septate hymen / hymenectomy [Conversation continued]

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Hi, this thread is up and running again now so hopefully it should be working. I checked on the other thread a few days ago and saw that it was closed! I found the other thread really helpful and supportive, so I was surprised to see it closed. I asked the mods about it and thankfully they were able to reopen it somehow. Hopefully everyone is able to find this new thread okay!
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Hi, this thread is up and running again now so hopefully it should be working. I checked on the other thread a few days ago and saw that it was closed! I found the other thread really helpful and supportive, so I was surprised to see it closed. I asked the mods about it and thankfully they were able to reopen it somehow. Hopefully everyone is able to find this new thread okay!
Hi, omg me too! I was upset it was closed considering how supportive it was and asked the mods too to reopen it- apparently it was because they close medical related threads that started too long ago because the information might be outdated. I hope that everyone on the old chat finds this one
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I have a septate hymen, I finally went to my GP who referred me to the gynaecology department. After my gyno appointment I was told by the doctor everything is completely normal,I can see the septate hymen and have trouble even using tampons. The only advice I received from the doctor was to try dialators. Not sure what to do next... any advice?
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(Original post by Katie2341)
I have a septate hymen, I finally went to my GP who referred me to the gynaecology department. After my gyno appointment I was told by the doctor everything is completely normal,I can see the septate hymen and have trouble even using tampons. The only advice I received from the doctor was to try dialators. Not sure what to do next... any advice?
That's strange. Surely if you can't fit a tampon inside you won't be able to use a dilator? :confused: Did your GP say that you would need surgery when they referred you? I think you might have to contact your GP again and see what they say. You might have to go see another gynecologist as well. That one didn't seem particular knowledgeable.
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That's strange. Surely if you can't fit a tampon inside you won't be able to use a dilator? :confused: Did your GP say that you would need surgery when they referred you? I think you might have to contact your GP again and see what they say. You might have to go see another gynecologist as well. That one didn't seem particular knowledgeable.
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(Original post by Katie2341)
I have a septate hymen, I finally went to my GP who referred me to the gynaecology department. After my gyno appointment I was told by the doctor everything is completely normal,I can see the septate hymen and have trouble even using tampons. The only advice I received from the doctor was to try dialators. Not sure what to do next... any advice?
Oh no that doesn't sound right... unfortunately because septate hymens aren't that common (the word even comes up as an error when I type it 🙄) some doctors aren't very familiar with them. After my appointment was cancelled due to covid I went to see a different gynaecologist who didn't seem to know much about the operation required. If you're having trouble putting a tampon in, I would 100% suggest going to see someone else
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If anyone still hasn't heard back from the gynaecology department after being referred, I would suggest calling your GP and following it up. I called them after not hearing anything since October and then, after waiting another week like they told me to, I called them again and they gave me the number to the gynaecology department. I now have an appointment booked for the end of the month (fingers crossed it goes ahead).
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Anonymous #8
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Hi everyone, I'm due to have a hymenectomy/ examination under anaesthesia in a couple of weeks through the NHS (after having it cancelled several times!). I've found the info on this thread really useful, thank you so much! I was just wondering for anyone that's had the procedure, what follow up care you had? Did you have a catch up appointment a few weeks afterwards? The gynaecologist I saw (waaay back in October) suggested counselling afterwards. I'm wondering if I'm going to be able to talk to the gynaecologist afterwards about getting referred for this/anything other support I might need, as I feel like this surgery isn't going to resolve all of my problems...
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Just came back from seeing the gynaecologist and they said that I didn't need to have surgery despite being referred by my GP to have it. Apparently, there is a 'tiny' opening and I need to have PIV for it to break as I haven't had sex yet, even though it was painful for them to put anything through. They were so adamant that because I haven't had sex, that was the reason why I couldn't fit anything inside. I have just looked now and it looks like I have a microperforate hymen, but instead of putting me forward to have the surgery, they said that I have to do pelvic floor exercises(?) with them. I was too annoyed at this point, so I can't remember exactly what they said but I'm pretty sure that they're going to get me to try dilating like Katie2341 was told!

