why do people remarry/redate after their partner dies?

oh lol i thought you were with op for a sec lmao

what do you mean by that,

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they mean they would leave you even if you were alive. how can you not get that?

i don't get how i'm possessive for not wanting to be replaced,

Lol... Hell naw! I hope the OP is not for real but just wanted to start a hypothetical discussion for the sake of it

to echo basically everything else, if a widower decides to remarry they are not 'replacing' the first spouse as it's impossible to replace a person or a relationship, just like it would be impossible for a parent to replace a child; there's only one of them.

if there is a replacement it's simple the position of spouse, of companionship, someone to spend time and finances with and maybe raise children with, which is very fortunate for the widower because it isn't easy being young and lonely and/or forever grieving your lost spouse. and, who says they love the second spouse more than their first? assuming there is love there at all it's just a different type of love because it's an entirely different relationship. everyone who's ever had a first love knows it's uniquly different compared to all subsequent loves, so no need to feel insecure about that.

I don't think I would remarry if I had a partner who died. I would be like a swan mating for life. However, I think it's okay for the living one to remarry if they were young and weren't together for very long. They should have a period of grieving first of course...

i get it you'll be lonely after your partners death and love will be the thing that will make you happy, but is there any other ways of finding happiness, i just view it as replacing the late partner, like not replacement as in similar but as in the role of the partner replacement, i hear people ask their partner if they'll remarry or redate after they die and they just get blindsided, like their partner automatically thinks they're wrong without listening to their reasoning, i also have to ask a catch 22 question, if you love the late partner more than the new isn't that using the new partner or if you love the new partner more than the late isn't that replacement, i actually hear widows/widowers say they love the new partner as much as the late, isn't that messed, i also think it's still infidelity because you didn't choose to end the relationship, you let death do it, and yes i know i'll be dead so i won't feel jealousy, but that doesn't make it right would you go take a crap on a dead man's grave because he's dead and can't feel anything, i'm really scared of my partner getting remarried or redating after my death, i'll never give this opinion up,

no matter how unique and different you can still say which one you love more, i don't want to share my partner, and i don't want my role taken, i don't get how you don't find your partner being intimate or having sex with someone else scary,

moving on is disrespect, i think they're more ways of moving on, i wouldn't want them to wast their life but i also wouldn't want them to replace me, also i don't think you answered the question,

My sister-in-law died a few years ago now. She wasn't that old but she wasn't young. I guess my brother could've gone on living his life as a widowed single dad, but he was miserable. The kids were miserable. They were just completely not functioning as a family.
Then he met someone - another widowed single parent with two kids. They've been happily married for over 6 years and they have a daughter together. They have a huge collection of pictures on the wall of their late spouses. They made a little memorial garden in the corner of the main garden.
Sure, I guess it's an unusual situation to have two people in such similar situations meeting and eventually marrying, but just because people remarry, doesn't mean they're replacing their late partner.
In your opinion, OP, should my brother have remained single for the rest of his life? My brother is completely different now to the months after he lost his first wife, but he hasn't replaced or forgotten her. How would you have suggested to move on?

My sister-in-law died a few years ago now. She wasn't that old but she wasn't young. I guess my brother could've gone on living his life as a widowed single dad, but he was miserable. The kids were miserable. They were just completely not functioning as a family.
Then he met someone - another widowed single parent with two kids. They've been happily married for over 6 years and they have a daughter together. They have a huge collection of pictures on the wall of their late spouses. They made a little memorial garden in the corner of the main garden.
Sure, I guess it's an unusual situation to have two people in such similar situations meeting and eventually marrying, but just because people remarry, doesn't mean they're replacing their late partner.
In your opinion, OP, should my brother have remained single for the rest of his life? My brother is completely different now to the months after he lost his first wife, but he hasn't replaced or forgotten her. How would you have suggested to move on?

If I died tomorrow my partner would have 40+ years ahead I hope. I’d want him to be happy!

the kids stopped being miserable because their dad replaced their mum? Sounds far-fetched, their mum was still dead. I can see how the dad was happy to meet a new wife though.