either way, can't be too bad!
Jamezzy
Yes you are shallow, you havent even met him in real life yet and your giving him a hard time already.
I think that I have to agree with that.
Not everything is about appearances. You say that you like him and have things in common and get on well together, on line anyway.
Maybe you are expecting too much. Why does this have to be a serious relationship, why not just friends? I would just view this as a new friendship and if it blossoms into something deeper then that is a bonus. Whether it does deepen or not at least you have a new friend.
And you should also bear in mind that you may not be his physical type either!
I went out with a guy online who i found physically repulsive. It didn't work out...
meet and friends and see how it goes?
I think looks definately matter, after all its what we are first attracted to in many instances, but I wouldn't write him off just yet, give it a go and see what happens. You might find his personality really attractive and then you will find him more attractive.
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