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I hate my boyfriend watching porn

I hate when my boyfriend watches porn. Near the beginning of our relationship I found out he was watching porn and I simply asked him to stop as it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. A while past and I found out again he was watching it. This time I got really upset as I had asked him to stop and he still continued. I then threatened to break up with him if he done it again behind my back which I probably shouldn’t have done. A few months passed and I found out again he was watching it. We had a massive argument and he then told me he had stopped watching it. A few months ago I was on his phone and found out he was watching girls live and ******* over them. Even worse, I found out he was paying them to do certain things like getting naked, grabbing there tits and twerking etc. The fact that I said I would break up with him if he watched it again and then to find out he was paying for it ! This all happened about 3 months ago yet I still keep bringing it up cause I was so upset over it. I keep asking y he couldn’t just ask me for pictures or videos. Or why I wasn’t good enough or why he did it. He just says that he wanted to **** over another girl rather than ******* over me. And every girl he has watched and paid, they all have big boobs whereas mine are small. I don’t no if I sound like a psycho or not. But it just hurts so much and I keep feeling like I was never good enough or never will be.

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Reply 1

You really should stay away from him, he's toxic

Reply 2

he sounds toxic
just stay away from him because it will you make even worse if you don't

Reply 3

Btw ur not a psycho, its okay to feel like this

Reply 4

Toxic boys never change, you should leave him.

Reply 5

He tells me he doesn’t watch it anymore but there has been so many lies in r relationship I don’t no if he’s telling the truth. He told me once before that he will but his phone on private mode so I can’t see what he’s looking at

Reply 6

You really expected a guy to stop watching porn just because you are a couple? Hilarious.

Reply 7

He's got no excuse. You made it clear how you feel and he could have said he wants to keep doing it and put everything out in the open. Instead, he has lied to you again and again. At this point, you have no reason to believe him when he says he has stopped.
You don't sound like a psycho at all. I would say stay clear. It sounds like he's just saying what you want to hear so that he can carry on doing what he wants.
But obviously it's your decision what you do. Good luck!

Reply 8

It’s the fact I asked him to stop many times as it made me feel insecure and he couldn’t. And the fact he as been paying girls for them to entertain him when he is with me nearly everyday.

Reply 9

Thanks

Reply 10

Original post by Anonymous
He's got no excuse. You made it clear how you feel and he could have said he wants to keep doing it and put everything out in the open. Instead, he has lied to you again and again. At this point, you have no reason to believe him when he says he has stopped.
You don't sound like a psycho at all. I would say stay clear. It sounds like he's just saying what you want to hear so that he can carry on doing what he wants.
But obviously it's your decision what you do. Good luck!

Thanks so much, made me feel a lot better

Reply 11

He’s toxic. U r good enough. He is not.

Reply 12

Original post by Evegalloway
I hate when my boyfriend watches porn. Near the beginning of our relationship I found out he was watching porn and I simply asked him to stop as it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. A while past and I found out again he was watching it. This time I got really upset as I had asked him to stop and he still continued. I then threatened to break up with him if he done it again behind my back which I probably shouldn’t have done. A few months passed and I found out again he was watching it. We had a massive argument and he then told me he had stopped watching it. A few months ago I was on his phone and found out he was watching girls live and ******* over them. Even worse, I found out he was paying them to do certain things like getting naked, grabbing there tits and twerking etc. The fact that I said I would break up with him if he watched it again and then to find out he was paying for it ! This all happened about 3 months ago yet I still keep bringing it up cause I was so upset over it. I keep asking y he couldn’t just ask me for pictures or videos. Or why I wasn’t good enough or why he did it. He just says that he wanted to **** over another girl rather than ******* over me. And every girl he has watched and paid, they all have big boobs whereas mine are small. I don’t no if I sound like a psycho or not. But it just hurts so much and I keep feeling like I was never good enough or never will be.

You've got it the wrong way round; he is a psycho and he isn't good enough for you. If he pays for that sort of stuff then he has serious issues.

Reply 13

Original post by Evegalloway
He tells me he doesn’t watch it anymore but there has been so many lies in r relationship I don’t no if he’s telling the truth. He told me once before that he will but his phone on private mode so I can’t see what he’s looking at

Jheeze, as a guy I would be ashamed to lie so much to my gf, especially about something that embarassing and continually getting caught. If it's as you say, that guy doesn't seem to have any guilt in doing it, and so to save your time and health, I suggest leaving him and hopefully find someone better out there.

Reply 14

Tell him he is going to get erectile dysfunction.

Reply 15

And this is why the porn industry should be run into the ground, amongst many other reasons

Reply 16

TSR.

First post.

Initimate details.

OP uses "real" full name.

Nothing to see here. Nothing at all.

Reply 17

Original post by Trinculo
TSR.

First post.

Initimate details.

OP uses "real" full name.

Nothing to see here. Nothing at all.

Yea I only made this account today and never even thought. I’ve been trying to change my user name but I don’t no how

Reply 18

The two of you are not compatible.
He's a porn guy in the habit of spending a lot of time & money on porn and lying about it.
His habits are unlikely to change for the better and your dislike of porn is not going to magically disappear.

Best thing to do is dump him and add a 'no porn fans' dating dealbreaker.
I've had this for the last six years after a sordid breakup from an ex with a secret enthusiasm for revolting harcore porn and reenactments with sex workers.
Good luck!

Reply 19

Original post by username5631900
He tells me he doesn’t watch it anymore but there has been so many lies in r relationship I don’t no if he’s telling the truth. He told me once before that he will but his phone on private mode so I can’t see what he’s looking at


Please leave him , I know how you feel ive been there , it will mess up your head