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i'm a 16 year old girl that, more often than not, is an introvert. i really love it but that being said, i find it really difficult to talk to people irl. i'm also really insecure in my appearance, which makes it even more difficult:/. i'm not one to care about popularity, and i have my own interests (reading, writing...) that i thoroughly enjoy, but i don't know where to go from here. i love making online friends and have made quite a few but when it comes to actually maintaining a conversation irl, i really wANT TO DIE. any advice is helpful (: thank you!!!
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same but im not shy, im socially awkward. i have a few friends but they arent close, used to have a friend in primary school, but we parted ways after we went different secondary schools. i am also in a wheelchair so that might take account to why i have no friends, and i dont really stick to popular groups as i find them annoying and they are normally the type that bully me. i also feel insecure about my apperance. I think the best thing you can do is join people that have similar interests as you or find someone in ur community / culture / religion ect, to start a group with. i personally found it easier that way as you have a lot more to talk about as you have a common ground
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i'm a 16 year old girl that, more often than not, is an introvert. i really love it but that being said, i find it really difficult to talk tHio people irl. i'm also really insecure in my appearance, which makes it even more difficult:/. i'm not one to care about popularity, and i have my own interests (reading, writing...) that i thoroughly enjoy, but i don't know where to go from here. i love making online friends and have made quite a few but when it comes to actually maintaining a conversation irl, i really wANT TO DIE. any advice is helpful (: thank you!!!
Hi! I know how you feel, I'm in my first year of college and I'm in a similar situation. I have acquaintances and 'people I know' but no actual friends. It's not because I have any arguments, I'm completely drama-free! I just am an introvert, I'm not really one to go out of my way to make a friend because I really don't care if I have them or not to be honest. I've always found that when I want to talk to someone the best option is just to start talking at someone - they often end up too engaged in conversation to realise how weird it is and it makes peoples feel like you're personable?? A lot of people seem to think I'm a chatty person or someone who's easy to talk to even though I definitely don't describe myself that way!
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i was also becoming suicidal as before covid happend i constantly was getting bullied as it was easy to play around with someone that does not look exactly the same as anyone at school (if i wasnt in a wheelchair i would look like anyone else). the way i coped with this is that i join groups and stuff and i also joined my local mosque where i made some friends and also The student room!
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Okay I’m 15 female too. And I have 3 friends MAX. And they are close family but I text constantly. So I’m in the same situation. I’m really insecure about my appearance and I’m extremely shy and don’t try to make friends irl cause I’m a outcast and all my life my school friends always end up leaving me.
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Okay I’m 15 female too. And I have 3 friends MAX. And they are close family but I text constantly. So I’m in the same situation. I’m really insecure about my appearance and I’m extremely shy and don’t try to make friends irl cause I’m a outcast and all my life my school friends always end up leaving me.
if they leave u they are not real friends. i personally only make friends if i know they care about me and its not because of my background / posesions
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if they leave u they are not real friends. i personally only make friends if i know they care about me and its not because of my background / posesions
Yeah I just keep making fake friends :/ so I have up yaya
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the best way to make friends is..Just to live life! you'll get friends sooner or later, its a part of life
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i'm a 16 year old girl that, more often than not, is an introvert. i really love it but that being said, i find it really difficult to talk to people irl. i'm also really insecure in my appearance, which makes it even more difficult:/. i'm not one to care about popularity, and i have my own interests (reading, writing...) that i thoroughly enjoy, but i don't know where to go from here. i love making online friends and have made quite a few but when it comes to actually maintaining a conversation irl, i really wANT TO DIE. any advice is helpful (: thank you!!!
it's not your life if you constantly care what others think. no ones actually a boring person, everyone has their own interest, their own things that make them happy and things that make them sad. in your head you're constantly having thoughts, questions etc, they're not boring just say what you feel out loud, give your opinion and don't care about what others think that's the only way you'll truly start living your life. if your friends don't find you what you have interesting enough when you say your thoughts out loud and express your opinion, they're not your friends, you're just wasting your time. about the introverted part, that's okay too, it'd be chaotic if the whole world was full of extroverts that want to talk. as for your appearance, I don't know if you're religious but if you are, the same god that made the beautiful sunsets, the mountains etc, also made you. you may not always feel like you look good enough but that's not a problem with you, the problem is the constantly changing beauty standard in society. it's constantly changing, beauty is not fixed and cannot be defined. idk maybe you do fit into the current beauty standard but if you don't, that doesn't matter either because as I said beauty CANNOT be defined, it doesn't mean you're not good enough. honestly, if you don't have enough confidence, just fake it. when you fake your confidence, you'll make other people around you start to believe what you do, trust your reasons and be confident in you then slowly your confidence may start to develop and you'll truly feel confident. im not a psychologist or anything professional (you make alr be able to tell lmao) but it's worked for me and a lot of other people so just give it a go, you never know.

p.s. you're not the only one insecure or having trouble socialising. it's human, everyone goes through it. lmao im here writing this whole paragraph about it but even I don't always follow it. and if being slightly shy is part of your personlity, it's not wrong. when you find your real friends they'll like that about you too
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i'm a 16 year old girl that, more often than not, is an introvert. i really love it but that being said, i find it really difficult to talk to people irl. i'm also really insecure in my appearance, which makes it even more difficult:/. i'm not one to care about popularity, and i have my own interests (reading, writing...) that i thoroughly enjoy, but i don't know where to go from here. i love making online friends and have made quite a few but when it comes to actually maintaining a conversation irl, i really wANT TO DIE. any advice is helpful (: thank you!!!
