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Uni halls as a mature student

I'm starting uni this September at 33 and have decided to live in halls for the first year just to make it nice and simple and to ensure there's plenty of opportunities to meet people and hopefully a better chance of finding people I gel with. My uni accommodation doesn't separate mature students from younger students so there's a good chance I'll end up in a flat with a load of 18/19 year olds. I hope that wouldn't be a big issue socially as generally I find most people more my age a bit boring and have quite a few friends in their early 20's. Just depends if they will mind someone my age being involved in most of what they are doing rather than ending up being pretty isolated.

I like to drink, I like to fave fun, I like going out (just maybe not every night of the week anymore!) and I'm pretty tolerant of the issues that come with sharing a flat with younger people i.e. mess/noise. But everyone say's I'm crazy to be going into halls and will regret it. I want to be living with people who know how to enjoy themselves rather than being around people who want a quiet night in every night of the week!

Any mature students had any experience of what it's really like to live with younger students or what it's like from a younger student's perspective living with an older student? I don't want to end up regretting it and being a nagging parent but at the same time I don't want to be living in a boring flat with no social life.
Reply 1
Hey there! I'm not a mature student but I live in halls right now and know of a few older students around your age who get along just fine in halls. People at university are generally friendly and will like to live with you as long as you communicate and try your best to participate. Age isn't really an issue at university ;D
Reply 2
Original post by Gillzy
Hey there! I'm not a mature student but I live in halls right now and know of a few older students around your age who get along just fine in halls. People at university are generally friendly and will like to live with you as long as you communicate and try your best to participate. Age isn't really an issue at university ;D

That's what I was hoping to hear. I just hope that's the case more often than not! I appreciate some younger students might find it a bit weird having someone my age living there and having a 33 year old at their flat party but I'm guessing that after a few weeks that wears off and everyone is seen perhaps slightly more as their uni year if anything, rather than the number of years they have been alive.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm starting uni this September at 33 and have decided to live in halls for the first year just to make it nice and simple and to ensure there's plenty of opportunities to meet people and hopefully a better chance of finding people I gel with. My uni accommodation doesn't separate mature students from younger students so there's a good chance I'll end up in a flat with a load of 18/19 year olds. I hope that wouldn't be a big issue socially as generally I find most people more my age a bit boring and have quite a few friends in their early 20's. Just depends if they will mind someone my age being involved in most of what they are doing rather than ending up being pretty isolated.

I like to drink, I like to fave fun, I like going out (just maybe not every night of the week anymore!) and I'm pretty tolerant of the issues that come with sharing a flat with younger people i.e. mess/noise. But everyone say's I'm crazy to be going into halls and will regret it. I want to be living with people who know how to enjoy themselves rather than being around people who want a quiet night in every night of the week!

Any mature students had any experience of what it's really like to live with younger students or what it's like from a younger student's perspective living with an older student? I don't want to end up regretting it and being a nagging parent but at the same time I don't want to be living in a boring flat with no social life.

Hiya!

You sound like you will be perfect for living in accommodations and like to have fun and socialise which I'm sure all of your housemates will be like too :smile: In my experience when I lived in halls there was always a real mix of ages and to me, age never really mattered!

I would recommend emailing your university, or looking online to see if there are any societies that you like the look of (and sometimes there are societies/ groups for mature students!). This will give you another way to make friends alongside those in your flat :smile: If you have a look on Facebook there are mature student groups, and you could also search here in the Student Room for any mature student threads to ask more questions and get a few more opinions!

I think all that matters is being yourself and being honest with each other. I hope you have a great time at uni!

Sam- Official Student Rep :smile:
Reply 4
Thanks. I think its a bit more nerve-wracking being a mature student moving into an environment with an overwhelming majority of younger students. That extra confidence gained from life experiences is washed away with the fear of not being accepted.
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks. I think its a bit more nerve-wracking being a mature student moving into an environment with an overwhelming majority of younger students. That extra confidence gained from life experiences is washed away with the fear of not being accepted.

It's okay!

It's comforting to know that all students feel the same. It's good to keep in mind that everyone will be feeling the same- regardless of age- in terms of settling in, making friends, feeling comfortable at uni :smile: Keep in contact with friends and family at home throughout your first few weeks as that helped me a lot, and take every opportunity you can at uni!
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks. I think its a bit more nerve-wracking being a mature student moving into an environment with an overwhelming majority of younger students. That extra confidence gained from life experiences is washed away with the fear of not being accepted.

So how are the teens treating you?
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
I'm starting uni this September at 33 and have decided to live in halls for the first year just to make it nice and simple and to ensure there's plenty of opportunities to meet people and hopefully a better chance of finding people I gel with. My uni accommodation doesn't separate mature students from younger students so there's a good chance I'll end up in a flat with a load of 18/19 year olds. I hope that wouldn't be a big issue socially as generally I find most people more my age a bit boring and have quite a few friends in their early 20's. Just depends if they will mind someone my age being involved in most of what they are doing rather than ending up being pretty isolated.

I like to drink, I like to fave fun, I like going out (just maybe not every night of the week anymore!) and I'm pretty tolerant of the issues that come with sharing a flat with younger people i.e. mess/noise. But everyone say's I'm crazy to be going into halls and will regret it. I want to be living with people who know how to enjoy themselves rather than being around people who want a quiet night in every night of the week!

Any mature students had any experience of what it's really like to live with younger students or what it's like from a younger student's perspective living with an older student? I don't want to end up regretting it and being a nagging parent but at the same time I don't want to be living in a boring flat with no social life.

8 months later on and I'm here at uni in halls full of 18/19 year olds and honestly, I'm having a great time! Everybody involves me just as much as I want to be involved. I get asked to come out drinking with them all the time. In most respects I'm treated exactly the same as anyone else. I don't mind the mess and the noise and I'm definitely seen as the one people come to for advice. I've even been included in people's plans for getting a student house next year already so I'm definitely not excluded in the whole "uni life". Anyone who's in their 20's or even early 30's, if you're tolerant, get on with younger people and know how to have a good time then go for it!
Original post by Anonymous
8 months later on and I'm here at uni in halls full of 18/19 year olds and honestly, I'm having a great time! Everybody involves me just as much as I want to be involved. I get asked to come out drinking with them all the time. In most respects I'm treated exactly the same as anyone else. I don't mind the mess and the noise and I'm definitely seen as the one people come to for advice. I've even been included in people's plans for getting a student house next year already so I'm definitely not excluded in the whole "uni life". Anyone who's in their 20's or even early 30's, if you're tolerant, get on with younger people and know how to have a good time then go for it!

That's a great post - I've read an awful lot of posts in the past three months from 'mature' students worried that no-one will want to talk to them, or they'll get treated like a 'dad' or something like that. Despite assurances that this won't happen, it's always good to hear recent evidence of this in practice, from a current student :smile:
Reply 9
Original post by Reality Check
That's a great post - I've read an awful lot of posts in the past three months from 'mature' students worried that no-one will want to talk to them, or they'll get treated like a 'dad' or something like that. Despite assurances that this won't happen, it's always good to hear recent evidence of this in practice, from a current student :smile:

I think a lot of mature students pre-uni will see younger people as very separate (and vice-versa) because in most other aspects of life, they wouldnt socialise with big groups of 18/19 year olds but when you're thrown into a world where everyone around you is going through a new experience, these younger people will naturally warm to anything they find positive about a mature student's character and the mere fact a mature student has been alive for longer or looks older really doesn't count for anything negative.

My closest friends here are all 18 and we do absolutely everything together. Most of the time we all forget that I'm 15 years older because none of us see it as an issue even worth thinking about.

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