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I’ve grown up a Christian my whole life but I never understood the whole “waiting for marriage concept” I have a bf and I’ve done sexual things with him. Obviously I felt some regret due to my belief but I just want to know how many Christians didn’t wait? I don’t think I will wait but I just feel I need to have this permission or that it’s fine not to from another Christian haha. Thank you!
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i'm technically a roman catholic (though i don't go to church or follow the bible - i just believe in god and was raised that way) and tbh i think it's all about personal preference. if you want to wait until marriage because of your religion or because you just want to then there's nothing wrong with that, if you don't want to then it's still fine. you shouldn't feel pressured by the church into anything & live how you want to. there's nothing shameful about having sex before marriage and don't let people tell you otherwise.
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I also am a Christian who doesn't follow the Bible but believes in God. I also think it's about personal preference - the concept of 'virginity' is honestly a social construct. not being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a person and it doesn't take anything away from your relationship with God in my eyes. 
Why don't you pray and ask for His advice? Us tsr-ians are only equals to you and human too!
Why don't you pray and ask for His advice? Us tsr-ians are only equals to you and human too!
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As a Christian, I think it really depends what denomination you are under. Some like Roman Catholics are much stricter than others like the Church of England for example. It is your choice when you choose to do it but because society has changed, so have the expectations for Christians. Many denominations understand the changes in society and will allow sex before marriage. Just do what you think is right. A good idea may be to do it if you want but use a condom or some form of contraception whilst you fo it before marriage; this concept is known as being a condom virgin. I hope this helps.
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In times like this you just gotta ask yourself "what would Jesus do?". And if you think about it, our man Jesus was a pretty chill guy tbh and he'd be all like yeah no worries mate that's fine you do you. So you should be okay I reckon. I mean the dude did turn water into wine and he befriended a prostitute, so I doubt he cares much about sex before marriage as long it's a committed relationship between two consenting adults. 
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(Original post by Anonymous)
i'm technically a roman catholic (though i don't go to church or follow the bible - i just believe in god and was raised that way) and tbh i think it's all about personal preference. if you want to wait until marriage because of your religion or because you just want to then there's nothing wrong with that, if you don't want to then it's still fine. you shouldn't feel pressured by the church into anything & live how you want to. there's nothing shameful about having sex before marriage and don't let people tell you otherwise.
i'm technically a roman catholic (though i don't go to church or follow the bible - i just believe in god and was raised that way) and tbh i think it's all about personal preference. if you want to wait until marriage because of your religion or because you just want to then there's nothing wrong with that, if you don't want to then it's still fine. you shouldn't feel pressured by the church into anything & live how you want to. there's nothing shameful about having sex before marriage and don't let people tell you otherwise.
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(Original post by parmezanne)
I also am a Christian who doesn't follow the Bible but believes in God. I also think it's about personal preference - the concept of 'virginity' is honestly a social construct. not being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a person and it doesn't take anything away from your relationship with God in my eyes.
Why don't you pray and ask for His advice? Us tsr-ians are only equals to you and human too!
I also am a Christian who doesn't follow the Bible but believes in God. I also think it's about personal preference - the concept of 'virginity' is honestly a social construct. not being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a person and it doesn't take anything away from your relationship with God in my eyes.
Why don't you pray and ask for His advice? Us tsr-ians are only equals to you and human too!
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(Original post by Medcalf)
As a Christian, I think it really depends what denomination you are under. Some like Roman Catholics are much stricter than others like the Church of England for example. It is your choice when you choose to do it but because society has changed, so have the expectations for Christians. Many denominations understand the changes in society and will allow sex before marriage. Just do what you think is right. A good idea may be to do it if you want but use a condom or some form of contraception whilst you fo it before marriage; this concept is known as being a condom virgin. I hope this helps.
