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Jealousy in school!!

hi!,

People in my school are so gutted cos i got in and they didn't - they all used to call me thick, and they got rejected so shame on them:aetsch: What mad eit wrose is that teh teachers gave me hardly any help - not nearly as much as all the "top students" with 8-10A*'s. and when i got back to school on tuesday - they were shocked cos they thought i was too thick and would never get in. The same was true for this other girl in my school too.

Anyother people experienced same thing? like to here if this bias is true everywhere - post your messages!!! :idea:

cheers

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We had some who were going to tabland. Could see the jealousy in their eyes.
Reply 2
Yes, I am definitely experiencing something similar, although in my case my teachers had been very supportive of my application and I was considered by them (if not by me!) to have a very good chance. However, now the results are all in (7 people applied to Oxbridge from my school, only I got in as the first person for 7 years) I feel a bit like a traitor, as after 7 years of my school's failure to get anyone in, Oxbridge rejection has become almost a badge of honour.

It seems everything I say is construed by some to be "rubbing it in". If I try to sympathise (which I genuinely do, I was distraught and angry at seeing so many exceptional candidates getting rejected) people think it's just "crocodile tears". If, I try and convince people to re-apply than I am seen as being pushy. If I shut up altogether then I "don't care".

Although, having said this, this reaction is very understandable, if I had been in their shoes I can't imagine myself being much better. These people have invested so much time and effort into their application and I think that they must be allowed and indeed expected to be a bit bitter. Overall, I feel that we really do not have anything to complain about, as we are in a much better situation than those who have been rejected. I think at least we should be able to put up with a bit of bitterness from our classmates
Reply 3
tabland?
Reply 4
Phil23
hi!,

People in my school are so gutted cos i got in and they didn't - they all used to call me thick, and they got rejected so shame on them:aetsch: What mad eit wrose is that teh teachers gave me hardly any help - not nearly as much as all the "top students" with 8-10A*'s. and when i got back to school on tuesday - they were shocked cos they thought i was too thick and would never get in. The same was true for this other girl in my school too.

Anyother people experienced same thing? like to here if this bias is true everywhere - post your messages!!! :idea:

cheers


I haven't told many people, because there would be a lot of envy. I can empathise with you with regards to being perceived as "thick" - I think some of my friends think that about me. Luckily most of my friends in college applied, and got in, to Oxford as well. I haven't told one of my teachers, either, because I know he doesn't even think I'm capable of getting straight As (even though I did well at GCSE and AS!) so I'll just wait until results day to say, "Ohhh, did I ever tell you which uni I accepted as my conditional firm? Oxford. Ha ha! Didn't expect that, did you? Well, I'll be going now, nice being taught by you."
no one got into oxbridge this year from my school. ok one guy got pooled for cambridge but that's it. last year we had a nerd who had the extremly DIFFICULT choice to choose between cambridge and yale. -_-""
Reply 6
How about guilt? Is anyone feeling guilty for getting in when equally good (if not better!) candidates haven't got offers?
Last year I was the only one out of nine to get a Cambridge offer and tbh I did feel a bit bad about it. I tried not to mention it and I played it down when people asked me about it.
Reply 7
ahneta
I haven't told many people, because there would be a lot of envy. I can empathise with you with regards to being perceived as "thick" - I think some of my friends think that about me. Luckily most of my friends in college applied, and got in, to Oxford as well. I haven't told one of my teachers, either, because I know he doesn't even think I'm capable of getting straight As (even though I did well at GCSE and AS!) so I'll just wait until results day to say, "Ohhh, did I ever tell you which uni I accepted as my conditional firm? Oxford. Ha ha! Didn't expect that, did you? Well, I'll be going now, nice being taught by you."


oxbridge write to schools tho, so teachers find out surely
Reply 8
JaF
How about guilt? Is anyone feeling guilty for getting in when equally good (if not better!) candidates haven't got offers?


