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Both a Girl and a Boy fancy me, - please help people
Dont come onto the H&R threads often but I dont know whether the following two people I talk about in this thread are on here and I do not want to cause upset to anybody.
I'm 18 and a bit and have just started Uni.
I'm in very good halls and to my general surprise I've attracted the attention of two friends. Who it seems both have an eye on me.
Now the first one is a kind girl who seems a little shy when we are alone. When the two of us were sat together on the way out one night in Freshers (not together or anything) a group of six, five girls and one boy started saying how good we looked. (We laughed it off, I'm not generally interested in the type of girl who I am on about here.) The boy incidentially as you may have guessed is gay.
Now the boy seems to strike that we have a good deal in common. The only things are that we are from the same county, and have birthdays in the same month. We're on the same course, as the girl isnt.
Last week he seemed to pick up that I wasn't interested in the girl and everytime the group of us met up he seemed eager to jump on my knee. - The other girls told me that he fancied me desperately. - Cannot think why. He seems a kind lad but he is camp and frilly pink in nature. He's been on about marrying me - though not when the other girl is around where he seems desperate to matchmake.
Last Wednesday he came to my room in complete drag. Hair, Earings full make up and extended nails painted red. Like from Mrs Doubtfire. And jumped on my knee again with his arms around me. I thought he was messing about but now he seemed to be getting really serious about me.
At the freshers ball he was dressed normally - i.e. in mens clothes and again he tried to matchmake me and the girl. He keeps putting a Cilla Black accent that he'd be matchmaking us before the night was out. But as the girl went on about our future he looked bored (like me since I didnt want me the talk 24/7).
Whenever I needed the toilet, he seemed to have this burst to go to the loo as well, he kept quiet until the time when it was me and him alone.
He told me about how much he fancied me and our destiny, so much so that he tried to kiss me and then proposed to me. I said no.
The next time we were alone in the loo, he said I've got something, when I looked it was a condom. - "Mum's expecting me to bring a boy home now I told her that I had someone"
Again I said I'm not interested in boys but like him as a friend. He's been good most of the week and we are friends. But its these moments that annoy me. At the end of the night the group of us hugged eachother and he kissed me on the cheek, attracting surprise from the other girl.
On the way home she asked me what I thought about it and just said it was his way of saying goodbye but I'd definitely not say bye that way. She said Good since she'd kill him and me if she found she had competition for me.
I like them both as good friends but when they get gooey and crushy over me it annoys me. I dont fancy either of them and want to tell them so, but I dont want to lose two of my best friends at Uni.
Can you guys and girls help please.
Thanks
OP
I'm 18 and a bit and have just started Uni.
I'm in very good halls and to my general surprise I've attracted the attention of two friends. Who it seems both have an eye on me.
Now the first one is a kind girl who seems a little shy when we are alone. When the two of us were sat together on the way out one night in Freshers (not together or anything) a group of six, five girls and one boy started saying how good we looked. (We laughed it off, I'm not generally interested in the type of girl who I am on about here.) The boy incidentially as you may have guessed is gay.
Now the boy seems to strike that we have a good deal in common. The only things are that we are from the same county, and have birthdays in the same month. We're on the same course, as the girl isnt.
Last week he seemed to pick up that I wasn't interested in the girl and everytime the group of us met up he seemed eager to jump on my knee. - The other girls told me that he fancied me desperately. - Cannot think why. He seems a kind lad but he is camp and frilly pink in nature. He's been on about marrying me - though not when the other girl is around where he seems desperate to matchmake.
Last Wednesday he came to my room in complete drag. Hair, Earings full make up and extended nails painted red. Like from Mrs Doubtfire. And jumped on my knee again with his arms around me. I thought he was messing about but now he seemed to be getting really serious about me.
At the freshers ball he was dressed normally - i.e. in mens clothes and again he tried to matchmake me and the girl. He keeps putting a Cilla Black accent that he'd be matchmaking us before the night was out. But as the girl went on about our future he looked bored (like me since I didnt want me the talk 24/7).