As a Christian, I think it really depends what denomination you are under. Some like Roman Catholics are much stricter than others like the Church of England for example. It is your choice when you choose to do it but because society has changed, so have the expectations for Christians. Many denominations understand the changes in society and will allow sex before marriage. Just do what you think is right. A good idea may be to do it if you want but use a condom or some form of contraception whilst you fo it before marriage; this concept is known as being a condom virgin. I hope this helps.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’ve grown up a Christian my whole life but I never understood the whole “waiting for marriage concept” I have a bf and I’ve done sexual things with him. Obviously I felt some regret due to my belief but I just want to know how many Christians didn’t wait? I don’t think I will wait but I just feel I need to have this permission or that it’s fine not to from another Christian haha. Thank you!
I’ve grown up a Christian my whole life but I never understood the whole “waiting for marriage concept” I have a bf and I’ve done sexual things with him. Obviously I felt some regret due to my belief but I just want to know how many Christians didn’t wait? I don’t think I will wait but I just feel I need to have this permission or that it’s fine not to from another Christian haha. Thank you!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Literally same, I feel more like I have the faith but not follow the religion? If that makes sense
Literally same, I feel more like I have the faith but not follow the religion? If that makes sense
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From this thread it is readily apparent why Christianity is dying, not even those who profess to be Christian follow the doctrines and openly admit not doing so.
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(Original post by ROTL94)
From this thread it is readily apparent why Christianity is dying, not even those who profess to be Christian follow the doctrines and openly admit not doing so.
From this thread it is readily apparent why Christianity is dying, not even those who profess to be Christian follow the doctrines and openly admit not doing so.
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It depends on which denomination of Christianity you follow. Episcopal Protestants for example have much different views on the mater than Orthodox Catholics.
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(Original post by LovelyMrFox)
It depends on which denomination of Christianity you follow. Episcopal Protestants for example have much different views on the mater than Orthodox Catholics.
It depends on which denomination of Christianity you follow. Episcopal Protestants for example have much different views on the mater than Orthodox Catholics.
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Hi
I would suggest that instead of asking from approval on the internet, seek approval from God. Talk to God openly and pour out your worries, and talk to him about it. Remember, that you have a personal relationship with God through Jesus. But you also should remember, that as Christians we should try to resist our sexual desires and acts.
Good Luck
I would suggest that instead of asking from approval on the internet, seek approval from God. Talk to God openly and pour out your worries, and talk to him about it. Remember, that you have a personal relationship with God through Jesus. But you also should remember, that as Christians we should try to resist our sexual desires and acts.
Good Luck
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’ve grown up a Christian my whole life but I never understood the whole “waiting for marriage concept” I have a bf and I’ve done sexual things with him. Obviously I felt some regret due to my belief but I just want to know how many Christians didn’t wait? I don’t think I will wait but I just feel I need to have this permission or that it’s fine not to from another Christian haha. Thank you!
I’ve grown up a Christian my whole life but I never understood the whole “waiting for marriage concept” I have a bf and I’ve done sexual things with him. Obviously I felt some regret due to my belief but I just want to know how many Christians didn’t wait? I don’t think I will wait but I just feel I need to have this permission or that it’s fine not to from another Christian haha. Thank you!
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(Original post by sonal7)
can someone ask her be safe and delay things as she seems unsure.
can someone ask her be safe and delay things as she seems unsure.
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I'm a lazy catholic and don't support sexual abstinence until marriage.
My mother came from an ultra-traditionalist catholic family that rejected the vatican ii reforms, she & maternal grandmother support the abstinence movement.
Along with a total ban on abortion and divorce under any & all circumstances.
Almost all my fundamentalist christian friends have virtually identical views, although their churches are mostly non-denominational they tend to be closely aligned with protestant theology.
My mother came from an ultra-traditionalist catholic family that rejected the vatican ii reforms, she & maternal grandmother support the abstinence movement.
Along with a total ban on abortion and divorce under any & all circumstances.
Almost all my fundamentalist christian friends have virtually identical views, although their churches are mostly non-denominational they tend to be closely aligned with protestant theology.
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