people in uni: have you stayed friends with your sixth form/college friends?

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I'm going to uni this year, and I'm really scared I'm going to lose touch with my best friends I have in sixth form; especially if I move away from London
Can anyone tell me their experience with this sort of thing?
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I had four best friends in sixth form. At the beginning of university, I moved two hours away to Northampton - we went through a short period of texting every other day or so (max was a week) but soon after settling in we texted more frequently and are all still friends. That said, one of the group rarely texts and answers very irregularly but this is just because she is a workaholic (but she was in sixth form too) so that became our new normal since we didn't see each other daily. I don't talk to one member of the group because I didn't get her number but I hear about her still from one of my other BFFs that I am still in contact with. I talk daily with one member of the sixth form group and I would say we are closer now than we were then (I didn't think it possible at the time).

I think you have to accept that university will change things but it might not mean you lose contact - it will just be more remote. And you will all have different timetables and priorities might shift.
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We stayed in touch during first year and then lost touch. I wasn't particularly close to my 6th form friends though so that may be the reason.
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not all mainly bc i decided to delete my social media. but i do have some well 2 lol, we talk a lot i mean we went secondary as well soooo we're good friends. Other friends i stay in contact with didn't stay at our school sixth form (but went to my secondary) and I still speak to them, we have group facetimes, or just send each other posts.
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Yes. We've stayed great friends, even if some had to move very far South lol. If you both make the effort and are genuinely willing to be in a friendship, you'll find a way.
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(Original post by starrystudy)
I'm going to uni this year, and I'm really scared I'm going to lose touch with my best friends I have in sixth form; especially if I move away from London
Can anyone tell me their experience with this sort of thing?
Hiya starrystudy!

Every student experience will differ and be individual to you. However, what I found really important whilst at university was to stay in contact with your friends from home. Facetime them, text them, call them when you can and check in on each other. Or make sure to make an effort when you are home from uni during holidays to meet up.

I've stayed in contact with friends from sixth form throughout my three years at uni but as you progress at uni you do realise who your 'real' friends are, and those who stay by your side

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(Original post by starrystudy)
I'm going to uni this year, and I'm really scared I'm going to lose touch with my best friends I have in sixth form; especially if I move away from London
Can anyone tell me their experience with this sort of thing?
Hey starrystudy

I've been at university for a while now, having finished an undergrad and postgrad degree. I moved away for my undergrad but still made time to see my school friends when I was back home for the weekend. We got to see each other during the holidays too and when I had to work in my uni city over the summer, they came up to visit me. It was great showing them around my uni city for the weekend and hanging out with them in all of my favourite places. I then moved back home to do a postgrad and although my course was really intense, I still made time to see them when I wasn't studying or working. We're still good friends now and regularly check in on each other even if we don't see each other that often.

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I'm going to uni this year, and I'm really scared I'm going to lose touch with my best friends I have in sixth form; especially if I move away from London
Can anyone tell me their experience with this sort of thing?
It's entirely up to you, when I went to university for undergraduate I kind of lost touch with friends from high-school and sixth form.

Fast forward 5 years from sixth form and I'm now doing a masters and LIVING with my friends from high school that I've had since year 7 lol, because we got back in touch.

If you are as close to your friends as you think you are then it won't matter if you don't see them for a while, because when you do meet back up with them it will just feel normal and not awkward or with any resentment for not staying in touch.
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I left sixth form in 2009, and tbh, I really only stayed friends with those who happen to live in the same area as me (i.e. still live in or around our hometown). Once we all moved to separate cities for our undergraduate degrees, we spent more time making friends where we were, and gradually stopped communicating. Sometimes it's a natural thing where you both have less time to dedicate to a distant friendship, whilst other times a particular individual can decide to put in less effort. Friends come and go throughout periods of our lives, so I think it's pretty natural.
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Yeah, I'm still friends with people from school.
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We message on Snapchat, but rarely see each other. Two of my friends are in steady relationships and another just likes to brag how many guys she has shagged. Covid hasn't helped.
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No because I deleted social media like instagram and snapchat
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I have 2 best friends from sixth form, we were quite awol first month of uni, but then we talked more and more over text. then second yr came and some of us were in unfavourable living arrangements which meant we hang out more and visit each other more in each others cities, now lockdown and we're closer again. I think uni is sometimes short depending on your situation to form a deep friendship, but if you live with them and get on then you'll spend more time with them ig.
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