Was I molested or sexually harassed?

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Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well.

When I was around 8/9 years old, my family visited my auntie's house and we stayed over for a couple of days.

One day I was upstairs and one of my aunt's sons was in his room studying (he was a medical student at the time) and he called me over to his room, and being the naive idiot I was, I went inside and he had me sat on his bed. He then opens his laptop and puts it on a porn website (bear in mind I was a kid and had no idea what sex and porn was) and I remember feeling absolutely baffled and confused at what he was watching.
He was making comments saying things like "you and that girl have the same boobs" and things like that which I found really random and weird.

Another thing he did was he would hug me from behind and he would place his hand on my breast while he hugged me from behind (as if he was trying to find an excuse to feel my boobs? Idk). At the time I didn't know this was wrong but I do remember feeling like this was odd for sure.

Obviously, now that I'm 21 years old, I know that his actions were wrong, but Idk if this was classed as molestation or sexual harassment? Or maybe it's neither. I don't know. What do you guys think?
My cousin is now a doctor and is married with 2 kids. I feel disgusting every time I think about what he did
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Definitely sounds like sexual harassment and child molestation to me. I can't believe someone like that is a doctor :mad:
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Very disturbing indeed. His actions were very deliberate, he called you to his room already knowing that he was gonna show you porn - you being a minor at the time. He that started feeling you up, probably getting aroused by it. Which is both immoral and sick - as well as taking advantage of a minor.
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Save the kids too ): someone like that dosent deserve kids
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W.T.F....
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well.

When I was around 8/9 years old, my family visited my auntie's house and we stayed over for a couple of days.

One day I was upstairs and one of my aunt's sons was in his room studying (he was a medical student at the time) and he called me over to his room, and being the naive idiot I was, I went inside and he had me sat on his bed. He then opens his laptop and puts it on a porn website (bear in mind I was a kid and had no idea what sex and porn was) and I remember feeling absolutely baffled and confused at what he was watching.
He was making comments saying things like "you and that girl have the same boobs" and things like that which I found really random and weird.

Another thing he did was he would hug me from behind and he would place his hand on my breast while he hugged me from behind (as if he was trying to find an excuse to feel my boobs? Idk). At the time I didn't know this was wrong but I do remember feeling like this was odd for sure.

Obviously, now that I'm 21 years old, I know that his actions were wrong, but Idk if this was classed as molestation or sexual harassment? Or maybe it's neither. I don't know. What do you guys think?
My cousin is now a doctor and is married with 2 kids. I feel disgusting every time I think about what he did
Classic case of horny teenager
Yeah you were molested and sexually harassed, so idk how to feel about that
He should not be a doctor or a father...
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He does not deserve the title of a doctor :mad:
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well.

When I was around 8/9 years old, my family visited my auntie's house and we stayed over for a couple of days.

One day I was upstairs and one of my aunt's sons was in his room studying (he was a medical student at the time) and he called me over to his room, and being the naive idiot I was, I went inside and he had me sat on his bed. He then opens his laptop and puts it on a porn website (bear in mind I was a kid and had no idea what sex and porn was) and I remember feeling absolutely baffled and confused at what he was watching.
He was making comments saying things like "you and that girl have the same boobs" and things like that which I found really random and weird.

Another thing he did was he would hug me from behind and he would place his hand on my breast while he hugged me from behind (as if he was trying to find an excuse to feel my boobs? Idk). At the time I didn't know this was wrong but I do remember feeling like this was odd for sure.

Obviously, now that I'm 21 years old, I know that his actions were wrong, but Idk if this was classed as molestation or sexual harassment? Or maybe it's neither. I don't know. What do you guys think?
My cousin is now a doctor and is married with 2 kids. I feel disgusting every time I think about what he did
you had boobs at 9 years old?
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They call me Pepsi
You like Jin?
Is that gay?
Probably
Can't say! ( BAEPSAE )
tf has bts got to do with anything?
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you had boobs at 9 years old?
Basically I started my period at 9, so my boobs started developing a little at the time
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He does not deserve the title of a doctor :mad:
I know... and I'm trying to get into medical school which is kinda ironic isn't it
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They call me Pepsi
You like Jin?
Is that gay?
Probably
Can't say! ( BAEPSAE )
I do not understand how BTS has anything to do with this serious matter.
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tf has bts got to do with anything?
exactly. there's a time and a place. neither is here or now
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Huh, this is gettin' heavy, can you hear the bass boom? I'm ready (Woo-hoo)
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This is absolutely sexual abuse. It is considered sexual abuse to show a child porn/sexual content.

I’m so sorry you went through that ):
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Yes it was.

I wonder how old he was at the time himself... adult or minor (teen?).

Not that that makes it excusable, not matter the age it's still wrong. There was no consent: he jus put it on and showed you... it is not appropriate. And yes, as you say that weird hug from behind to feel your boob.

It left you confused at the time but not doubt he got some sort of gratification from it.

Also, if you're feeling uncomfortable with these things now... well I am not sure what to suggest but if it plays on your mind consider speaking to a counsellor with a specialism in this area.

As a teen I went through a 'traumatic event'... though it didn't happen to me and was something completely different... at the time I didn't think I needed help but it's really affected me for years afterwards. I think I need to talk about it somehow...
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Yes it was.

I wonder how old he was at the time himself... adult or minor (teen?).

Not that that makes it excusable, not matter the age it's still wrong. There was no consent: he jus put it on and showed you... it is not appropriate. And yes, as you say that weird hug from behind to feel your boob.

It left you confused at the time but not doubt he got some sort of gratification from it.

Also, if you're feeling uncomfortable with these things now... well I am not sure what to suggest but if it plays on your mind consider speaking to a counsellor with a specialism in this area.

As a teen I went through a 'traumatic event'... though it didn't happen to me and was something completely different... at the time I didn't think I needed help but it's really affected me for years afterwards. I think I need to talk about it somehow...
I'm not sure to be exact, but I think he was either in his late teens (18+) or a young adult because he was in medical school at the time.

Yeah. thank you for the advice. I might consider speaking to someone about it. Also, I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'd say you could follow the advice you gave me and speak to a specialist as well. I hope that it will help you for sure
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