Are my standards too high in finding a guy?

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no, tht's the bare minimum lol
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(Original post by ANM775)
they well could be... depending on what she actually brings to the table herself
do you know anyone who wants dull, vicious and unattractive partners?
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Not too high.
Assuming that you are average or above in terms of personality, appearance and health.
My list of dating dealbreakers are a lot longer and involve a minimum 15 year age gap.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Not too high.
Assuming that you are average or above in terms of personality, appearance and health.
My list of dating dealbreakers are a lot longer and involve a minimum 15 year age gap.
I think I asked last time and you told me you're 26 if I'm not mistaken. You wouldn't date a guy who's 39 but you'd date a 41 year old? there's no difference really?
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i think you should raise your standards
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(Original post by Anonymous)
This is what I look for in a guy:
Funny
Understanding
Kind
Fairly attractive
Good at cuddling

What do you think?
obv dont lower ur standards keep looking for a guy like that

personally id say they're high but it depends on u if ur good looking, loving, smart
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I wouldn’t say so. Perhaps ‘good at cuddling’ is a bit excessive but all the other qualities I think are important in a partner
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Honestly I have higher standards so I think this is fine
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(Original post by Joleee)
i think you should raise your standards
(Original post by HS_1)
no, tht's the bare minimum lol
what's wrong with a guy who's kind, funny and attractive? lol... you guys live in a dream world if you think guys like that are the bare minimum... or I have different standards as to what counts as kind, funny and attractive Idk...
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(Original post by HumbleBee_x)
Okay i can understand good/bad kissers, but cuddling??? How can u cuddle bad? :confused:
Aggressive or clumsy cuddlers that cause pain, bruises or broken bones.
Pervy cuddlers that make a habit of inappropriately sexual cuddles that involves groping in public and may be open to doing the same thing to gf's mother/aunts/sisters/female cousins and close girl friends.
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fairly attractive in 2021 = 10ft 4 10% Intergalatic supermodel
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Aggressive or clumsy cuddlers that cause pain, bruises or broken bones.
Pervy cuddlers that make a habit of inappropriately sexual cuddles that involves groping in public and may be open to doing the same thing to gf's mother/aunts/sisters/female cousins and close girl friends.
How can someone cuddle you to the point of broken bones , lol wtf
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Among the most basic lists you could have, all sensible, I dread to think what a "less picky" list would look like. ("is male."?)
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Aggressive or clumsy cuddlers that cause pain, bruises or broken bones.
Pervy cuddlers that make a habit of inappropriately sexual cuddles that involves groping in public and may be open to doing the same thing to gf's mother/aunts/sisters/female cousins and close girl friends.
I feel like I was blind but now I see
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(Original post by _gcx)
Among the most basic lists you could have, all sensible, I dread to think what a "less picky" list would look like. ("is male."?)
I know teenage girls whose list consists literally of one thing and that is ''is hot''.
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Ridiculous. Ludicrous. You should count yourself lucky if he's human.
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(This is the OP) by fairly attractive- I don’t have a ‘type’ and I think that 90% of people are attractive in some way. For example celebrities I find attractive are obviously the usual ones people find attractive, but I also find celebrities like the young Colin firth, and Jason Statham attractive 🤷*♀️
Back in the 90s a lot of young girls in their teens & twenties found Colin Firth very attractive. He hit it big in Pride & Predudice which a lot of girls digged back then, men not so lol. I think both Colin Firth & Jason Stratham are Hollywood Actors because of their good looks. They might not be at the very top of all good looking Hollywood Actors but they are good enough looking to be there. Surfice to say even being their standard in looks that they will be way ahead of most everyday looking guys probably even the above average ones.

So I wonder if you are really looking for someone quite high on the looks level but don't realise that what you are looking for in looks is really quite high?
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what's wrong with a guy who's kind, funny and attractive? lol... you guys live in a dream world if you think guys like that are the bare minimum... or I have different standards as to what counts as kind, funny and attractive Idk...
there's nothing wrong with someone who's kind, funny and attractive; i mean who doesn't want that :dontknow:. that's literally the bare minimum tho as opposed to adding someone who is loyal/won't cheat on you, respects your body, responsible with their money, a good listener, an ambitious person, someone you share core values with, not rude to people in Asda and not a drug dealer :dontknow:
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(Original post by Gavin2016)
Back in the 90s a lot of young girls in their teens & twenties found Colin Firth very attractive. He hit it big in Pride & Predudice which a lot of girls digged back then, men not so lol. I think both Colin Firth & Jason Stratham are Hollywood Actors because of their good looks. They might not be at the very top of all good looking Hollywood Actors but they are good enough looking to be there. Surfice to say even being their standard in looks that they will be way ahead of most everyday looking guys probably even the above average ones.

So I wonder if you are really looking for someone quite high on the looks level but don't realise that what you are looking for in looks is really quite high?
As I say, I find the majority of men attractive- there’s no one I know who I’d say is unattractive
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(Original post by Joleee)
there's nothing wrong with someone who's kind, funny and attractive; i mean who doesn't want that :dontknow:. that's literally the bare minimum tho as opposed to adding someone who is loyal/won't cheat on you, respects your body, responsible with their money, a good listener, an ambitious person, someone you share core values with, not rude to people in Asda and not a drug dealer :dontknow:
Not really. Some guys aren't funny. Some guys aren't kind. Some guys aren't attractive. It's weird that you think all these traits combined in a single person is the bare minimum.

Kind includes a lot of the things you mentioned, she just used one word for them, you can't list every single trait. Kindness implies loyalty/not cheating I'd think.
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