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do i have body dysmorphic disorder?

hey, basically i am convinced that i am pretty hideously ugly, and it's beginning to take over my life. i never thought i was pretty, but it's escalated now to the point that i can't stand having photos of me, i always untag photos of me on facebook...in fact, i have been known to cry when viewing photos that people have tagged of me, because everyone else looks normal and i just look horrible and so ugly. sounds pathetic, but that's how i feel. every day i compare myself to other people who actually look normal, and it takes me so long to get ready in the morning - i have to wear thick makeup and do my hair in a way i think suits me before even facing my housemates (i've just moved to university).

i spend ages looking in the mirror, not out of vanity but trying to look nice, but i just get disheartened by how ugly i am. i feel like people don't take to me because i'm too ugly for them to want to associate with me, and i find it impossible to understand how anyone could be attracted to me. i have a crush on a guy on my course but although we get on really well i despair as to how he could ever fancy me.

i also always want to lose weight, i am a pear-shape size 10/12 on the bottom and skinny everywhere else, but i look gross. nothing about me looks right, everything looks out of place. i spend lots of money on doing my hair, getting it highlighted really well, i buy expensive cosmetics to try and hide my hideous skin, i dress well...but sometimes i think there is no point as i am just coming across as an ugly girl trying to look good.

how can i stop this self-loathing?
Reply 1
Gol, thats awful feeling like that. You probably arent ugly as you feel. I think you may have poor self esteem,try and talk to your gp and they may give you a referal to a psychologist.

You could also try positive affirmations remind urself you're beautiful everytime u look in the mirror, write down 10 things you like about yourself. try and refocus your negative energy

Experiment with new clothes have a facial get your eyebrows shaped anything to make u feel good about yourself

Good luck hun, we're all beautiful in our own right.
I feel exactly the same as you, have done for 3 years. - it was like you were me for a second there writing this post.
went to my gp and he told me it was normal teen behaviour which I disagree with.
Hm. I'm like this in a way. I know deep down, I'm not ugly though.
I absolutely hate people taking pictures of me, infact yesterday I went out on a school trip and I felt really down because people kept taking pictures. I also feel like, how could anyone ever like or love me? Meh. I dunno what I hoped to achieve by posting this, I guess just to let you know you're alone even though your case sounds a lot worse.
*hugs* :smile:
geminilady
Gol, thats awful feeling like that. You probably arent ugly as you feel. I think you may have poor self esteem,try and talk to your gp and they may give you a referal to a psychologist.

You could also try positive affirmations remind urself you're beautiful everytime u look in the mirror, write down 10 things you like about yourself. try and refocus your negative energy

Experiment with new clothes have a facial get your eyebrows shaped anything to make u feel good about yourself

Good luck hun, we're all beautiful in our own right.


'Probably' not? Of course she's not! FFS...

OP: you know your thinking is absurd, by your own admission you're slim, wear nice clothes and make-up. You're saying these things which makes me think you're trying to explain how you're not actually ugly, you just think you are and you know yourself it's silly. I'm pretty certain you're not ugly, and you know that your thinking is irrational because you accept you may have BDD. This means you know that deep down this is all a mental thing; if you thought you genuinely were ugly you wouldn;t think you had a mental disorder, you'd just think you were genuinely hideous.

I think you have to see a psychiatrist if you can't get out of this cycle; you can pretty yourself up as such because I don't think that'll make any difference. You could be Sienna Miller and be feeling like this.

xoxoxoxoxo
Reply 5
Anonymous
I feel exactly the same as you, have done for 3 years. - it was like you were me for a second there writing this post.
went to my gp and he told me it was normal teen behaviour which I disagree with.

My dad told me this too. I have up and down days though. Sometimes I'm a right arrogant bitch who thinks I'm gods gift and other days I feel like an ugly bint. Haha
x
Anonymous
hey, basically i am convinced that i am pretty hideously ugly, and it's beginning to take over my life. i never thought i was pretty, but it's escalated now to the point that i can't stand having photos of me, i always untag photos of me on facebook...in fact, i have been known to cry when viewing photos that people have tagged of me, because everyone else looks normal and i just look horrible and so ugly. sounds pathetic, but that's how i feel. every day i compare myself to other people who actually look normal, and it takes me so long to get ready in the morning - i have to wear thick makeup and do my hair in a way i think suits me before even facing my housemates (i've just moved to university).

i spend ages looking in the mirror, not out of vanity but trying to look nice, but i just get disheartened by how ugly i am. i feel like people don't take to me because i'm too ugly for them to want to associate with me, and i find it impossible to understand how anyone could be attracted to me. i have a crush on a guy on my course but although we get on really well i despair as to how he could ever fancy me.

i also always want to lose weight, i am a pear-shape size 10/12 on the bottom and skinny everywhere else, but i look gross. nothing about me looks right, everything looks out of place. i spend lots of money on doing my hair, getting it highlighted really well, i buy expensive cosmetics to try and hide my hideous skin, i dress well...but sometimes i think there is no point as i am just coming across as an ugly girl trying to look good.

how can i stop this self-loathing?


Like this is pretty much exactly the same as me, the de tagging crying at pics, I try and get out of having pics taken which infuriates my friends but I cant quite get them to understand how depressed I get when i see them on facebook :/ I look in the mirror at home a lot but when Im out shopping I avoid them at all costs as just seeing myself will put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day. I also dont know how anyone would ever find me attractive like ever...
I feel similar.

Facebook is the bane of my life. I don't have an account because i don't want people seeing pictures of me. I avoid going out to bars much because everyone is snapping away and i don't want photos of me up there for everyone to see.

I've already chosen my nose surgeon and i've just spent the last 30 mins researching lower facelifts and upper bleph. I'm 19 ffs. I KNOW that i don't need a facelift. I know it's not just normal teen behaviour to think like that.

I was going to say 'go and see your doctor', but it's not something i'd ever do, so it seems somewhat hypocritical.

People have been helped though, so..
Original post by Anonymous
hey, basically i am convinced that i am pretty hideously ugly, and it's beginning to take over my life. i never thought i was pretty, but it's escalated now to the point that i can't stand having photos of me, i always untag photos of me on facebook...in fact, i have been known to cry when viewing photos that people have tagged of me, because everyone else looks normal and i just look horrible and so ugly. sounds pathetic, but that's how i feel. every day i compare myself to other people who actually look normal, and it takes me so long to get ready in the morning - i have to wear thick makeup and do my hair in a way i think suits me before even facing my housemates (i've just moved to university).

i spend ages looking in the mirror, not out of vanity but trying to look nice, but i just get disheartened by how ugly i am. i feel like people don't take to me because i'm too ugly for them to want to associate with me, and i find it impossible to understand how anyone could be attracted to me. i have a crush on a guy on my course but although we get on really well i despair as to how he could ever fancy me.

i also always want to lose weight, i am a pear-shape size 10/12 on the bottom and skinny everywhere else, but i look gross. nothing about me looks right, everything looks out of place. i spend lots of money on doing my hair, getting it highlighted really well, i buy expensive cosmetics to try and hide my hideous skin, i dress well...but sometimes i think there is no point as i am just coming across as an ugly girl trying to look good.

how can i stop this self-loathing?

I cry when I look in the mirror. I want to die so badly I feel so unattractive I am short and broad.