Asexual or just scared for first kiss?Watch
I’m 16 and have only recently started getting male attention as I wasn’t popular in secondary school. The boys that like me now tho are more popular so they’re already experienced with relationships. Every talking stage I’ve had with a boy I end up going off them or getting the ‘ick’. It’s soo frustrating Cos I genuinely want to like them and I still have a desire to be in a relationship with someone. My friends say I have high standards and I put too much pressure on myself which is very true but I feel like I’m not normal? I worry that much about having my first kiss with a boy that when they lean in I reject them even though I thought I liked them. I’m actually terrified of kissing a boy it makes me feel so vulnerable. But then I hate the idea that I could be asexual?
There’s no reason to hate the idea of being asexual, in fact you might be into girls. Have you considered thinking about girls in a romantic light? But it’s best for you to consider if you might be scared of commitment if you’re scared of kissing a boy. There’s many options for you to consider but don’t panic too much about it. You are you at the end of the day and you can view yourself with whatever label makes you the most comfortable.
this was literally me. i got the 'ick' with every guy and i had many boyfriends in high school due to peer pressure and i felt like i had to. but when you actually like someone the 'ick' doesn't exist anymore. don't force yourself to do things with boys. also you can have fun with them without being in a relationship or liking them (fwb). finding someone you genuinely like and find attractive isnt easy and u cant force yourself, just wait for the right person and have fun!
True I’m just scared to be alone forever and never experience love. I kinda have but only like pretty girls on tik tok as stupid as that sounds haha I’ve never fancied a girl but I always think I fancy loads of boys. True though I think I am scared of commitment too. Thankyou that is good advice.