my bf keeps getting thoughts of me kissing my ex

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Its not his fault but he has OCD and keeps having flashbacks of me kissing my ex and he cant sleep or eat cuz he is so hurt. Before anyone says anything he isn't toxic or anything I love him and I wanna help him that's all
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Can’t lie the best thing you can do is give him a free ‘hall pass’ to beat on tinder and he’ll come back good as new. Or trust me nothing will change till you inevitably break up and he beats someone new anyway.
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Can’t lie the best thing you can do is give him a free ‘hall pass’ to beat on tinder and he’ll come back good as new. Or trust me nothing will change till you inevitably break up and he beats someone new anyway.
I love him bro i cant
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Its not his fault but he has OCD and keeps having flashbacks of me kissing my ex and he cant sleep or eat cuz he is so hurt. Before anyone says anything he isn't toxic or anything I love him and I wanna help him that's all
You are learning that people with OCD tend to be extremely challenging people to live with.

Such people can be fine to have as friends. Even as a good friend.

As a person to live with, the challenge is very much there.

It's entirely up to you if you continue with this challenge. Or if you move on to having a boyfriend that isn't OCD.
One factor, if you want children, to bear in mind is; "What sort of father will he be?".
And would you really be happy to live with him for many years? Or would you feel sucked into and trapped by his OCD?

I can't think of anything you can say or do to get him off this kissing your ex obsession. In due time he should switch over to some other obsession. But he might at any time switch back to the kissing obsession. Because that's the way his brain works.
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You are learning that people with OCD tend to be extremely challenging people to live with.

Such people can be fine to have as friends. Even as a good friend.

As a person to live with, the challenge is very much there.

It's entirely up to you if you continue with this challenge. Or if you move on to having a boyfriend that isn't OCD.
One factor, if you want children, to bear in mind is; "What sort of father will he be?".
And would you really be happy to live with him for many years? Or would you feel sucked into and trapped by his OCD?

I can't think of anything you can say or do to get him off this kissing your ex obsession. In due time he should switch over to some other obsession. But he might at any time switch back to the kissing obsession. Because that's the way his brain works.
I have had Obessive thoughts before and I am trying to help him
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I have had Obessive thoughts before and I am trying to help him
Occasional obsessive thoughts are different than OCD. You cant 'cure it', if thats what you seem to be trying to do, ditto Dunnig.
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Its not his fault but he has OCD and keeps having flashbacks of me kissing my ex and he cant sleep or eat cuz he is so hurt. Before anyone says anything he isn't toxic or anything I love him and I wanna help him that's all
Has he talked to anyone about his thoughts? Is he getting help for his OCD? Or any medication?
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Occasional obsessive thoughts are different than OCD. You cant 'cure it', if thats what you seem to be trying to do, ditto Dunnig.
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Its not his fault but he has OCD and keeps having flashbacks of me kissing my ex and he cant sleep or eat cuz he is so hurt. Before anyone says anything he isn't toxic or anything I love him and I wanna help him that's all
Does your boyfriend know your ex ?
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Does your boyfriend know your ex ?
yh they use to be friends
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Can’t lie the best thing you can do is give him a free ‘hall pass’ to beat on tinder and he’ll come back good as new. Or trust me nothing will change till you inevitably break up and he beats someone new anyway.
WTF no, definitely not.
Op is your boyfriend getting treatment for his OCD?
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WTF no, definitely not.
Op is your boyfriend getting treatment for his OCD?
fr he ain't getting no free pass lol, but he hasn't got any treatment yet
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fr he ain't getting no free pass lol, but he hasn't got any treatment yet
You should encourage him to seek it, because until he does this will inch closer and closer toward destroying him.
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You should encourage him to seek it, because until he does this will inch closer and closer toward destroying him.
true I want him to feel better cuz he has OCD over anything but its tough now to get help cuz of lockdown
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Tell him you don’t do that, if he doesn’t believe you then that’s all on him
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