i remember my year, 3 out of 4 of my closest friends also applied to oxford.. & none of them got offers (well, for the subject they wanted, long story!), which put a slight dampner on things for me.. :frown:
Reply 9
Elles
i remember my year, 3 out of 4 of my closest friends also applied to oxford.. & none of them got offers (well, for the subject they wanted, long story!), which put a slight dampner on things for me.. :frown:

I know exactly what you mean. When I got my offer I was looking forward to going out and celebrating with my friends. However, all the ones that applied to Cambridge got rejected and you can't exactly celebrate by yourself.
Reply 10
i face the dilemma of having left school and tehrefore wanting to ask whether they got in, but as we are scattered over england its difficult to ring or text to ask without wanting to sound as though its just an excuse for telling them your good news. it was so much easier last year when i got rejected!!
Reply 11
JaF
I know exactly what you mean. When I got my offer I was looking forward to going out and celebrating with my friends. However, all the ones that applied to Cambridge got rejected and you can't exactly celebrate by yourself.


Yep, same here too. I even had planned it all out. I almost bought the champagne after my offer (I was sure that someone else would get in). Unfortunately, it was not to be and the mega piss-up never happened.
notyourpunk
tabland?

where your going. :smile:
Reply 13
phishfood
oxbridge write to schools tho, so teachers find out surely


I'm at a sixth-form college, with 1200 students and 100-odd staff, so no. :smile: The Oxbridgey teachers all know because they rang Oxford to ask who'd got in, and my Maths teacher asked me to text her over Christmas to tell her the outcome of my application. I chose to tell two other teachers, but because of the size of the college, there's little chance of staffroom conversation drifting in that direction. (The Oxbridge teachers are really discreet, too - they understand that if you don't get in, you may not want every member of staff and their families and pets to find out.)
Reply 14
notyourpunk
tabland?

fens poly :biggrin: :p:
Reply 15
I went back to school today. Overall there were 5 applicants for Oxford (including me). 4 science/maths and 1 english. The guy for english didn't get an interview. I was well chuffed to find out that all 4 of us got offers.

Teachers have been congratulating me all day. The teacher who was guiding us through the application process already knew that the others had offers as they'd texted him over Christmas and I was the last one he found out about. He was over the moon that 4 people (that's 100% of the people who got interviews) got offers. Even the headmaster (the same headmaster who wouldn't let me start A Level maths a year early) knew who I was and congratulated me.

Last year there were a few strong candidates and nobody got in. The year before only one lad, Chris Wilson, also at Worcester Oxford, got in. One got into Cambridge for english the year before. We're not a school who sends 15-20 applicants a year but this year we have done really well. :smile:
Reply 16
Well only one person from my school got in - my best friend - and she deserves it :smile: Would've been nice if all 4 of us did though. We all went for different colleges and different courses so nothing to be jealous about. I knew my friend would get in! :biggrin: And she really did deserve it and she suited Cambridge loads. :smile: At least there's something to be happy :redface:
Reply 17
ahneta
The Oxbridge teachers are really discreet, too - they understand that if you don't get in, you may not want every member of staff and their families and pets to find out.


lol - you really lucky; i like keeping a low profile in school - am very shy, but the oxbridge coorinator in my school, also happens to be my form tutor, and the weirdo went round blabbing that i got an offer, and what i atar i was etc :redface: , and practically everyone in my year now knows!!!!! So embarassing when some random person says congrats down the corridor :confused:
I didn't get in,and let me tell you there's a lot of gloating goin on!And yes it is by all the dumbasses going to our version of 'tabland.' The University of Glamorgan - aaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
Reply 19
*alicia*
I didn't get in,and let me tell you there's a lot of gloating goin on!And yes it is by all the dumbasses going to our version of 'tabland.' The University of Glamorgan - aaaaaaaaaaaaargh!


what? what is tabland, and what is the significance of the uni of glasmorgan?