How do I get out of a presentation?Watch
(fyi im 17, in sixth form, and male) So I've been in complete (COMPLETE) isolation for the past 3 months due to lockdown (I live with just my dad who is out from 5am to well after I've gone to sleep) and I go back to sixth form on Monday. I have always had very bad anxiety my entire life especially when it comes to presenting in front of a class. During the last lockdown, I had been in complete isolation for 6 months and on the first day back at school my mental health completely plummeted and I spent the day crying, self harming, couldn't eat, you get the gist. Anyways, I'm expected to do a presentation on Monday, the first day of school, and I really don't think I will be able to do it. Do you think I should not go in on monday on tuesday? The test is on wednesday so i doubt he'd make me do it then. Or should I try to email him? I don't think he'd take me seriously and I don't know how to explain it in a serious, professional way. Should I hide in the common room/ toilets for those lessons? Please help, I know it sounds childish but I just can't do it.
I get anxious a lot when it comes to presenting. I've had to do a presentation twice before and I just couldn't do it so I emailed my teachers both times about it and they've all told me that it was okay and that I didn't need to do it (which surprised me). But it wasn't something that was going to be assessed - is yours going to be assessed?. You should email your teacher/s.
In later life, you can't hide from your family (i.e. partner and children) or employer or payment of bills by hiding for a day or two. You cannot wait for your feelings to change in order to do something.
Lessons from Constructive Living which is a therapy that provides guidance to the anxious:-
Confidence comes after we have done our work and succeeded, not before.
Part of maturity is taking responsibility for what we do, no matter what we are feeling.
Continued complaining simply makes us skillful complainers.
"“Behavior wags the tail of feelings... We do, then we feel.”
Apprehension and nervousness is normal and should be accepted. It's better to do a task that is uncomfortable than wait for the right mood. Let your feelings come after actions rather than before.