scared to ask for an adhd/ add assessment??

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hi, I'm thinking of asking my parents to get assessed for ADHD/ ADD, but I'm kind of anxious to see my GP (the last time I saw him was a few years ago, but I remember thinking that he was little a scary) and for my school to get contacted (I'm 17, so I'm still in sixth form, but I''l be 18 soon and I'll be going to university in september). I'm very quiet in college and I barely talk, and my main problem is inattentiveness and procrastination (among other things), but I don't think my teachers have even really noticed, so they might think I'm just attention-seeking and faking. I'm generally quite a reserved person, so I think the thought of me having ADHD/ ADD is going to be quite unrealistic to a lot of the people around me.

also, I only started having concerns about ADHD/ ADD during lockdown and online school, which I think makes it sound even more unbelievable, because probably nearly everyone is having trouble keeping focused and staying motivated whilst studying/ working from home, so what if they all think it's just that or that I'm overreacting? I thought it was that as well, but I've noticed that I've had some of the symptoms since I was really young.

I've also noticed that throughout all my final exam grades, I've kind of always been lucky? I definitely didn't revise enough for my GCSEs, because I was too busy procrastinating, but in most of my final exams, the very little that I did manage to revise did actually come up in the exam papers, so my final grades were better than i expected. it's horrible that the pandemic even happened, but I think that if it hadn't have caused my AS level exams to be cancelled, then those grades would have been terrible, because I barely managed to revise last year. my teacher-assessed AS grades were also somehow quite good, and I have no idea why, because most my in-class tests from last year were quite bad. I think that I've mostly just been very lucky with exam grades, so they're all pretty constant, but I'm thinking that it probably makes the idea of me having ADHD/ ADD even less believable. I would really like to get assessed if I can, but I don't want to seem like a phony or a fake if it turns out that I don't have it, and I'm embarrassed for my college and the other people around me to find out about it too.

I'm sorry that this was such a long read, I guess I just had a lot to get of my chest. any advice or info would be much appreciated!! thanks for reading (and hopefully replying)!!
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Hiya,

Don't worry at all if it's a long read, totally understandable. It seems to me that you are definitely experiencing some difficult symptoms. In terms of you being worried that it might seem fake if you don't get diagnosed, please try not to because everything you're feeling is valid whether it's ADD/ADHD or not.
I know what it's like to have a GP you don't like or one that makes you anxious, me too. Unfortunately for me, I live quite rurally so I tend to avoid them as much as possible which isn't good. However, if you just give your local surgery a call and say you'd like to move doctors/be transferred, they usually are very happy to do that. Just be honest with what you're feeling, it may be that actually you're struggling with something different but definitely seek help if you are struggling because in the long term you'll be thankful
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Hiya,

Don't worry at all if it's a long read, totally understandable. It seems to me that you are definitely experiencing some difficult symptoms. In terms of you being worried that it might seem fake if you don't get diagnosed, please try not to because everything you're feeling is valid whether it's ADD/ADHD or not.
I know what it's like to have a GP you don't like or one that makes you anxious, me too. Unfortunately for me, I live quite rurally so I tend to avoid them as much as possible which isn't good. However, if you just give your local surgery a call and say you'd like to move doctors/be transferred, they usually are very happy to do that. Just be honest with what you're feeling, it may be that actually you're struggling with something different but definitely seek help if you are struggling because in the long term you'll be thankful
thank you for replying!! I think I'll ask my parents if I can change my GP before I tell them about the ADHD/ ADD thing. I've also recently read online about how some symptoms of ADHD can overlap with other things like anxiety, so maybe it really is just something else. I've kept this to myself for such a long time, and now I think I'm finally ready to properly tell my parents, so thank you for the advice!!
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thank you for replying!! I think I'll ask my parents if I can change my GP before I tell them about the ADHD/ ADD thing. I've also recently read online about how some symptoms of ADHD can overlap with other things like anxiety, so maybe it really is just something else. I've kept this to myself for such a long time, and now I think I'm finally ready to properly tell my parents, so thank you for the advice!!
No problem at all ! It's great that you're feeling more confident to tell your parents, definitely ask them if they can change your GP as it's always better to have someone comfortable. Most GP practices have a GP specialising in mental health, so you could always ask them for that. I hope you get the help you need, it's always good to talk about these things x
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