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(Original post by jademowry123)
homophobic hate
homophobic hate
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#182
(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
I think for me it's remembering that the views that you have been around are just one view and not the way that everyone thinks. A lot of religious people are not homophobic or transphobic and are even part of the community. Often people seem to choose to use their Religion as an excuse as to why they hold these homophobic and transphobic views. But remember they are just one part of society, the majority of people do not feel the same way
I think for me it's remembering that the views that you have been around are just one view and not the way that everyone thinks. A lot of religious people are not homophobic or transphobic and are even part of the community. Often people seem to choose to use their Religion as an excuse as to why they hold these homophobic and transphobic views. But remember they are just one part of society, the majority of people do not feel the same way
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Hey, I have been out since October but today I feel like I'm faking it. This normal?
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(Original post by WrenTheBest2004)
Hey, I have been out since October but today I feel like I'm faking it. This normal?
Hey, I have been out since October but today I feel like I'm faking it. This normal?
It's normal, sadly.
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#185
(Original post by WrenTheBest2004)
Hey, I have been out since October but today I feel like I'm faking it. This normal?
Hey, I have been out since October but today I feel like I'm faking it. This normal?
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(Original post by fellowweebhere)
I recently came out as bi so now I’m here (:
I recently came out as bi so now I’m here (:
do you have any questions or need any advice?
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(Original post by parmezanne)
Great news! I'm so happy you felt comfortable enough to come out
do you have any questions or need any advice?
Great news! I'm so happy you felt comfortable enough to come out
do you have any questions or need any advice?
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(Original post by fellowweebhere)
Haha I came out to everyone except my family I live with because they are strict Christian homophobic people ): and not really I’ve been fine (: ty
Haha I came out to everyone except my family I live with because they are strict Christian homophobic people ): and not really I’ve been fine (: ty
I'm glad you're feeling good.
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(Original post by parmezanne)
Well that's great news apart from the family - do you think they'd come around if you told them or is it completely out of the question for now?
I'm glad you're feeling good.
Well that's great news apart from the family - do you think they'd come around if you told them or is it completely out of the question for now?
I'm glad you're feeling good.
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(Original post by fellowweebhere)
It’s completely out of the question because i think I’d get beat for it so it’s better not to (:
It’s completely out of the question because i think I’d get beat for it so it’s better not to (:
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god you must love gay people if you think they're powerful enough to destroy the world. imagine thinking that much of anyone
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(Original post by harlz_chalamet)
No cuz this thread is so cute i love it!! <3
No cuz this thread is so cute i love it!! <3
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god you must love gay people if you think they're powerful enough to destroy the world. imagine thinking that much of anyone
god you must love gay people if you think they're powerful enough to destroy the world. imagine thinking that much of anyone
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Quite long, but bear with me; a friend of mine is worried about coming out, not because of fear of not being accepted (their family is fairly progressive) but because they aren't really traditional for their gender and so there is already a lot of speculation about their orientation (which I shouldn't need to mention they don't appreciate), so they are concerned that they would be met with a lot of 'haha I knew it!!/my 'gaydar' was right again!!!' kind of responses. I come to this thread asking, is there anything I can tell them to assuage their fears? Moreover, has anyone who is 'out' experienced this kind of thing? I would really like to support them however I can and I feel that making them feel less worried would be appreciated by them.
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(Original post by BurstingBubbles)
If you have been beaten or feel that you're in danger of being, please do speak to a trusted adult/ChildLine or, in a dangerous situation, please call the police. No parent has the right to beat their own child, it's completely illegal and never justified (this includes threats of it)
If you have been beaten or feel that you're in danger of being, please do speak to a trusted adult/ChildLine or, in a dangerous situation, please call the police. No parent has the right to beat their own child, it's completely illegal and never justified (this includes threats of it)
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Quite long, but bear with me; a friend of mine is worried about coming out, not because of fear of not being accepted (their family is fairly progressive) but because they aren't really traditional for their gender and so there is already a lot of speculation about their orientation (which I shouldn't need to mention they don't appreciate), so they are concerned that they would be met with a lot of 'haha I knew it!!/my 'gaydar' was right again!!!' kind of responses. I come to this thread asking, is there anything I can tell them to assuage their fears? Moreover, has anyone who is 'out' experienced this kind of thing? I would really like to support them however I can and I feel that making them feel less worried would be appreciated by them.