Whenever I needed the toilet, he seemed to have this burst to go to the loo as well, he kept quiet until the time when it was me and him alone.
He told me about how much he fancied me and our destiny, so much so that he tried to kiss me and then proposed to me. I said no.
The next time we were alone in the loo, he said I've got something, when I looked it was a condom. - "Mum's expecting me to bring a boy home now I told her that I had someone"
Again I said I'm not interested in boys but like him as a friend. He's been good most of the week and we are friends. But its these moments that annoy me. At the end of the night the group of us hugged eachother and he kissed me on the cheek, attracting surprise from the other girl.
On the way home she asked me what I thought about it and just said it was his way of saying goodbye but I'd definitely not say bye that way. She said Good since she'd kill him and me if she found she had competition for me.
I like them both as good friends but when they get gooey and crushy over me it annoys me. I dont fancy either of them and want to tell them so, but I dont want to lose two of my best friends at Uni.
Can you guys and girls help please.
Thanks
OP
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Yes, its best to be open and just tell them both the truth 
so OP, if he knows youre straight he will get bored eventually when you keep rejecting him..... but man that must be so annoying! 
they both sound horrific.
Talking about your married future after knowing you for a week?? I'd just make it very very clear sooner rather than later that you're not interested...
Talking about your married future after knowing you for a week?? I'd just make it very very clear sooner rather than later that you're not interested...
If only it were that easy I would have told them already
Anonymous
If only it were that easy I would have told them already
Why is it not that easy??
It's not that easy to tell two people who majorly like you and yet they are your best friends and don't want to lose them. I get annoyed when people say 'just tell them'. It's not easy as it looks.
Lampshade
Yes I am straight, not really into many girls but there are a couple from my hometown I have my eye on.
To the others
Yes, The boy is nuts but normally he's great fun to be around, the eight of us have all really gelled well this week and are really my uni family. A few of us, me, the boy and another girl who told me about him fancying me are all doing the same course.
A film eh?
Any of you want to be in it?
Yes I am straight, not really into many girls but there are a couple from my hometown I have my eye on.
To the others
Yes, The boy is nuts but normally he's great fun to be around, the eight of us have all really gelled well this week and are really my uni family. A few of us, me, the boy and another girl who told me about him fancying me are all doing the same course.
A film eh?
Any of you want to be in it?
ooooooooh ill be in the film!!! haha..... i could be the barman who gets everyone wasted, so that you blurt out your feelings and then have a laugh about the whole thing with them and they find others to obssess with whilst you all stay mates! I could play God!
scraceus999
ooooooooh ill be in the film!!! haha..... i could be the barman who gets everyone wasted, so that you blurt out your feelings and then have a laugh about the whole thing with them and they find others to obssess with whilst you all stay mates! I could play God!
Sure I can't tempt you to have your nails done
B4 u ask, its a joke
Wow, what an interesting situation to be in. Bless em, and bless you. Aww.
Well say to the guy I like you as a friend absolutely nothing more, go looking elsewhere" I know it sounds harsh but if you've told him and he wont listen he needs to hear it that way or it'll never stop.
And tell the girl the same really, you like her as a friend but that's all, she's not your type.
It is quite annoying when you tell someone you like them as a friend but it seems to go in one ear and out the other.
As for the guy saying "my mum expects me to bring someone home", that's just silly lol, he shouldn't lie and just say what happens as it is.
Well say to the guy I like you as a friend absolutely nothing more, go looking elsewhere" I know it sounds harsh but if you've told him and he wont listen he needs to hear it that way or it'll never stop.
And tell the girl the same really, you like her as a friend but that's all, she's not your type.
It is quite annoying when you tell someone you like them as a friend but it seems to go in one ear and out the other.
As for the guy saying "my mum expects me to bring someone home", that's just silly lol, he shouldn't lie and just say what happens as it is.
No u dont Gemma
Want to play the other girl after me?
Come to think of it, I am going to do a script for this, But under a pseudonym
Want to play the other girl after me?
Come to think of it, I am going to do a script for this, But under a pseudonym
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