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I like him. He has a girlfriend but i think he likes me.
PLEASE keep anon, i dont know if he uses this site.
Basically i met this guy on the second night in halls and we just immediately clicked. I feel so comfortable around him etc etc and i'm starting to get feelings for him. The thing is he has a girlfriend, for i think at least a year. I've met her a couple times and she is lovely but i keep getting the vibe that he likes me back. Idk, just little things really.
Like we had the "ex's" talk the other day and he asked me if id ever cheated on anyone and i asked him and he was said yeah but not on his current girlfriend but the way he said it, it was like (i cant explain it) he was unsure about it. First he said he hadnt then he changed his answer and said he wasnt sure. Which i thought was odd. He does things like kissing my cheek randomly or air-kissing right infront of my mouth. He was asking me "girl questions" like for example, "how to tell when a girl likes you." When we hug we always seem to hug for ages etc. And hes been complaining about his girlfriend to me a lot recently and other things that i can't remember right now.
I don't know. She's lovely and i don't want to break them up but i do really like him, so much so that its getting to the point that i can't bear to hear his girlfriends name being mentioned. I don't know what to do.
Basically i met this guy on the second night in halls and we just immediately clicked. I feel so comfortable around him etc etc and i'm starting to get feelings for him. The thing is he has a girlfriend, for i think at least a year. I've met her a couple times and she is lovely but i keep getting the vibe that he likes me back. Idk, just little things really.
Like we had the "ex's" talk the other day and he asked me if id ever cheated on anyone and i asked him and he was said yeah but not on his current girlfriend but the way he said it, it was like (i cant explain it) he was unsure about it. First he said he hadnt then he changed his answer and said he wasnt sure. Which i thought was odd. He does things like kissing my cheek randomly or air-kissing right infront of my mouth. He was asking me "girl questions" like for example, "how to tell when a girl likes you." When we hug we always seem to hug for ages etc. And hes been complaining about his girlfriend to me a lot recently and other things that i can't remember right now.
I don't know. She's lovely and i don't want to break them up but i do really like him, so much so that its getting to the point that i can't bear to hear his girlfriends name being mentioned. I don't know what to do.
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Don't trust him... If he can do it with you, then he can (and surely will) do it to you... If he breaks up with his girlfriend then by all means go for it, until then, you're best off steering clear...
Sounds to me like he likes you. But y'know. Don't hold me to that.
I know it's harsh, but until he does break up with the girlfriend, you cannot do a THING. If you do, you'll just get yourself a bad name and you and him may as well have just shagged right in front of her. Still just as bad.
So yeah. Sounds like he likes you, but don't do anything 'til her breaks up with her. If he doesn't... well, hate to be harsh, but move on. I know it's more difficult than that (believe me), but it's just how it is sometimes.
I know it's harsh, but until he does break up with the girlfriend, you cannot do a THING. If you do, you'll just get yourself a bad name and you and him may as well have just shagged right in front of her. Still just as bad.
So yeah. Sounds like he likes you, but don't do anything 'til her breaks up with her. If he doesn't... well, hate to be harsh, but move on. I know it's more difficult than that (believe me), but it's just how it is sometimes.
he's got a girlfriend, don't bother getting involved unless you want barrreee drama! if the guys got a girlfriend, it's probably best to wait until he actually says something straight to you before getting it into your head that he's genuinely interested on you. and if you were to get involved, he's cheated on girls before, he might cheat on his current girlfriend, would he cheat on you and would you be okay with that? prolly not!
Whatever happens, don't do anything while he's still seeing the other girl.
If he breaks up with her for you, that's a bit different.....maybe it is a genuine thing and he's not just a player. But maybe don't do anything straight after they break up (if they do) - you'd want to be sure he's not the kind of guy who just goes out with someone till something better comes along. If he decides that it's not working with his girlfriend (maybe coz he realises that he likes you) then he should break up with her whether or not something happens with you.
And besides, it'd only be polite, I think, to give the girlfriend a little time. It's so harsh to be dumped and then find out that your ex is immediately seeing somebody else.
And stop flirting with him while you know he's seeing someone!
If he breaks up with her for you, that's a bit different.....maybe it is a genuine thing and he's not just a player. But maybe don't do anything straight after they break up (if they do) - you'd want to be sure he's not the kind of guy who just goes out with someone till something better comes along. If he decides that it's not working with his girlfriend (maybe coz he realises that he likes you) then he should break up with her whether or not something happens with you.
And besides, it'd only be polite, I think, to give the girlfriend a little time. It's so harsh to be dumped and then find out that your ex is immediately seeing somebody else.
And stop flirting with him while you know he's seeing someone!
Forgot to say, there's not much really for you to do. It's kind of up to him and depends on what he does.
GingerMarshmallow
Whatever happens, don't do anything while he's still seeing the other girl.
If he breaks up with her for you, that's a bit different.....maybe it is a genuine thing and he's not just a player. But maybe don't do anything straight after they break up (if they do) - you'd want to be sure he's not the kind of guy who just goes out with someone till something better comes along. If he decides that it's not working with his girlfriend (maybe coz he realises that he likes you) then he should break up with her whether or not something happens with you.
And besides, it'd only be polite, I think, to give the girlfriend a little time. It's so harsh to be dumped and then find out that your ex is immediately seeing somebody else.
And stop flirting with him while you know he's seeing someone!