Quite long, but bear with me; a friend of mine is worried about coming out, not because of fear of not being accepted (their family is fairly progressive) but because they aren't really traditional for their gender and so there is already a lot of speculation about their orientation (which I shouldn't need to mention they don't appreciate), so they are concerned that they would be met with a lot of 'haha I knew it!!/my 'gaydar' was right again!!!' kind of responses. I come to this thread asking, is there anything I can tell them to assuage their fears? Moreover, has anyone who is 'out' experienced this kind of thing? I would really like to support them however I can and I feel that making them feel less worried would be appreciated by them.
If your friend felt comfortable with it though, they could maybe explain why they don't appreciate the comments to anyone who did say something like that? They certainly don't owe anyone an explanation, but I think some people will consider those to be throwaway comments, and won't realise the underlying problems with them.
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I've been thinking for over a year that i might be asexual . I know that to be asexual it means that you aren't attracted to people sexually but you can still be in relationships .
I am just wondering what i am because i would call someone pretty or think that they are particularly attractive but i would never date them or have sex with them .
I also think that in theory , dating is great but in practise i think it's takes a lot of energy , this leads to me not wanting to date but sometimes i have urges to date someone just for fun and not seriously for a long time .
My friends just think that i'm not ready or they just don't believe me but i really don't know any other sexualities that match me as much as this one does .
aaaaaaaaa what a mess
(Original post by BurstingBubbles)Happy to answer any suitable questions
I am just wondering what i am because i would call someone pretty or think that they are particularly attractive but i would never date them or have sex with them .
I also think that in theory , dating is great but in practise i think it's takes a lot of energy , this leads to me not wanting to date but sometimes i have urges to date someone just for fun and not seriously for a long time .
My friends just think that i'm not ready or they just don't believe me but i really don't know any other sexualities that match me as much as this one does .
aaaaaaaaa what a mess
(Original post by BurstingBubbles)Happy to answer any suitable questions
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I've been thinking for over a year that i might be asexual . I know that to be asexual it means that you aren't attracted to people sexually but you can still be in relationships .
I am just wondering what i am because i would call someone pretty or think that they are particularly attractive but i would never date them or have sex with them .
I also think that in theory , dating is great but in practise i think it's takes a lot of energy , this leads to me not wanting to date but sometimes i have urges to date someone just for fun and not seriously for a long time .
My friends just think that i'm not ready or they just don't believe me but i really don't know any other sexualities that match me as much as this one does .
aaaaaaaaa what a mess
(Original post by BurstingBubbles)Happy to answer any suitable questions
I've been thinking for over a year that i might be asexual . I know that to be asexual it means that you aren't attracted to people sexually but you can still be in relationships .
I am just wondering what i am because i would call someone pretty or think that they are particularly attractive but i would never date them or have sex with them .
I also think that in theory , dating is great but in practise i think it's takes a lot of energy , this leads to me not wanting to date but sometimes i have urges to date someone just for fun and not seriously for a long time .
My friends just think that i'm not ready or they just don't believe me but i really don't know any other sexualities that match me as much as this one does .
aaaaaaaaa what a mess
(Original post by BurstingBubbles)Happy to answer any suitable questions
I don't know if you've heard about aesthetic attraction, which is where you find that someone is 'pretty' or 'handsome', and it is distinct from romantic and sexual attraction. Of course, those who aren't asexual (allosexuals) will often experience aesthetic and sexual attraction simultaneously, but they don't necessarily need to occur at the same time. Experiencing aesthetic attraction does not mean that you cannot be asexual.
If you want to identify as asexual because you feel it fits you, then don't let anyone else put you off from doing so! Unfortunately it's very common for others to say things like 'maybe you're not ready yet' or not to believe asexuals when we describe their experiences, and this to a large degree because there a lot of people simply have not heard of this sexual orientation. As a community we are beginning to increase awareness of asexuality though, through people like Yasmin Benoit and Emi Salida.
If you have any more questions then don't hesitate to ask!
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