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...harm myself but not die?

I don’t see how that makes sense.
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Does your friend try to (actively) discourage you from self-harming yourself or do you mean he/she does not "care" when you harm yourself?
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Does your friend try to (actively) discourage you from self-harming yourself or do you mean he/she does not "care" when you harm yourself?
she says “is that going to make it all better?” and I don’t feel like she cares but with death she threatens to tell someone.
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Maybe because to her someone who is not a professional psychiartist (presumably) dealing with self harm is easier than trying to talk someone out of suicide?
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ROTL94 has a point. Sometimes people do not really get the magnitude of what someone else is going through i.e. the pain that leads to self-harming. Not everyone is equipped to deal with such things – but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't care. At times it can be scary to some people as well when this happens and they just choose not to register it. Personally (and I am just basing this on your one example of what your friend said), it could be that she is concerned but just does not know how to help. With suicide/ death it is definitely more "severe" in a sense that she knows she will lose a friend forever. But of course, this is just my view on it.

On a side note, I hope that things will be okay for you. Hang in there...
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what happened ?
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In the grand scheme of things, your friend would rather you hurt yourself than killed yourself. Cuts or burns or bruises are temporary and suicide is very much permanent. I know ho you feel my friends did the same thing and it can come across as them not caring, when really they probably aren't sure what to do but it is the lesser of two evils they dont want to lose you and if you doing that keeps you here they would rather that. I have various friends who self harm and as much as I would rather they didn't do it I would much rather they did it than killing themselves.

You sh because you have no other option its the coping mechanism that works they understand that. if you take away your only coping mechanism you're going to want to off it more and they don't want that. They know that you can and will find another mechanism you just need time but there's no coming back from suicide.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
ROTL94 has a point. Sometimes people do not really get the magnitude of what someone else is going through i.e. the pain that leads to self-harming. Not everyone is equipped to deal with such things – but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't care. At times it can be scary to some people as well when this happens and they just choose not to register it. Personally (and I am just basing this on your one example of what your friend said), it could be that she is concerned but just does not know how to help. With suicide/ death it is definitely more "severe" in a sense that she knows she will lose a friend forever. But of course, this is just my view on it.

On a side note, I hope that things will be okay for you. Hang in there...
LMFAO why did I only just get the notification for this one minute ago?
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In the grand scheme of things, your friend would rather you hurt yourself than killed yourself. Cuts or burns or bruises are temporary and suicide is very much permanent. I know ho you feel my friends did the same thing and it can come across as them not caring, when really they probably aren't sure what to do but it is the lesser of two evils they dont want to lose you and if you doing that keeps you here they would rather that. I have various friends who self harm and as much as I would rather they didn't do it I would much rather they did it than killing themselves.

You sh because you have no other option its the coping mechanism that works they understand that. if you take away your only coping mechanism you're going to want to off it more and they don't want that. They know that you can and will find another mechanism you just need time but there's no coming back from suicide.
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