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Im struggling to think straight. I’m 19 years old with only 8 GCSEs at grades 5-9. I dropped out of college twice due to mental health issues, however I feel better now, just lost as I feel that i lost 2 valuable years of college. I feel stuck in life and even though I know where I want to be, who I want to be, I have no idea how I’m going to get there. I have really big dreams but I have also been procrastinating a lot, struggling with my time management. I have tried to sit down and tell myself I’m doing some work, being productive, but I end up doing nothing for hours. I’ll focus on the most irrelevant part of the task to pass time. And when I try to force myself to write some things, do an application for example, nothing comes to my mind, my head hurts but I can’t get my words out.

It is also very complicated to make applications to things because nearly all professional jobs require experience or qualifications ( a levels or degree) which I don’t pursue either. I am not 100% sure what career I would like to pursue, but my dream is to be a successful entrepreneur. However, this is where I get lost. How do I get there? How do I know if this is really the path for me?
I know I love interacting with humans. I’ve worked as a customer assistant a few times and I know I loved giving customers a good experience and making sure they were satisfied. It was something that made me happy. I can be very confident (btw I’m the friend who says things when others are scared to), I can be loud or quiet, I’m very adaptable to my environment. However what confuses me is sometimes I get intimidated by some professional adults and then all of a sudden it’s like I forget who I really am and shy away. To explain this, everywhere where I feel pressure, I feel anxiety and forget everything about me. All of that aside, I like leading people, taking control of situations, being influential to them and being a positive role model really..
One of my favourite subjects in college was Marketing and Finance. This is one of the reasons I want to be an entrepreneur. On another side, I don’t know if I’m a good seller. People always tell me that you know you’re an entrepreneur when you can sell anything and everything people put in your hands, but the truth is I don’t think I could do that. I have never actually tried to but I also don’t think I know the techniques to selling or any strategies, again somewhere I would feel pressure and my mind would go blank. So if it’s not a natural talent, then could this possibly not be the career for me?
Another thing is, I’m bad at maths. I failed my Maths GCSE so I had to do Functional Maths, which I passed but only because COVID-19 stopped students from actually sitting the exams, so my predicted pass became my reality. Which quite frankly, I’m not happy about because now I didn’t actually put the efforts to learn maths. That’s something that has been affecting me quite a lot recently, I haven’t had an achievement in years now. I can’t even remember when my last achievement was, probably passing my GCSEs back in 2018. So with this, I struggle with my motivation to do things. Even when I tell myself, you just gotta get up and do things even when you don’t feel like doing them.

Lastly, my goals as of now is to try get an apprenticeship in the Marketing sector or anything relatively close. But I have also been confused as to whether I should try do an Access To Higher Education course in Business to then try go to University. Another thing I forgot to mention is, I do need to be making money as I will need to move out of mum’s house very soon.

If you read till here, thank you so much. Any advice is welcome and I hope everything I wrote made sense to you as a reader.
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Im struggling to think straight. I’m 19 years old with only 8 GCSEs at grades 5-9. I dropped out of college twice due to mental health issues, however I feel better now, just lost as I feel that i lost 2 valuable years of college. I feel stuck in life and even though I know where I want to be, who I want to be, I have no idea how I’m going to get there. I have really big dreams but I have also been procrastinating a lot, struggling with my time management. I have tried to sit down and tell myself I’m doing some work, being productive, but I end up doing nothing for hours. I’ll focus on the most irrelevant part of the task to pass time. And when I try to force myself to write some things, do an application for example, nothing comes to my mind, my head hurts but I can’t get my words out.

