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Boyfriend goes soft🤢

When I’m riding my bf he goes soft so many times it puts me off him and having sex! Is this normal?

I’ve found that doggy he doesn’t go soft so I enjoy that. But he gets me to ride when he’s tired but it puts me of him and having sex ugh.

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Original post by Anonymous
When I’m riding my bf he goes soft so many times it puts me off him and having sex! Is this normal?

I’ve found that doggy he doesn’t go soft so I enjoy that. But he gets me to ride when he’s tired but it puts me of him and having sex ugh.


relationships aren't all about sex you know, but if it puts you off that much maybe you should break up with him and find a fwb or something
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There's probably a reason that he goes soft sometimes it's a control or confidence thing just talk to him and figure it out together he obviously things your hot so...
Original post by Anonymous
When I’m riding my bf he goes soft so many times it puts me off him and having sex! Is this normal?

I’ve found that doggy he doesn’t go soft so I enjoy that. But he gets me to ride when he’s tired but it puts me of him and having sex ugh.

Tell him to stop masturbating. Sounds like he’s watching to much porn and so real life experience isn’t able to keep him aroused / satisfy him because of all the fake and unrealistic stuff you see in porn.
He probably watches too much porn.
I'd speak to him about it, figure out what's causing it. He might need to see a GP.
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Original post by Anonymous
when he’s tired

:sleep: That may be the explanation :wink:
The best thing is to talk to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel. If he's mature enough, he's reaction will be very understanding.
I also agree with anon above that sex is not what relationships are about, and if such thing makes you very angry, you would definitely be much better of with fwb.
Concentrate on building emotional bound with your bf, it'll make your life better, and sex experience much more pleasant.
If he stays hard during doggie then maybe you look better from the back.


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Original post by Anonymous
When I’m riding my bf he goes soft so many times it puts me off him and having sex! Is this normal?

I’ve found that doggy he doesn’t go soft so I enjoy that. But he gets me to ride when he’s tired but it puts me of him and having sex ugh.

Maybe it's just you lmao. I'm not being rude but maybe your just not doing it for him?
Expecting guys to just be able to preform without issues is unacceptable. If it was the other way around It'd be 'You can't expect a woman blah blah blah' 'it's her body blah blah' ****ing talk to him.
Original post by Bang Outta Order
If he stays hard during doggie then maybe you look better from the back.


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Thing is his favourite position is me on top!!! He try says he makes himself go soft so he doesn’t *** quick and that I’m able to *** first
Original post by Anonymous
Thing is his favourite position is me on top!!! He try says he makes himself go soft so he doesn’t *** quick and that I’m able to *** first

Well then communicate with him and tell him that isn’t your preference.

Honestly it’s pretty terrible of you to expect so much of him though. What’s the “🤢” emoji in the title all about?
why does it put you off him do you think he is not man enough?
Original post by shivsaransh1
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Maybe it's just you lmao. I'm not being rude but maybe your just not doing it for him?


He did say I’ve gained weight
Original post by ashtolga23
Well then communicate with him and tell him that isn’t your preference.

Honestly it’s pretty terrible of you to expect so much of him though. What’s the “🤢” emoji in the title all about?


Because he said I’ve gained weight so it’s put me off affection and being intimate with him
Original post by Anonymous
Because he said I’ve gained weight so it’s put me off affection and being intimate with him

why would that put you off him? you havent told us how though, whether it was a snide comment or he was pointing it out to you. that would be handy lol
Original post by Anonymous
Because he said I’ve gained weight so it’s put me off affection and being intimate with him

I’m calling troll with this kind of inconsistency.
Original post by ashtolga23
I’m calling troll with this kind of inconsistency.

yh it doesnt make sense. that shouldnt put you off someone
Original post by BluMoon06
why would that put you off him? you havent told us how though, whether it was a snide comment or he was pointing it out to you. that would be handy lol


Pointing it out to me I’ve put in weight. To me it makes sense why he always goes soft and asks to watch porn (he’s asked twice within 7months) because he isn’t attracted to me. So him giving me affection puts me off because I know he isn’t really attracted to me. Ugh I’m staying at his house right now and I just want to leave.

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