If he breaks up with her for you, that's a bit different.....maybe it is a genuine thing and he's not just a player. But maybe don't do anything straight after they break up (if they do) - you'd want to be sure he's not the kind of guy who just goes out with someone till something better comes along. If he decides that it's not working with his girlfriend (maybe coz he realises that he likes you) then he should break up with her whether or not something happens with you.
And besides, it'd only be polite, I think, to give the girlfriend a little time. It's so harsh to be dumped and then find out that your ex is immediately seeing somebody else.
And stop flirting with him while you know he's seeing someone!
I dont flirt with him really. I dont think ido. I'm rubbish at flirting, i dont flirt with anyone. He definately isn't a player. He's only had 2 real girlfriends and has only ever slept with his current girlfriend. Which makes me feel like even more of a bitch for liking him.
Anonymous
I dont flirt with him really. I dont think ido. I'm rubbish at flirting, i dont flirt with anyone. He definately isn't a player. He's only had 2 real girlfriends and has only ever slept with his current girlfriend. Which makes me feel like even more of a bitch for liking him.
I don't think you should feel like a bitch for liking him. You can't help who you like.
And you'd be surprised how much you can flirt without realising it. If you think about it, fliriting is often just being friendly, except that you know you like the person. It isn't necessarily using chat-up lines and being weirdly over the top with how you behave.
Just give it time. Like I said, I don't think there's really much you can do, it's kind of down to him.
he also has a picture of just him and i, with his arm around me as his facebook profile picture. I don't know whether this is relevent or not, but there are plenty of nicer pictures of him...
Oh, bless, you really sound like you like him a LOT.
Maybe you should try hanging out with some other people for a while until it seems clear what he's going to do about all this. You need to get your mind off him, honey.
Maybe you should try hanging out with some other people for a while until it seems clear what he's going to do about all this. You need to get your mind off him, honey.
A vaguely similar situation once happened to me. I'd been talking to a guy who had a girlfriend of two years, I started liking him a lot and he seemed to like me too. It was tearing me apart that he had a girlfriend. Suddenly, what d'ya know, they've broke up. But then he turned out to be an absolute player.
Moral of the story: him having a wandering eye suggests that his relationship may be close to the end and/or that he's a player. :yup:
Moral of the story: him having a wandering eye suggests that his relationship may be close to the end and/or that he's a player. :yup:
Anonymous
I dont flirt with him really. I dont think ido. I'm rubbish at flirting, i dont flirt with anyone. He definately isn't a player. He's only had 2 real girlfriends and has only ever slept with his current girlfriend. Which makes me feel like even more of a bitch for liking him.
Like someone else said, flirting doesn't have to be blatant and sometimes it's not even deliberate. The way I talk to some girls (most of the time with no "motive" ) could be considered flirting even though it isn't, but if there's any ambiguity about whether your relationship is anything but platonic, either you or him have probably been flirting in one way or another.
My advice to you is to take a step back for the moment. If you break up his current relationship you could cause some serious harm; even though he might complain about his girlfriend sometimes it doesn't mean it's a bad relationship, none are perfect, especially when you add the stress of living away from each other for the first time. Furthermore, if you decide to make him choose, no matter how sure you are that he'll pick you, he might not. In other words, in this situation there is a high degree of risk involved, but with a bit of patience things might work out. Hang in there, or alternatively cool things down with this guy and go for someone who's available.
update...
today i needed someone to go into town with me as i needed to get something but wasnt really sure of how to get there etc. So we walked there together and i got "the vibe" again. He complained about his girlfriend. But i didn't say anything, i actually defended her. He hugged me quite a bit then when we got back to halls i watched tv in his room and he kept resting his head on my shoulder. Oh and my lighter was resting on my crotch and he picked it off. I mean, is that crossing a line in any way? he could have just asked me for it. Keep thinking that maybe i'm just imagining all of this and that he doesnt actually like me at all. I don't even know why i like him. I didn't like him in that way at first which is why i thought it was great being such good friends with him until i suddenly saw him in a different light and now i keep liking him more and more each day. I'm racking my brains trying to think of the other signals that were blaring out to me at the time but now seem to have faded away in my memory. Like for example, he playfighted with me, and just...uh..conversations we had...which i can't remember.
I got a shock today when out of the blue he asked me if i used tsr (baring in mind that i posted this message last night). He said that he didn't but his friend was talking about it or something like that. So i think this is probably the last time ill post about this.
today i needed someone to go into town with me as i needed to get something but wasnt really sure of how to get there etc. So we walked there together and i got "the vibe" again. He complained about his girlfriend. But i didn't say anything, i actually defended her. He hugged me quite a bit then when we got back to halls i watched tv in his room and he kept resting his head on my shoulder. Oh and my lighter was resting on my crotch and he picked it off. I mean, is that crossing a line in any way? he could have just asked me for it. Keep thinking that maybe i'm just imagining all of this and that he doesnt actually like me at all. I don't even know why i like him. I didn't like him in that way at first which is why i thought it was great being such good friends with him until i suddenly saw him in a different light and now i keep liking him more and more each day. I'm racking my brains trying to think of the other signals that were blaring out to me at the time but now seem to have faded away in my memory. Like for example, he playfighted with me, and just...uh..conversations we had...which i can't remember.
I got a shock today when out of the blue he asked me if i used tsr (baring in mind that i posted this message last night). He said that he didn't but his friend was talking about it or something like that. So i think this is probably the last time ill post about this.
He's a man. You're a girl. Of course he likes you.
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