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Idk if I'm Bisexual or Lesbian

Right so, I don't get turned on by guys much, if not, at all, watching porn of guys does not interest me, the girls always catch my eye.. i have and do like a guy but what's wrong with me? I do feel like I just want to fit in as I've been bullied for years and just wanted to feel liked and I know my feelings for this guy isn't strong. I'm so confused.
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I feel like putting a label on it might be more frustrating/ confusing than if you just went with the flow. Yes you can like this certain guy but like girls in general.
Personally I feel like labels are more beneficial for other people to understand you but puts you into a box.
However many people also like to label it to feel like they belong/ have a reason
Didn't really answer you properly but hope this helps? :smile:
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Original post by Anonymous
Right so, I don't get turned on by guys much, if not, at all, watching porn of guys does not interest me, the girls always catch my eye.. i have and do like a guy but what's wrong with me? I do feel like I just want to fit in as I've been bullied for years and just wanted to feel liked and I know my feelings for this guy isn't strong. I'm so confused.

Okay! This is what I personally think. If you don’t think your feelings are that strong, you’re most likely a lesbian. But don’t push that idea onto yourself, because that’s going to cause stress. What I have to say is look into aromantic/asexual umbrella terms. Personally, I’m lithromantic pan. But there are asexual terms that describe people who are sexually attracted to one gender and then not to the others. Also, consider abrosexuality, which is basically the label for fluid sexuality. But don’t rush to get yourself a label!
Original post by Terror15T
Ur straight I think

Bro what.
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Foxehh
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It sounds like you're unsure about guys, could you ever see yourself dating one?

Nobody here can really tell you how you feel. Dont stress a label and dont pressure yourself to figure it all out right now, you're allowed to be unsure.
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Original post by pamoche
I feel like putting a label on it might be more frustrating/ confusing than if you just went with the flow. Yes you can like this certain guy but like girls in general.
Personally I feel like labels are more beneficial for other people to understand you but puts you into a box.
However many people also like to label it to feel like they belong/ have a reason
Didn't really answer you properly but hope this helps? :smile:


This is helpful actually. :smile: I think I'm romantically interested in guys... not sure. But when I've kissed two guys it didn't feel too right. But I've kissed a girl before and woah, that made my cheeks go all red. Idk, I'm so confused and have been questioning for so so long now.
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Original post by Terror15T
Ur straight I think

I don't think so. I'm into girls, ik that bit.

Original post by menacingish
Okay! This is what I personally think. If you don’t think your feelings are that strong, you’re most likely a lesbian. But don’t push that idea onto yourself, because that’s going to cause stress. What I have to say is look into aromantic/asexual umbrella terms. Personally, I’m lithromantic pan. But there are asexual terms that describe people who are sexually attracted to one gender and then not to the others. Also, consider abrosexuality, which is basically the label for fluid sexuality. But don’t rush to get yourself a label!

Correct. I believe I'm sexually and romantically attracted to girls and kind of sexually attracted to guys, I think it's if I have a romantic connection, it works. It's so darn confusing or might be my hormones messing up.
@sy!¡ is an expert on the matter she's starred in a number of videos involving women but still claims to be straight I think she can offer you some good advice :colone:
Original post by Anonymous
I don't think so. I'm into girls, ik that bit.


Correct. I believe I'm sexually and romantically attracted to girls and kind of sexually attracted to guys, I think it's if I have a romantic connection, it works. It's so darn confusing or might be my hormones messing up.

So understandable. Don’t rush to put on some label, because not much will come out of it. I know that’s not how it works and some people do want a label, but know, your sexuality isn’t going anywhere. So when you have a romantic connection with a guy, THATS when you’re attracted to them, where with girls its attraction at any point? Correct me if I’m wrong.
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Original post by FTheOpps
@sy!¡ is an expert on the matter she's starred in a number of videos involving women but still claims to be straight I think she can offer you some good advice :colone:

was waiting for this 😂
Original post by menacingish
So understandable. Don’t rush to put on some label, because not much will come out of it. I know that’s not how it works and some people do want a label, but know, your sexuality isn’t going anywhere. So when you have a romantic connection with a guy, THATS when you’re attracted to them, where with girls its attraction at any point? Correct me if I’m wrong.

