Are my standards too high in finding a guy?

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(Original post by Mesopotamian.)
If you’re skinny, you end up poking the person with your elbow, shoulders and whatnot :dontknow:

To the OP, those standards seem fair to me.
I would love to cuddle someone but I’m boney ): so insecure
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Anonymous #9
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(Original post by Anonymous)
This is what I look for in a guy:
Funny
Understanding
Kind
Fairly attractive
Good at cuddling

What do you think?
Attractive and funny go a bit too far tbf you risk dating narcissists who aren't truly understanding

So lower your expectations!
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Dunnig Kruger
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I did. :bawling:
Refreshing isn't quite the word I'd use, doesn't convey half the trauma involved (for me or my best friend).
He forget his wallet but remembered to bring his mother.:facepalm:
Spent most of the date trying to chat up a girl at another table, while his mother was bragging at 120 decibels.
Had the audacity to ask for a second date too, apparently his mother liked me. :fangs:
My best friend cried more than I did that night, she had organised the blind date.
Indeed.

A significant proportion of men that are so unconventional that they are off all known charts are complete idiots - as per the man in your blind date.

Whilst others will be "refreshing"...

But then most men fit within the middle sections of bell shaped distribution curves and will have the characteristics that the original poster is looking for.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
This is what I look for in a guy:
Funny
Understanding
Kind
Fairly attractive
Good at cuddling

What do you think?
If you think your standards are too high, here's an exercise you could try. Think of all the traits you want in a guy (or girl for that matter) and then think of whether you have that trait or if you can match it with something as or equally desirable.

So if a guy wanted a slim, beautiful, and in shape girl, ideally he'd be in good physical shape too and takes care or his health. A girl like this would likely have a lot of options, so would be able to be picky. Or he may have to have a very successful career to make up for lack of physical shape.

So in your case, you've listed all the qualities you want. It's a question of what kind of woman a guy with those qualities would want, and whether you can offer something of equal value.
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(Original post by oglez92)
If you think your standards are too high, here's an exercise you could try. Think of all the traits you want in a guy (or girl for that matter) and then think of whether you have that trait or if you can match it with something as or equally desirable.

So if a guy wanted a slim, beautiful, and in shape girl, ideally he'd be in good physical shape too and takes care or his health. A girl like this would likely have a lot of options, so would be able to be picky. Or he may have to have a very successful career to make up for lack of physical shape.

So in your case, you've listed all the qualities you want. It's a question of what kind of woman a guy with those qualities would want, and whether you can offer something of equal value.
This is excellent advice I think for girl or guy vice versa. Often as a guy I looked at girls and admired some. However I think many girls I like (and it looked her liking me to some extent) I probably missed out on because I was unaware that I could have tried to improve in some areas, not that I think I was real bad but sometimes a few improved areas can make the difference I think. So had I worked out more to get a gym bod, etc. Bring introspective is something that can be difficult and many don't often think about much I think.
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No, you should add
- TSR 12 gems
- Oxbridge degree
- Lots of A*s in GCSEs and A-Levels
You forgot to add Oxbridge medicine degree and on at least £50,000 a year
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u think you have high standards
must be
kind
funny
loyal
caring
good with kids
can cook
cleans
educated
nice smile/smiles a lot
understanding
calm
lets me cook him huge meals
likes anime and will watch anime with me on rainy nights while eating warm ramen and wrapped around fluffy blankets
same age max 2 years older
umm there's more but i'll stop here lol
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Hellohsjakodsmka
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(Original post by xsowmix)
also add stuff his face with you with no judgement then you're set

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Why am I seeing this a month later? 🤣🤣
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I don't get it
omgggggggg
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Istg don't twist my words and make it nasty
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I meant like eat w ur bf w no shame

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I meant like eat w ur bf w no shame

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHHAHA I'm wheezing :rofl3:
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(Original post by KikiTheYeagerist)
u think you have high standards
must be
kind
funny
loyal
caring
good with kids
can cook
cleans
educated
nice smile/smiles a lot
understanding
calm
lets me cook him huge meals
likes anime and will watch anime with me on rainy nights while eating warm ramen and wrapped around fluffy blankets
same age max 2 years older
umm there's more but i'll stop here lol
Those aren't high standards at all.
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(Original post by FluffyAkitaBoy)
Those aren't high standards at all.
most guys are trash tho, where imma gonna find someone like that, i'll tell you, shouju anime.
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(Original post by KikiTheYeagerist)
most guys are trash tho, where imma gonna find someone like that, i'll tell you, shouju anime.
Apart from the anime bit which isn't high standards just kind of rare, everything else is pretty standard.
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(Original post by FluffyAkitaBoy)
Apart from the anime bit which isn't high standards just kind of rare, everything else is pretty standard.
lol ig, i could always just force whoever I'm with to watch anime with me muhahahah
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(Original post by KikiTheYeagerist)
lol ig, i could always just force whoever I'm with to watch anime with me muhahahah
Yep and many guys don't even know they like it. Made my friend watch JoJo's and ended up liking it even though he was of the AnImE aRe FoR dIrTy UhYgIeNiC WeEbS type.
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(Original post by FluffyAkitaBoy)
Yep and many guys don't even know they like it. Made my friend watch JoJo's and ended up liking it even though he was of the AnImE aRe FoR dIrTy UhYgIeNiC WeEbS type.
legit, i have converted so many people into weebs lol
and i need to catch up on jojoooo
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Who else loves Korean men 😍✋🙌 jin and taehyungie aare so cute 😍🙌
Stop. Sexualizing. Asians
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