I'm so upset. I waited this long for them to basically tell me to find a guy to have sex with!
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Anonymous #7
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Just came back from seeing the gynaecologist and they said that I didn't need to have surgery despite being referred by my GP to have it. Apparently, there is a 'tiny' opening and I need to have PIV for it to break as I haven't had sex yet, even though it was painful for them to put anything through. They were so adamant that because I haven't had sex, that was the reason why I couldn't fit anything inside. I have just looked now and it looks like I have a microperforate hymen, but instead of putting me forward to have the surgery, they said that I have to do pelvic floor exercises(?) with them. I was too annoyed at this point, so I can't remember exactly what they said but I'm pretty sure that they're going to get me to try dilating like Katie2341 was told!

I'm so upset. I waited this long for them to basically tell me to find a guy to have sex with!
You'll be absolutely fine. I had the same issue and I literally had half a second of pain the first time I had sex and it was totally fine after that.
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Anonymous #9
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You'll be absolutely fine. I had the same issue and I literally had half a second of pain the first time I had sex and it was totally fine after that.
So like I haven’t had sex yet cuz am a p***y what is it like
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Anonymous #5
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You'll be absolutely fine. I had the same issue and I literally had half a second of pain the first time I had sex and it was totally fine after that.
I understand being able to break through the band with a septate hymen, but I don't know how I'm supposed to break through mine. It seems so painful. I'd rather have surgery, but they said that I didn't need it. 😭 I told them that I wanted to get it fixed before having sex, but they just said that it will break during PIV.
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Anonymous #7
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I understand being able to break through the band with a septate hymen, but I don't know how I'm supposed to break through mine. It seems so painful. I'd rather have surgery, but they said that I didn't need it. 😭 I told them that I wanted to get it fixed before having sex, but they just said that it will break during PIV.
It will break. You'll be fine.
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Just came back from seeing the gynaecologist and they said that I didn't need to have surgery despite being referred by my GP to have it. Apparently, there is a 'tiny' opening and I need to have PIV for it to break as I haven't had sex yet, even though it was painful for them to put anything through. They were so adamant that because I haven't had sex, that was the reason why I couldn't fit anything inside. I have just looked now and it looks like I have a microperforate hymen, but instead of putting me forward to have the surgery, they said that I have to do pelvic floor exercises(?) with them. I was too annoyed at this point, so I can't remember exactly what they said but I'm pretty sure that they're going to get me to try dilating like Katie2341 was told!

I'm so upset. I waited this long for them to basically tell me to find a guy to have sex with!
If you don't feel comfortable, you should definitely insist, talk to your GP and ask them to talk the gynaecologist. It really depends on you and how you feel about it, they shouldn't be making the decision for you. If you have a microperforate hymen I can imagine that being quite painful- I have a septate and it hurts just stretching it
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Anonymous #4
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It will break. You'll be fine.
That's not necessarily true, you don't know how thick her hymen is or how sensitive it is. My septate hymen is very thick and I feel pain whenever it is stretched. I definitely wouldn't be able to break it during sex
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That's not necessarily true, you don't know how thick her hymen is or how sensitive it is. My septate hymen is very thick and I feel pain whenever it is stretched. I definitely wouldn't be able to break it during sex
I could feel pain with mine when it was stretched, even with the smallest tampons. It still broke during sex.
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Anonymous #5
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I'm going to see if the pelvic floor exercises will make any difference, but I'm going to call my GP again if I haven't heard anything by Friday. I really don't want to break it during sex and I don't think it will even be possible without medical intervention. So frustrating that my GP said that I needed surgery and I waited all this time to be told that I don't need it. I haven't tried dilating before so I think they'll get me to try that.
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Anonymous #7
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I'm going to see if the pelvic floor exercises will make any difference, but I'm going to call my GP again if I haven't heard anything by Friday. I really don't want to break it during sex and I don't think it will even be possible without medical intervention. So frustrating that my GP said that I needed surgery and I waited all this time to be told that I don't need it. I haven't tried dilating before so I think they'll get me to try that.
Your GP isn't the specialist, unfortunately, so they shouldn't have told you that you needed surgery but that you were being referred for consideration of surgery. I hope the pelvic floor exercised and dilators work for you.
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Anonymous #10
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I could feel pain with mine when it was stretched, even with the smallest tampons. It still broke during sex.
Did it break on both ends?
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Anonymous #7
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Did it break on both ends?
I dunno. I just have one big hole now instead of 2 small ones.
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