Yes, I guess so. I've liked a few girls before, so I have had romantic connections, yes. I actually would prefer dating a girl but I'm too nervous to.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes, I guess so. I've liked a few girls before, so I have had romantic connections, yes. I actually would prefer dating a girl but I'm too nervous to.

Relatively easy answer to that one. Sexuality is fluid, so it changes all the time. At this current moment, you’d have a very specific label, greysexual/demisexual homoflexible. Grey-romantic/demisexual being only attracted when very close to somebody, and the homoflexible is you being attracted to women more than men, whilst still being bi. However that’s long, boring and complicated. My full label is grey-sexual cupioromantic lithromantic lipstick lesbian if you go into depth, but nobody wants to use that. Stick with bisexual! It’s easier and more simple, whatever makes you happy though.
Original post by menacingish
Relatively easy answer to that one. Sexuality is fluid, so it changes all the time. At this current moment, you’d have a very specific label, greysexual/demisexual homoflexible. Grey-romantic/demisexual being only attracted when very close to somebody, and the homoflexible is you being attracted to women more than men, whilst still being bi. However that’s long, boring and complicated. My full label is grey-sexual cupioromantic lithromantic lipstick lesbian if you go into depth, but nobody wants to use that. Stick with bisexual! It’s easier and more simple, whatever makes you happy though.

Yes, you sound like you're correct. I'm happy with just being bi😆. I did not even know what all these names or labels meant, until you told me, well, I knew what graysexual was as I found out the other week.
I’m bi (I’m a guy). There’s a difference between romantic attraction to a sex and then sexual attraction. You said that porn with guys does not interest you yet you ‘have and do like a guy’. I’m going to guess and say you’re romantically attracted to both sexes but only sexually to girls?

For me, I’d never have a relationship with a guy but i am sexually attracted to them but I’m both sexually and romantically attracted to girls.
You are you - nothing "wrong with you" in the slightest. :smile:
Don't waste time on labels.
You are sexually attracted to individuals. Doesn't matter what their characteristics are.

They are either into you or they aren't.
If they are, yay, things can proceed.
If not, nevermind, plenty more fish in the sea.

It's that simple. Doesn't need a label.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes, you sound like you're correct. I'm happy with just being bi😆. I did not even know what all these names or labels meant, until you told me, well, I knew what graysexual was as I found out the other week.

That’s fine! Just do your own research on the asexual/aromantic labels, there’s so much there. I thought I was just weird, but there’s genuine sexualities for everything. Lithromantic is wanting a romantic relationship with somebody without being attracted, and cupioromantic is falling out of love (or in my case, desire) with somebody when they return the love. There’s so much you can find there!
Original post by Anonymous
Yes, you sound like you're correct. I'm happy with just being bi😆. I did not even know what all these names or labels meant, until you told me, well, I knew what graysexual was as I found out the other week.

But don’t panic over labels! You’re you and that’s all that matters.
Original post by menacingish
That’s fine! Just do your own research on the asexual/aromantic labels, there’s so much there. I thought I was just weird, but there’s genuine sexualities for everything. Lithromantic is wanting a romantic relationship with somebody without being attracted, and cupioromantic is falling out of love (or in my case, desire) with somebody when they return the love. There’s so much you can find there!

Thank you so so much! You've been such a great help to me :smile:. I will go and have look.... I think I just like the idea of dating a guy to look "normal" you know? But in actual fact, I don't think I'd enjoy it. My sex life wouldn't be great either. I came out to my sister yesterday as bi but I told her I like girls more. She said I should tell my mum soon.

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