hey i get u. I used to have a group of rly close friends in my gcse school, but then I changed to a private school for sixth form, and it's really not... Like i really hate it!! Last yr i really missed my old friends, and i find the people really... like different? i don't wanna b rude, so i found myself really lonely, like I don't mind it, but it makes you feel weird when you are the only one? I think it's just a necessary step in life (but i still don't enjoy that place )
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I’m an 18yr old guy with no friends
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Hey girl I recently lost my friends because of lies spread about me and I’m introverted too and I’m 16 too
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Hey girl I recently lost my friends because of lies spread about me and I’m introverted too and I’m 16 too
hi lovely !! i’m so sorry to hear about that ): some people are so horrible. they’re not friends anyway, ur better off without them ! i wish you all the best <3
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Don't worry, you seem friendly and will definitely make friends soon. Look forward to later as school isn't the world. Just be yourself, popularity isn't everything
thank you so much !! i do try to focus more on the future rather than now because school is only temporary, but it’s just a bit hard sometimes. thank u sm for ur reply!! ((:
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I’m an 18yr old guy with no friends
i guess it can sometimes just take a while to find people who will actually appreciate us for us. it’ll be okay. i wish u the best, jack !! (:
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hey i get u. I used to have a group of rly close friends in my gcse school, but then I changed to a private school for sixth form, and it's really not... Like i really hate it!! Last yr i really missed my old friends, and i find the people really... like different? i don't wanna b rude, so i found myself really lonely, like I don't mind it, but it makes you feel weird when you are the only one? I think it's just a necessary step in life (but i still don't enjoy that place )
thank u sm for replying !! i get that totally, it’s awful feeling isolated from everyone else ): i’m positive you’ll find good friends and keep in touch with ur old ones too ! wishing u the best <3
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it's not your life if you constantly care what others think. no ones actually a boring person, everyone has their own interest, their own things that make them happy and things that make them sad. in your head you're constantly having thoughts, questions etc, they're not boring just say what you feel out loud, give your opinion and don't care about what others think that's the only way you'll truly start living your life. if your friends don't find you what you have interesting enough when you say your thoughts out loud and express your opinion, they're not your friends, you're just wasting your time. about the introverted part, that's okay too, it'd be chaotic if the whole world was full of extroverts that want to talk. as for your appearance, I don't know if you're religious but if you are, the same god that made the beautiful sunsets, the mountains etc, also made you. you may not always feel like you look good enough but that's not a problem with you, the problem is the constantly changing beauty standard in society. it's constantly changing, beauty is not fixed and cannot be defined. idk maybe you do fit into the current beauty standard but if you don't, that doesn't matter either because as I said beauty CANNOT be defined, it doesn't mean you're not good enough. honestly, if you don't have enough confidence, just fake it. when you fake your confidence, you'll make other people around you start to believe what you do, trust your reasons and be confident in you then slowly your confidence may start to develop and you'll truly feel confident. im not a psychologist or anything professional (you make alr be able to tell lmao) but it's worked for me and a lot of other people so just give it a go, you never know.

p.s. you're not the only one insecure or having trouble socialising. it's human, everyone goes through it. lmao im here writing this whole paragraph about it but even I don't always follow it. and if being slightly shy is part of your personlity, it's not wrong. when you find your real friends they'll like that about you too
this really helped me. thank you so much for taking ur time to help !! i agree totally-beauty cannot be defined. it’s just difficult being bombarded with societal expectations everyday and knowing i don’t fulfil them. it’s a trivial thing in comparison to life itself, but it can be hard to deal with :// i’m gonna really try to work on my confidence and being comfortable with myself. thank you again for the help! wishing u the best (:
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same but im not shy, im socially awkward. i have a few friends but they arent close, used to have a friend in primary school, but we parted ways after we went different secondary schools. i am also in a wheelchair so that might take account to why i have no friends, and i dont really stick to popular groups as i find them annoying and they are normally the type that bully me. i also feel insecure about my apperance. I think the best thing you can do is join people that have similar interests as you or find someone in ur community / culture / religion ect, to start a group with. i personally found it easier that way as you have a lot more to talk about as you have a common ground
thank u for replying ! (: i’d say i’m more socially awkward too than shy to be honest. i’m sorry that you also feel insecure, it’s really difficult to deal with, especially when there’s hardly anyone to reassure you ://. i’m gonna work on feeling comfortable with myself so that i’m able to meet other people. i’m sure everything will turn out okay. anyway, thank u so much for ur help ((: i wish u the best !!
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this really helped me. thank you so much for taking ur time to help !! i agree totally-beauty cannot be defined. it’s just difficult being bombarded with societal expectations everyday and knowing i don’t fulfil them. it’s a trivial thing in comparison to life itself, but it can be hard to deal with :// i’m gonna really try to work on my confidence and being comfortable with myself. thank you again for the help! wishing u the best (:
nws b (: lol everyone on this thread seems so nice we can make like a sc gc w everyone here on it idk might help.
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Hi! I know how you feel, I'm in my first year of college and I'm in a similar situation. I have acquaintances and 'people I know' but no actual friends. It's not because I have any arguments, I'm completely drama-free! I just am an introvert, I'm not really one to go out of my way to make a friend because I really don't care if I have them or not to be honest. I've always found that when I want to talk to someone the best option is just to start talking at someone - they often end up too engaged in conversation to realise how weird it is and it makes peoples feel like you're personable?? A lot of people seem to think I'm a chatty person or someone who's easy to talk to even though I definitely don't describe myself that way!
i’m quite like this too !! i really enjoy being on my own as an introvert, but it’s kinda upsetting when it feels like my parents and such are expecting me to have a thriving social life (obvs not now because of covid, but u get the idea) and i don’t have anyone to actually turn to. i don’t really care about it either as people come and go, but it just feels like i’m the only one without any actual friends. but i guess things happen this way for a reason (: thank you so much for ur reply, it helped a lot. wishing u the best in college !!
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