It is also very complicated to make applications to things because nearly all professional jobs require experience or qualifications ( a levels or degree) which I don’t pursue either. I am not 100% sure what career I would like to pursue, but my dream is to be a successful entrepreneur. However, this is where I get lost. How do I get there? How do I know if this is really the path for me?
I know I love interacting with humans. I’ve worked as a customer assistant a few times and I know I loved giving customers a good experience and making sure they were satisfied. It was something that made me happy. I can be very confident (btw I’m the friend who says things when others are scared to), I can be loud or quiet, I’m very adaptable to my environment. However what confuses me is sometimes I get intimidated by some professional adults and then all of a sudden it’s like I forget who I really am and shy away. To explain this, everywhere where I feel pressure, I feel anxiety and forget everything about me. All of that aside, I like leading people, taking control of situations, being influential to them and being a positive role model really..
One of my favourite subjects in college was Marketing and Finance. This is one of the reasons I want to be an entrepreneur. On another side, I don’t know if I’m a good seller. People always tell me that you know you’re an entrepreneur when you can sell anything and everything people put in your hands, but the truth is I don’t think I could do that. I have never actually tried to but I also don’t think I know the techniques to selling or any strategies, again somewhere I would feel pressure and my mind would go blank. So if it’s not a natural talent, then could this possibly not be the career for me?
Another thing is, I’m bad at maths. I failed my Maths GCSE so I had to do Functional Maths, which I passed but only because COVID-19 stopped students from actually sitting the exams, so my predicted pass became my reality. Which quite frankly, I’m not happy about because now I didn’t actually put the efforts to learn maths. That’s something that has been affecting me quite a lot recently, I haven’t had an achievement in years now. I can’t even remember when my last achievement was, probably passing my GCSEs back in 2018. So with this, I struggle with my motivation to do things. Even when I tell myself, you just gotta get up and do things even when you don’t feel like doing them.

Lastly, my goals as of now is to try get an apprenticeship in the Marketing sector or anything relatively close. But I have also been confused as to whether I should try do an Access To Higher Education course in Business to then try go to University. Another thing I forgot to mention is, I do need to be making money as I will need to move out of mum’s house very soon.

If you read till here, thank you so much. Any advice is welcome and I hope everything I wrote made sense to you as a reader.
Have you looked at degree apprenticeships as an alternative for uni after a higher education course? That way, you would be earning money and learning the skills you need while getting a degree at the end of it. Also, don't feel disheartened about not finishing college, always remember to adapt and work with what you have and not focus on things that could've been so that you can stay on the right track and get to where you want to be. And try not to be so hard on yourself, the fact that you're on here asking for advice and help shows that you really do care and if you're actively looking for a solution that's an achievement in itself so be proud of yourself for coming this far
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Hi Anonymous

It's good that you're reaching out for advice but unfortunately I can only help with a small amont of your post. I know nothing about careers or enterpreneurs, I am only 14 and in yr9 so I don't have a clue about what to do in that section. However, I definitely think it's good that you're a people person. You can't work with people if you don't like them like me I'm terrified of people, I have high-functioning anxiety and social anxiety so I'm awful at that sort of thing, and I would love to have your bravery to talk to people so easily and love being around them.
I don't think that having 'only' 8 GCSEs is a problem. I'm taking 7, and I've been told that's more than enough and some people are doing less than me. Besides, it only matters if you pass the subjects that are beneficial for you to persue a career in, for example for you it would be Marketing and Finance, whereas for me it would be Music. If you get a 5 or 6 in a pointless History GCSE you don't like anyway, then why worry? Just think about the subjects you want to specialise in, then it seems better.
This is a little personal question: How severe was your mental health problems? For example, did you end up in hospital? Because if that's the case, your professors/teachers will understand and shouldn't have judgement on you. The most important thing is that you've learnt to pick yourself back up. Don't bully yourself, it's not your fault, however it may seem.
As for procrastination, Covid doesn't help, let's face it. Everyone's been doing that. I'm procrastinating practice my flute, and it's pathetic, I know I need to but suddenly I realise it's about 10 at night so I can't, then feel awful and feel like I haven't achieved anything. Don't beat yourself up about it, once we're out of lockdown (8th March ) things should start to change to what we are familiar with. You'll find you get more things done, and you procrastinate less. We just need this pain of a time to pass.

I hope this helps
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To be a successful entrepreneur you don’t have to be the best in maths, as long as you know the basics then it’s fine. It’s more about risk taking and being innovative. You also don’t need to attended university to become an entrepreneur, although it may be helpful it’s definitely not necessary if you know your idea will do well.

The good thing is, is that you have GCSE’s so you can start from there. I recommend you to focus on looking into a marketing/business degree apprenticeship, instead of a access course. They are competitive, however you said you have great social skills so it won’t be that troublesome for the interviews.

The traditional college/ a levels aren’t relevant these days unless your wanting to do pursue anything in the medical field. So don’t beat yourself that you wasted 2 years, there are others who don’t even have any GCSE qualifications.
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