What Does Being Lonely Mean to You?

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When lockdown started and many people(understandably) reported feeling lonely, I've got to admit I didn't understand it. I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?

I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!

Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life. :yes:
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I never feel lonely, even without meaningful relationships. I don't really understand loneliness, tbh
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I never feel lonely, even without meaningful relationships. I don't really understand loneliness, tbh
fair enough. I think it's ingrained in humans to crave meaningful relationships generally. Probably due to it's evolutionary advantage or something.
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(Original post by Obolinda)
fair enough. I think it's ingrained in humans to crave meaningful relationships generally. Probably due to it's evolutionary advantage or something.
yeah, probably. I've always been a loner though.
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I don't get lonely often, maybe about mid mayish of last year and before that 2018, so I can't speak from the feels when I describe what it means to me, but if I had to give it a definition probably something like the inability to connect with those around you to the point where it feels like you're kind of idolising interacting with others, like a 'want' to do it, despite it not meaning much when it actually happens? Idk man
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(Original post by Obolinda)
When lockdown started and many people(understandably) reported feeling lonely, I've got to admit I didn't understand it. I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?

I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!

Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life. :yes:
This is an interesting question... I consider myself an introvert and I avoid any social interaction as much as possible. Honestly during the beginning of lockdown in 2020 I didn't have an issue much but perhaps I was more "anxious" with uni work. But recently I am feeling more "lonely" – I perceive loneliness as you said i.e. lacking meaningful relationships. More specifically, I feel there are very few people I can talk to about meaningful stuff. I'm doing graduate studies and my friends are working so they have different timings and I hardly get to talk to them as I used to.
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I don't get lonely often, maybe about mid mayish of last year and before that 2018, so I can't speak from the feels when I describe what it means to me, but if I had to give it a definition probably something like the inability to connect with those around you to the point where it feels like you're kind of idolising interacting with others, like a 'want' to do it, despite it not meaning much when it actually happens? Idk man
Thank you for sharing
I think I get that, it's feeling you can't connect with people (and wanting to be able to)?
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For me, I used to love socialising but now as I am older aged 18, I have other priorities like work and studying so I am not bothered by not seeing friends.



I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
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Thank you for sharing
I think I get that, it's feeling you can't connect with people (and wanting to be able to)?
I suppose so, I guess it kind of makes anything you do do shallow in a way. I suppose thats one way of looking at it anyway, if you were to talk about old people then I'm guessing it's a whole other feeling, because they seem to thrive off of talking to people. Must be a "don't appreciate what you have until it's gone" kind of thing?
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This is an interesting question... I consider myself an introvert and I avoid any social interaction as much as possible. Honestly during the beginning of lockdown in 2020 I didn't have an issue much but perhaps I was more "anxious" with uni work. But recently I am feeling more "lonely" – I perceive loneliness as you said i.e. lacking meaningful relationships. More specifically, I feel there are very few people I can talk to about meaningful stuff. I'm doing graduate studies and my friends are working so they have different timings and I hardly get to talk to them as I used to.
Thanks I can definitely relate to what you're saying. Is you lacking people to talk to about meaningful stuff due to you not having any relationships in which you'd feel comfortable/make sense to. Or is this something you previously had but can't anymore due to conflicting schedules. or something else?
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I don’t get lonely often. And people are concerned about me living on my own thinking I need company. I don’t. I love being on my own and I need my space
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For me, I used to love socialising but now as I am older aged 18, I have other priorities like work and studying so I am not bothered by not seeing friends.



I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
Great
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I am an introvert and I love lockdown. I do my study and work and play a lot of games and watch a lot of movies and tv shows. A lot of kpop music too. I eat my favourite foods like burgers and chips and cakes through home delivery Asda, Tesco and also Mcdonalds delivery. Lockdown is heaven for me.
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I don’t get lonely often. And people are concerned about me living on my own thinking I need company. I don’t. I love being on my own and I need my space
That's nice
when you do feel lonely is this as a result of lacking company?
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Great
Lockdown is great I like it a lot. A lot of extroverts and regular binge drinkers / party goes will struggle though
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I am an introvert and I love lockdown. I do my study and work and play a lot of games and watch a lot of movies and tv shows. A lot of kpop music too. I eat my favourite foods like burgers and chips and cakes through home delivery Asda, Tesco and also Mcdonalds delivery. Lockdown is heaven for me.
I'm glad
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That's nice
when you do feel lonely is this as a result of lacking company?
When I feel lonely, I crave being myself around someone so I miss certain people that I unfortunately can’t meet when I’m feeling that way. Not many people can fill that loneliness, only 4 people in this world.
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As an Introvert, I feel happy to be at home sometimes but I miss hangouts. I haven't gone out with friends for 4 yrs now. It really sucks. I start to feel like I am falling out with them. I don't wanna go into the same loneliness hole I suffered for almost my entire lifetime
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When I feel lonely, I crave being myself around someone so I miss certain people that I unfortunately can’t meet when I’m feeling that way. Not many people can fill that loneliness, only 4 people in this world.
I get that, thanks for sharing!
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As an Introvert, I feel happy to be at home sometimes but I miss hangouts. I haven't gone out with friends for 4 yrs now. It really sucks. I start to feel like I am falling out with them. I don't wanna go into the same loneliness hole I suffered for almost my entire lifetime
I don't know what to say, I'm really sorry.
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