Should I try get back with my ex before uni?

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Me and my girlfriend have both said that we don’t want to do long distance at uni so we said that we would break up in a few months time but the next day we mutually decided to break up instead of our original plan of talking about it in a few months. We have six months before university, should we get back together and enjoy the next few months knowing that it will end or just leave it ? I said I would give her space so we haven’t spoken in about a week so I’m not sure what she thinks on the matter.
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Watch to all the boys I loved before : always and forever
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If you've said you're going to break up in the near future then you've kind of already broken up. But was it really an equal decision. Who initiated the idea?
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well if you're going to break up anyway is there really any point dating?
how far away are your unis? if you dont want to do long distance then maybe you dont care about each other enough, so maybe itd just be a waste of time.
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If you've said you're going to break up in the near future then you've kind of already broken up. But was it really an equal decision. Who initiated the idea?
She brought up the conversation of not wanting to do long distance at uni and then that conservation led to how we would break up before uni and I noticed she said sooner is better than later but we both agreed we would have the same conversation in a couple months and see, the next day I called her and said we should end it as I didn’t like having a deadline on the relationship. So she brought it up then I broke up with her the next day but I’m just confused on if I should have.
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well if you're going to break up anyway is there really any point dating?
how far away are your unis? if you dont want to do long distance then maybe you dont care about each other enough, so maybe itd just be a waste of time.
She’ll be at Exeter and I’ll be at imperial (if they give me an offer) or Manchester but if I didn’t get grades for Manchester I’d go to Bristol
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She’ll be at Exeter and I’ll be at imperial (if they give me an offer) or Manchester but if I didn’t get grades for Manchester I’d go to Bristol
that seems quite close ? i’ll be doing long distance from oxford to durham
is it just because u guys dont wanna go to uni still together ?
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She brought up the conversation of not wanting to do long distance at uni and then that conservation led to how we would break up before uni and I noticed she said sooner is better than later but we both agreed we would have the same conversation in a couple months and see, the next day I called her and said we should end it as I didn’t like having a deadline on the relationship. So she brought it up then I broke up with her the next day but I’m just confused on if I should have.
Sounds like she had decided to split and was looking for a way to initiate that in a 'rational' way.
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Sounds like she had decided to split and was looking for a way to initiate that in a 'rational' way.
exactly she sounds like she just wants to be single , maybe she’s not worth it OP
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that seems quite close ? i’ll be doing long distance from oxford to durham
is it just because u guys dont wanna go to uni still together ?
Ah we are just both a bit pessimistic and realise that we personally probably won’t end up dating past uni but I do think long distance is possible it’s just not for us
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Sounds like she had decided to split and was looking for a way to initiate that in a 'rational' way.
Well the reason I broke it off the next day is because from what she said it sounded like she wanted to end it but didn’t go through with it. I know how it sounds from how I’ve written it but I genuinely don’t think she wanted to just be single she just didn’t want me or her to be going to uni feeling shite from a breakup
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